How to be friendly and kind

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Being kind is an important way of bringing meaning to our own lives. It also brings joy to the lives of others around us. Being kind allows us to communicate better, be more compassionate, and also to be a positive force in people’s lives. Kindness has its true source deep within you, and while some people are innately kind, it’s something that everyone can learn by choice.

How to be friendly and kind

How to be friendly and kind

How to be friendly and kind

Sandra Possing
Life Coach Expert Interview. 15 July 2020. Many people make the error of trying to be kind to others while at the same time not focusing on being kind to themselves. Some of this can stem from not liking aspects of yourself, but more often than not, it’s sourced in the inability to know yourself better. And unfortunately, when you don’t feel rock solid within yourself, your kindness to others risks falling into the deluded types of kindness described in the previous step. Or, it can lead to burn-out and disillusionment because you’ve put everyone else first.

  • Self-knowledge allows you to see what causes you pain and conflict, and enables you to embrace your contradictions and inconsistencies. It allows the space to work on things about yourself that you’re not happy with. In turn, self-knowledge helps to prevent you from projecting your negative aspects onto other people, thereby empowering you to treat other people with love and kindness. [5] X Research source Stephanie Dowrick, Choosing Happiness, p. 55, (2005), ISBN 1-74114-521 .
  • Take time to become more self-aware and use this learning to be kinder to both yourself (remembering that we all have weaknesses) and to others. In this way, your inner angst is being dealt with rather than fueling your need to project the hurt and pain.
  • Avoid viewing time taken to become more aware of your own needs and limits as an act of selfishness; far from it, it is a vital pre-condition to being able to reach out to other people with great strength and awareness.
  • Ask yourself what you think it means to be kinder to yourself. For many people, being kinder to themselves includes monitoring the chatter in your thoughts and stopping your negative thinking.

How to be friendly and kind

How to be friendly and kind

Sandra Possing
Life Coach Expert Interview. 15 July 2020. While kindness is about giving and being open to others, giving kindness returns a sense of well-being and connection to us that improves our own mental state and health.

  • Although simple, the very ability to be kind is in itself a powerful and consistent reward, a self-esteem booster. [7] X Research source Stephanie Dowrick, Choosing Happiness, p. 4, (2005), ISBN 1-74114-521

How to be friendly and kind

How to be friendly and kind

How to be friendly and kind

Sandra Possing
Life Coach Expert Interview. 15 July 2020.

  • If you’re judgmental, prone to gossip, or just always bad-mouthing the people around you, you’ll never be able to move past your reservations to be kind.
  • Being kind means giving people the benefit of the doubt instead of expecting perfection.

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I remember when I first be came a parent I was asked, “What do you hope for the most for your child?”

The answer was simple… “I want him to be kind and good.”

15 years, and 5 kids later I still want my kids to be kind and good.

Teaching our kids to be kind is becoming increasingly more difficult as the years pass. The world changes, kids change, and it seems it is harder to teach our kids to be kind.

We now not only have to teach them to be kind in person but also on the Internet. H ow do we teach our kids to be kind?

Teaching Kids to Be Kind

Teaching kids to be kind is not always easy, but there are some easy steps we can take to help them to learn to be a little kinder.

Lead By Example

The first thing we can do is lead by example and be kind to others.

When we are out and about smile at others, say hello, hold the door open for people, say please and thank you.

As we modeling kindness our kids will naturally want to be kind just like us.

Limit Teasing

Teasing always seems like such a harmless thing to do, but we must be careful when teasing. While families may love to tease each other, sometimes we need to be careful becau se some kids don’t understand it.

If your child cries or leaves the room when you tease them, then they may be feeling degraded or unsure of themselves. Teach kindness by being kind to each other and find other ways to have fun and be playful with one another, without teasing.

Teach Kids to Help One Another

To encourage kid kindness it is important to teach them to help one another, even with the smallest acts of kindness. These simple acts go a long way.

Explain to your child why you held the door open for someone else or why you helped someone with their groceries at the grocery store.

Explain that you were being kind by being helpful and explain why it is good to give even when you may not receive a thank you in return.

These random acts of kindness may be just what your child needs to see so they can emulate that behavior and be kind to others they meet.

Encourage Kindness

The last thing we can do is to encourage kindness through random acts of kindness activities. We have compiled 50 kindness activities for kids to help them practice being kind to others.

50 Ways for Kids to Be Kind

We are sharing 50 ways for kids to be kind that are easy to do and come naturally after a little while.

  1. The simple act of saying please and thank you.
  2. Point out when someone’s shoe is untied, or their backpack zipper is open.
  3. Greet your neighbors when you see them.
  4. Say hello to a classmate you don’t normally talk to
  5. Donate to your classroom library, books that you no longer read but are in good condition.
  6. Support brands that are supportive. We love Kind Snacks for this reason for their social impact and economic sustainability. #kindawesome.
  7. Print off a fun puzzle for a friend to do when they are home sick from school.
  8. Invite a schoolmate to sit on their own to join in your game.
  9. Say something nice about someone, just because.
  10. Write a small note of thanks for someone who has done you a favor.
  11. Wash the dishes or take out the garbage at home without being asked.
  12. Let your brother or sister choose the TV show to watch with the family on Friday night.
  13. Draw a picture with sidewalk chalk on the sidewalk that will brighten other people’s day.
  14. Speak up for someone that others aren’t being kind to at school.
  15. Read a story to someone who has read a story to you.
  16. Write a note to a distant relative and send it in the mail.
  17. Keep a journal and write a happy thought in it every night before bed.
  18. Bake cookies for your teacher.
  19. Wave at kids driving by on a school bus.
  20. Donate toys you no longer use to a local shelter.
  21. Thank your teacher for being patient teaching the class today.
  22. Smile at everyone.
  23. Pick up some additional food items when grocery shopping and donate to the food bank.
  24. Sit next to someone you don’t normally eat lunch with.
  25. Tell your sister/brother that you love her/him.
  26. Count to 10 in your head to avoid yelling at someone when you get angry.
  27. Ask mom/dad how her/his day went.
  28. Pick-up litter you find outside, around your house.
  29. Make an easy bird feeder to welcome birds in your yard.
  30. Forgive someone who did something you didn’t like.
  31. Hold the door for someone.
  32. Share a riddle with a fellow kid (or adult!) to cheer them up.
  33. Leave the mail carrier a thank you note.
  34. Carry an extra granola bar or Kind Snack with you to give to a homeless person you pass.
  35. Clean your room without being asked.
  36. Use kind words when speaking to others.
  37. Leave coloring books and crayons in your doctor’s waiting area for other kids to use.
  38. Volunteer at your local Humane Society to spend time socializing with the animals waiting for their new forever home.
  39. Send postcards or letters to veterans thanking them for their service.
  40. Give positive feedback in class when someone is making a presentation.
  41. Donate to the local hospital, family-friendly DVD movies or TV shows you don’t watch anymore.
  42. Rake leaves or shovel snow for an elderly neighbor.
  43. Leave kindness rocks in the park or playground.
  44. Start a compliment jar or positive memory jar for your family.
  45. Make a meditation chain for your daily positive thoughts.
  46. Start a Little Free Library outside of your house.
  47. Bring school supplies with you on your next family vacation as part of the Pack for Purpose initiative.
  48. Encourage your school to acknowledge those who are kind through simple award certificates or school announcements.
  49. Get out of bed on a school day when your parents wake you, without complaining.
  50. Give those people you care about a hug, right now.

These 50 ways for kids to be kind are so easy to do! I love teaching kids to be kind is simple and has such a positive ripple effect. Your kids can actively impact their future by encouraging kindness.

As we continue teaching kids to be kind we are making the world a better place. One random act of kindness at a ti me!

If you happen to see an act of kindness, don’t forget to send them a #kindaweseome card, a great initiative to encourage others to pass it on. What are some other ways for kids to be kind? Share ways you are teaching kids to be kind in the comments!

This article was co-authored by Connell Barrett. Connell Barrett is a Relationship Expert and the Founder and Executive Coach of Dating Transformation, his own relationship consulting business founded in 2017 and based out of New York City. Connell advises clients based on his A.C.E. Dating System: Authenticity, Clarity, and Expressiveness. He is also a dating coach with the dating app The League. His work has been featured in Cosmopolitan, The Oprah Magazine, and Today.

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If you’re a female who has a male friend, you’ll want to avoid doing anything that might remotely resemble flirting. You still want to be nice and friendly with him, so it can be a difficult balance not to send him mixed signals. If you can be friendly in non-intimate ways, set good boundaries, and take advantage of the benefits of male-female friendships, you’ll be able to successfully avoid flirting. You might also need to address any feelings your friend has for you, address sexual tension, and keep communication open.

How to be friendly and kind

How to be friendly and kind

Connell Barrett
Dating Coach Expert Interview. 24 September 2019. Be just as encouraging to your male friend as you would to your female friends. Show your support by smiling at him, giving him pep-talks, and boosting his mood.

  • Avoid complimenting his physical appearance to avoid awkwardness, confusion, or mixed signals.
  • Show your appreciation or gratitude. You could say, “Thank you so much for listening to me about that problem at school. You’re point of view was really helpful!”
  • Build up his strength when he is having difficulty. Don’t be fake or invalidate his feelings or experience, but do be honest that you think well of him and believe in him. You might say, “I hear that it’s tough for you right now. That really sucks. But just know that you’re strong and I think you’re going to make it through this.”

How to be friendly and kind

Connell Barrett
Dating Coach Expert Interview. 24 September 2019. You can still give him a goodbye hug or an innocent high five, but avoid sending mixed signals with prolonged or intimate touching. [4] X Research source

  • Avoid touching your friend’s arms or face.
  • Avoid lingering hugs with full body contact.
  • Don’t give your friend massages or shoulder rubs.
  • Avoid cuddling or putting your arm around your friend.
  • Realize that some people may be flirty without realizing it.

This article was co-authored by Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW. Kelli Miller is a Psychotherapist, Author, and TV/radio host based in Los Angeles, California. Kelli is currently in private practice and specializes in individual and couples’ relationships, depression, anxiety, sexuality, communication, parenting, and more. Kelli also facilitates groups for those struggling with alcohol and drug addiction as well as anger management groups. As an author, she received a Next Generation Indie Book Award for her book “Thriving with ADHD: A Workbook for Kids” and also wrote “Professor Kelli’s Guide to Finding a Husband”. Kelli was a host on LA Talk Radio, a relationship expert for The Examiner, and speaks globally. You can also see her work on YouTube:, Instagram @kellimillertherapy, and her website: She received her MSW (Masters of Social Work) from the University of Pennsylvania and a BA in Sociology/Health from the University of Florida.

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Being nice is often easier said than done. Getting through the day can be hard enough without having to go out of your way to smile at strangers and say “please” and “thank you.” Why do it? Do so because being nice makes people feel good and paves the way for good relationships! [1] X Expert Source

Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW
Psychotherapist Expert Interview. 11 June 2020. If that’s not enough, consider that it also helps you get what you want. People will be more inclined to help you if you’re nice to them. Read on to learn how to start being nice.

Being polite means being aware of and respecting the feelings of other people.В We may not always notice politeness but we usually notice rudeness or inconsiderate behaviour.

This page takes a step back and covers some of the fundamentals of building and maintaining relationships with others.В We provide examples of the most common behaviours that are considered polite.

Politeness can and will improve your relationships with others, help to build respect and rapport, boost your self-esteem and confidence, and improve your communication skills.

Many of the points raised on this page may seem obvious (in most cases they are common-sense) but all too often social manners are overlooked or forgotten.В Take some time to read through the following points and think about how being polite and demonstrating good social etiquette can improve your relationships with others.

It is easy to recognise when people are rude or inconsiderate but often more difficult to recognise these traits in yourself. Think carefully about the impressions you leave on others and how you can easily avoid being considered ill-mannered or ignorant.

Politeness Guidelines

You can apply the following (where appropriate) to most interactions with others – friends, colleagues, family, customers, everybody!

Always use common sense and try to behave as appropriately as possible, taking into account any cultural differences.

  1. Say hello to people – greet people appropriately, gain eye contact and smile naturally, shake hands or hug where appropriate but say hello, especially to colleagues and other people you see every day.В Be approachable.В Do not blank people just because you’re having a bad day.
  2. Take time to make some small talk – perhaps mention the weather or ask about the other person’s family or talk about something that is in the news.В Make an effort to engage in light conversation, show some interest, but don’t overdo it. Remain friendly and positive and pick up on the verbal and non-verbal signals from the other person.
  3. Try to remember things about the other person and comment appropriately – use their spouse’s name, their birthday, any significant events that have occurred (or are about to occur) in their life.В Always be mindful of others’ problems and difficult life events.
  4. Always use ‘please’ and ‘thank you’.В Make sure you thank people for their input or contribution and always include ‘please’ when asking for something. If somebody offers you something use ‘Yes please‘ or ‘No thank you‘.
  5. Praise and/or congratulate others on their achievements. Praise needs to be seen as genuine – this can be difficult if you feel jealous or angry.
  1. At work be polite and helpful to your subordinates as well as your bosses.В Respect and acknowledge the positions, roles and duties of others.
  2. Use appropriate language – be respectful of gender, race, religion, political viewpoints and other potentially controversial or difficult subjects. Do not make derogatory or potentially inflammatory comments.
  3. Learn to listen attentively – pay attention to others while they speak – do not get distracted mid-conversation and do not interrupt. (See our pages on Listening Skills for more.)
  4. Respect other people’s time.В Try to be precise and to-the-point in explanations without appearing to be rushed.
  5. Be assertive when necessary but respect the right of others to be assertive too.В (See our pages on Assertiveness for more.)
  1. Avoid gossip.В Try to have positive things to say about other people.
  2. Apologise for your mistakes.В If you say or do something that may be considered rude or embarrassing then apologise, but don’t overdo your apologies. (See our page: Apologising | Saying Sorry)
  3. Avoid jargon and vocabulary that may be difficult for others to understand – explain complex ideas or instructions carefully. Do not appear arrogant.
  4. Respect, and be prepared to listen to, the ideas and opinions of others.
  5. Dress appropriately for the situation.В Avoid wearing revealing clothing in public and avoid staring at others who are wearing revealing clothing.В Avoid being dressed too casually for the situation. (See our page: Personal Appearance)
  1. Use humour carefully.В Aim not to cause any offence and know the boundaries of appropriate language for different situations. (See our page: Developing a Sense of Humour)
  2. Practise good personal hygiene.В Wash and brush your teeth regularly, change your clothes and use deodorant. Avoid strong perfumes, after-shaves or colognes.
  3. Be punctual.В If you have arranged to meet somebody at a certain time make sure you are on time, or even a few minutes early.В If you are going to be late let the other person/people know as far in advance as you can.В Do not rely on feeble or exaggerated excuses to explain lateness.В Respect other people’s time and don’t waste it. (See our page: Time Management for more information.)
  4. Always practise good table manners. When eating around others avoid foods with strong odours, do not talk with your mouth full or chew with your mouth open, and eat quietly. В
  5. Do not pick your nose or ears, chew on your fingers or bite your fingernails in public. В Also avoid playing excessively with your hair.

Good manners cost nothing but can make a big difference to how other people feel about you, or the organisation you are representing. When you’re polite and show good manners others are more likely to be polite and courteous in return.

You can improve your face-to-face or interpersonal relationships with others in many different ways – SkillsYouNeed has numerous pages providing in-depth advice and discussion on specific topics related to interpersonal skills.

How to be friendly and kind

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Are you nice to your co-workers? Before you answer, take a moment to think about it. How often do you ask them personal questions before jumping into a request? When was the last time you spoke to the person sitting next to you about anything besides work?

After reading this New York Times article about how bosses don’t have the time to be nice to their employees at work, it got me thinking—maybe, I’m not as nice as I think I am. And by not taking the extra effort to be kind to my co-workers, I could be contributing to a negative atmosphere.

According to the article, “Rudeness and bad behavior have all grown over the last decades, particularly at work. insensitive interactions have a way of whittling away at people’s health, performance and souls.” I know I’m definitely guilty of being so caught up in my work that I sometimes barely acknowledge the conversation someone is trying to have with me—instead, I just nod along, thinking about my to-do list.

But that’s ridiculous. Because being happy at work can be just as important as your salary. And the more friendly you are with the people you see every day, the happier you’ll be.

With that in mind, here are five fast and easy ways to be nicer at work—it’s easier than you think.

1. Share a Funny Link

When you come across something online that makes you laugh, you never question sending it over to a friend. So, the next time you come across an article that makes you giggle, send it to a co-worker who you think will appreciate it. Found a perfectly hilarious GIF that sums up the office? Use your company’s internal chat system (if appropriate) to share it with the group.

2. Ask Someone How Their Night Was

Taking the time to start a conversation about someone’s personal life is a simple way to be nice. And no, you don’t have to go too in-depth and start a 30-minute conversation. But starting out with, “How did the event go last night?” or “Did you enjoy having your family in town this weekend?” is an easy way to show someone you care (and that you were listening yesterday).

3. Invite Someone to Grab Lunch With You

I know, I know—you don’t have time to sit down and eat lunch outside the office. But, let’s face it, we all need a break from work and we all must grab lunch at some point. As long as you’re going outside to get something, you might as well ask someone if he or she would like to join. Even if the person doesn’t have time to go to lunch the day you ask, you’ll still make him or her feel special by throwing the invite out there.

4. Pick Up an Extra Coffee

Very rarely do you come across co-workers who refuse a caffeine fix. Whether it’s on your way into the office in the morning or during a quick work break, pick up an extra coffee (or tea, or whatever else your office likes) for someone. Not only will this brighten the person’s day, but if he or she pays it forward, it’ll start a chain of positivity in the office.

Bonus: Caffeine has been known to do wonders for your professional life.

5. Give Someone a Compliment

One of the biggest complaints people have about their jobs is that they feel underappreciated. We’ve all been there, and we all know it’s not a fun place to be—so challenge yourself to pay compliments to your co-workers regularly. Maybe someone did a great job on the latest project proposal, or maybe a co-worker landed an incredible sale. All you have to do is shoot over a quick email that says, “Hey! Just wanted to let you know that your pitch was really creative, and I’m excited to see how the company moves forward with it.” (If you need help coming up with a compliment, check out how to show thanks in any professional situation.)

See, it’s not that hard or time-consuming to be nicer at work. But, in case you need more convincing, know that research has found that being nice to your colleagues reaps more benefits than you may think.

How You Can Teach Kids to Be Kind to Others (and Why You Should)

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How to be friendly and kind

“Can you believe what she’s wearing?” “Don’t you think he’s fat?” “Why would anyone want to be friends with her?” “He’s ugly.”

Comments like these—or worse—are not uncommon among children, or even with adults. We now live in an age where photos and posts online can garner nearly instant and anonymous comments from total strangers and acquaintances alike. These reactions can be rude, hurtful, and even malicious. It is more important than ever that parents teach children to be kind to others.

Why We Need More Kindness

Today, judging others seems to be an activity practiced by far too many people.   It’s all too easy to post comments about other people, whether they’re celebrities or ordinary, everyday citizens. Unkindness isn’t new; humans have been cruel to each other for thousands of years.   But today the ease, speed, and anonymity with which people can pass judgments and criticism onto others is unprecedented. Kids who are at the forefront of tech and social networking are learning from what they see around them.  

Children also tend not to be able to see the bigger picture. Because young children usually focus on what’s right in front of them and tend to not think too far ahead, they may not realize the full effects of what behaviors like meanness, exclusion, or bullying can have on other kids. And kids are naturally self-centered, which means that they aren’t always able to put themselves in someone else’s shoes or make a conscious effort to think about how someone else might feel.   That does not mean, however, that kids are naturally unkind.

Kids are hard-wired to have empathy for others and want to help.   Parents, caregivers, and teachers can take advantage of these natural instincts that we’re all born with and encourage kids to practice kindness in their everyday lives.​

Ways Parents Can Encourage Kindness in Kids

To nurture kindness in kids, try incorporating some of these practices into your daily routines.

1. Do Unto Others

Young children need reminders about trying to put themselves in someone else’s shoes. Ask your child to try to remember to think before saying something about someone and to take the time to consider how they might feel if someone said it to them. How would they feel if they found out that someone was making fun of their dress or criticizing them for not doing a math problem fast enough? Would they want someone to praise them for trying or to put them down for not doing something right? Would they want someone to compliment them on something they do well or would they want someone to make fun of them? Teaching empathy is a key part of teaching kids kindness.  

2. If You Cannot Say Something Nice…

The adage about saying nothing at all if you don’t have something nice to say about someone is a good lesson in kindness to teach kids. Teach your child to get into the habit of saying only positive things—the sort of things that will make someone feel good rather than sad. Teach them to hold their tongue when they have a negative opinion about something. For example, if their friend asks them whether they like a drawing they did and they didn’t like it, they can practice finding something positive about it. “I liked the colors you used,” or “You made a nice, big house” or something similar is great. They should not mention what they did not like about it. Another example: If a classmate isn’t very good at sports, your child can offer encouragement and praise the classmate for trying.  

3. Kind Words and Smiles

It’s also a good idea to get kids into the habit of being friendly and finding something nice to say to someone.   (That said, a child should know the basics of how to protect themself from stranger and acquaintance danger and should know what to do if they ever get lost.) Let your child see you tell the checkout person at the supermarket to have a nice day, thank a waiter for serving you, or compliment a neighbor on the hard work they did in their garden.

Be a good role model and try to be nice to people you interact with throughout the day. Be the behavior you want to see in your child.

4. Thank You, Please, and More

Teaching good manners, such as being respectful to others, greeting people properly, and speaking to people in a polite way, is also an important part of raising a kind child. And since you live with your children, you’ll reap the benefits of having pleasant and nice individuals growing up in your home.

5. Guard Against Spoiling

Kind children are also children who are charitable, who know that their parents cannot buy everything they want for them (and understand why they should not get everything they want), and are patient, thankful, and have self-control. If you want to teach kids kindness, make sure you don’t spoil your kids.  

6. Bullying and Cyberbullying

Be very aware of the dangers of cyberbullying, both by being vigilant about what your child sees and reads online as well as by keeping close tabs on what they are writing and sharing. Learn about bullying and what to do to prevent and stop bullying.  

7. Be Nice to Your Child

Even when you’re tired and frustrated—specially when you’re tired and frustrated—try to speak in a kind way to your child. Discipline with love, support them when they are down, and as always, be kind.  

8. Kindness Is Contagious

Similarly, kids who may not naturally be inclined to bullying others or being mean may join in when others are doing it. If your child can set an example of kindness, it too may spread to their social group.  

9. Being Kind Makes Kids Feel Good

When you encourage kindness in your child, they will feel better not only about the world they live in but also about themself. That’s the thing about raising a good child who is kind: not only will kindness lift up your child and the others around them, it will help them grow to be a happy and loving person.  

How to be friendly and kind

Do you find it challenging to be kind? Maybe in certain circumstances compared to others? When we express authentic kindness to a friend, co-worker or even stranger, we project that version of ourselves that others will likely remember. Think about how it felt the last time you received a kind gesture. Then, think about how amazing it would be if the feeling was spread the world over.

Here are 10 ways to be more kind:

1. When you believe in someone, tell them directly. Convey your support to them.

Let’s say we all supported and believed in the ability of our friends and family to do amazing things. Put another way, think about how your support could drive even one person to achieve things greater than themselves. Imagine how much the world could benefit. Quite simply, a lot more.

2. Consider kindness before you speak.

When we may have something in our minds to say about someone and it isn’t kind, remember to choose kindness before speaking. It is not a sign of weakness to choose kindness. It is a sign of heart.

3. Spread kindness that you have received.

When we receive kindness, we may feel special about ourselves. If you can, in some way or another, continue to spread the kindness that you have received. It would be a great way to pay it forward.

4. Be mindful of how you treat others.

Considering our closest relationships, as well as our acquaintances and others who we don’t see regularly, it is important to be mindful of how we treat others because of the impact it can have. Truly being considerate can go a long way with many friendships and relationships.

5. Don’t discriminate who to be kind to.

As we all know, each of us is facing a challenge, whether seen or unseen. Don’t discriminate who to be kind to, despite differences.

6. Set an example.

What better of a role model to someone else than someone who is frankly, always kind. Try to set an example. Without role models who are kind, there would be less kindness to spread around.

7. Practice good intentions.

When you say something nice to someone else, remember your intention counts as well. Try to carry good intentions with displays of kindness. Kindness and good intention usually come hand in hand, but in the few cases where they could not be aligned, try to practice good intentions, like not expecting anything in return for your gesture or compliment.

8. Feel good about it.

If you have a tougher time showing kindness, try and remember to feel good about showing this side of you. When you feel good, the act will come more regularly and spread more positivity within you.

9. Reach out when it is less likely others will.

If you feel like an act of kindness might be going against the grain, try to be the first to show the niceness. It will likely be as rewarding in return.

10. Try to be kind every day.

When in doubt, be kind as often as possible, hopefully every day so that you can reap the rewards in terms of your quality of relationships and just pure satisfaction that you have spread joy to another person’s life.

In all, try these 10 ways to be more kind. No doubt you might still have difficulties or challenges that come your way, but with the joy of spreading kindness, your mind and heart can benefit and you can feel satisfied more often. Enjoy!