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21 Ways to Touch Her
In my last article we covered the basics of how to touch a woman. While all of that knowledge is useful, none of it means anything if you can’t put it into action.
When I work with guys that have trouble getting physical, one problem always comes up: “There wasn’t a good moment or opportunity when I could’ve touched her.” There never seems to be a good time to make a move. But is that really true?
Usually, the issue is that you haven’t seized the moment to create a physical connection. Start with the small gestures and escalate progressively to intimate touching. Remember that the more personal you get, the more chemistry, attraction, and trust she will need to be comfortable.
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Low Level Touching
- When introducing yourself, shake hands and hold hers for an extra second.
- Give her a high-five in excitement.
- Gently touch her elbow to emphasize your points.
- If she’s going outside with you, you can grab her coat and help her put it on.
- Touch her shoulder when she is opening up and sharing something with you.
- When saying goodbye, give her a hug.
Medium Level Touching
- Stand close to her and let your arms touch.
- When leading her to the bar or to grab a seat, hold her hand or guide her with your hand on the small of her back.
- Stand to her side, lean close to her, and whisper into her ear.
- Rest your thigh against hers when sitting next to her.
- As she laughs at something you said, say something like “You’re so cute/adorable/such a dork” while placing your hand on her stomach and playfully push her.
High Level Touching
- Play footsie under the table if sitting across from her.
- Place your hand on her thigh when sitting next to her.
- Brush a lock of hair off her face and around her ear.
- While standing close, lean into her and smell from the base or her neck to her ear. You can say something like “Damn, you smell amazing.”
- When talking, lightly play with her hand or fingers.
- Run your fingers through her hair while looking in her eyes.
- Grab her around the waist and pull her hip against yours. You can also pull her directly towards you and have your waists touching.
- Touch a necklace she’s wearing while brushing your fingers on her neck.
- While sitting close, run your fingers toward her inner thigh under the table. Continue talking casually. Getting more intimate while keeping your cool will drive her wild.
- Pause during conversation, look deeply in her eyes, and kiss her.
The biggest difference between a friend and a romantic partner is physical intimacy. So if you ever want more than friendship, you’re going to have to bite the bullet and touch her. You might as well start now.
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How to Touch a Girl
Touching releases the chemical Oxytocin, a powerful bonding hormone that makes her feel connected and trust you. A woman must be comfortable with your touch in order for her to sleep with you. Learning how to touch a girl to make her want you is essential! My name is Matt Artisan and here are 7 Ways To Touch A Girl To Make Her Want You!
Download the Escalation Cheat Sheet for more on what to say to take things to the next level!
Before I get into the demonstrations. There are 3 crucial tips you must know.
3 Touching Tips to keep in mind:
#1. Always Make Sure She is Comfortable
Never do anything she’s not comfortable with. If she doesn’t seem comfortable then stop right away. But don’t be too afraid either. Now there is definitely a time for a gentle touch but there’s also a time to use stronger touch so she can get turned on by your masculinity. (Never be agressive though!)
I can just see all the comments now… “So you are saying to push her and force yourself on her?” NO numbnuts! I’m saying don’t be afraid to shake her hand like a man, women hate a limp fish. Don’t be afraid to give her a good bear hug! Most guys do the lame “ pat on the back .”
Be powerful without overpowering her. Be dominant, without being domineering.
#2. Break The Touch Barrier – Don’t wait too long
Break the touch barrier sooner than later. If you wait too long, then that first touch will seem awkward and weird. So make sure to touch her when you first meet.
For example: During the day usually, a handshake, and/or a kiss on the cheek might be appropriate. At a bar, you might give her a high-five or put your arm around her. On a date, you would give her a hug when you greet her.
#3. Don’t Let It Linger:
Make sure to take it away at first. Touching releases the bonding hormone Oxytocin, and that’s why it feels good. But if you let it linger, that feel good vibe will soon turn into a creepy one.
A good rule to keep in mind in advancing your touch is: “Two Steps Forward, One Step Back”
Remember that if you keep putting on the gas, then she will eventually put on the brakes.
- Put your arm around her and tell her you like her, and then turning away from her.
- Kissing her and ending the tongue wrestling before she does and saying, “That’s all you get, no more for you.”
- “I would so throw you against the wall and have my way with you right now. Too bad there are all these people here.”
….Okay now let’s get to the 7 ways to touch her:
Using your hands as you talk and touching her arm, shoulder or hand to emphasize a point. Example: “And you won’t believe what happened next” as you touch her arm for emphasis. Touch her waist, which is a very sensual spot of her body, as you lean in to tell her something.
Touch her hair, nails, or something she’s wearing and make a comment about it. Example: “Wow those are some interesting nails” as you hold her hands and examine them. Complementing her figure works as well, just like how women use “ have you been working out?” as an excuse to touch your biceps. You can say the same line as you touch her abs. “Wow, you are so fit” “Flex your arm” Make sure she has a flat stomach before you do this. Pinching her belly flab won’t be such a turn on.
While leading her from one place to the next you can hold her hand, go arm-in-arm or place your hand on her lower back.
Fix something about her like her clothing, hair or posture. Example: “Hold on let me fix your shirt. Okay there, much better.”
If you are at a bar or on a date you can play a Fun game like thumb wrestling or slap hands
When she does or says something you like, simply reward her with a hug, high-five or kiss. Example: “Nice, high-five!”
Where she just knows that you are really attracted to her so you make your move. You typically need a higher level of attraction and compliance for this to work.
There you have it, 7 ways to touch more without being creepy so you can release some Oxytocin, deepen your connection and lead things to a more intimate level!
Now if you just want to be better with women we created a “ Free Escalation Cheat Sheet ” that lists out some of our best ways to spark sensual tension, turn a girl on, and the relationship to a more intimate level.
It’s filled with Advanced Escalation Techniques that will help you turn a platonic – friendly interaction, into a more sensual – “I want to rip your clothes off” vibe.
This is very useful when you’re talking to a girl but it’s going nowhere.
Download the Escalation Cheat Sheet for more on what to say to take things to the next level!
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Matt Artisan is considered one of the World’s Top Dating & Attraction Coaches.
For the last 5 years Matt has personally conducted Live Trainings and Workshops in over 36 countries, helping thousands of men all of the world build confidence and succeed with women.
He has been interviewed by ABC and featured on MTV.
Pleasant Touch is one of the most attractive traits a man can have for a woman.
It’s not even something they think about consciously, but if they feel you touch them and it’s not pleasant, you are done.
Proper touch can make Attraction Blow through the Roof as much as it can Instantly kill it.
A man who knows How to Touch a Woman is a Blessing!
In Badboy Lifestyle we use touch A LOT!
Because we know how to touch a woman in a way that feels pleasant and it gives us the extra points.
Moreover, most of our opening moves have initial touch in them.
That’s simply using the touch to create a Kickass First Impressions 🙂
The touch I am talking about here is mostly for Cold Approaches & Dates.
When it comes to skills in bed, we are not going to talk about it in this article… We may publish some article on the subject in the future, and you can also find a lot of information about it in our special Have Sex Like a Pro Course here.
Step 1: Control Your State
You will notice me talking about this a lot because it’s really important.
Controlling your state is a Skill EVERY PLAYER MUST HAVE!
Being Grounded and Calm, Controlling Your Emotions, It’s one of the key points for masculinity.
Girls are not looking for much like you might have thought.
All they want is a Masculine Man. That’s It.
They are attracted to money, abs, status, JUST BECAUSE they demonstrate masculinity.
However, a Calm & Controlled “James Bondish” Man VS Some Rich Kid With Nice abs?
The Man will win Anyday. Guaranteed.
I am not going to dig deep into how to control your state since I already went over it in this blog post.
Also, you can find a lot of information about it on my Instructor’spage (link down in My Author Bio).
I will, However, Explain to you WHY it’s so important to control your state to create a pleasant touch.
See, your palms deliver TONS of Emotional Information.
If you are turned on by a girl and you touch her with your palm, she’ll feel it.
If you are nervous, she will catch up on that too.
You touch creates an intense exchange of emotional information between you and the girl.
When you know what you do you can feel the small micro calibration of muscles, both yours and hers, and learn to calibrate accordingly.
If her body reacts good to you, you’ll feel it, if you do the exercise you’ll get in this post 🙂
So make sure you feel fully calm when you touch a girl, if you’re too nervous, calm down first because she will figure this out VERY FAST!
Step 2: The Rules of Touch
There are few rules you want to keep in mind to make your touch as pleasant as possible:
1. Wherever you touch, make share your palm fits the area perfectly –
You want the girl to feel as if your hand and her shoulder/leg/arm/neck/whatever were meant to be.
Literally. Make your palm fit the area you touch perfectly. Keep the pressure equal on all spots of the touch.
2. Fingers are Cancelled –
Fingers Deliver by far the most pressure so you want to be gentle with them.
At first, you’ll have to go very soft on the fingers side to not create uneven pressure which puts the whole touch out of balance.
3. Make it Firm & Gentle at the same time –
it’s a matter of balance.
The touch needs to feel firm enough so she feels that a real man is holding onto her, that if she falls he can hold her up (when holding her waist for example).
Yet, you are not supposed to grab her as if her life depends on it.
Keep it gentle enough so she will feel comfortable with it.
4. Keep The Touch Going –
I saw tons of guys doing this “touch/untouch” game.
Unless it was for calibrating (which mostly isn’t the case), doing this is literally BREAKING YOUR FRAME over and over again.
When you touch, keep it there.
If she’s not comfortable, recalibrate, but if she is, the more the better!
Step 3: Exercise
I will give you a very simple exercise to practice this.
You have to practice this, that’s the only way of truly understanding this material.
This is Some Hands-On Knowledge You have to teach your body, not mind!
Grab a friend of yours, and touch him.
On his knee, shoulders, arm, whatever.
Ask him to rate your touch on a scale of 1-10.
Then, start playing with it.
Learn how 10 feels like, and how his body reacts to 10.
Go from 10 to 7. to 3. to 5. to 8.
See How smoothly can you control the pleasantness of your touch.
Do it using the knowledge I shared with you above!
Life is to short to keep things in your mind…
Let The World Feel IT!
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When it comes to sexual gratification, there are some special male body parts women should know about. Well, these passion points are the ones which men might not even know about. Those “hot spots” are loaded with supersensitive nerve endings which immediately rev men up upon stimulated. Check out the following article, made by Wikiyeah.com, to know where to touch a man to turn him on and some stroke and squeeze techniques which end him into overdrive.
Where To Touch A Man Like A Pro
1. Lower Lip’s Outside
Well, for most people, the mouth is a hot zone. However, the outside of the lower lip as well as chin is the place bringing ultraintense bliss to the kisser. This delicate, tiny curve is jam packed with extra-sensitive nerve receptors. The technique you can use to take advantage of this special spot is sucking the lower lip of your man into your mouth whilst making out. Use your tongue to stroke a few millimeters below that spot. This move will stimulate the erogenous area of him, putting him on the erotic edge. If you keep his lower lip within yours, you are magnifying the sensation.
2. The Front Of His Neck
To answer where to touch a man to turn him on, think of the front area of his neck. The butterfly-shape gland down his neck’s front area, also known as thyroid, is connected with sexual organs.
To stimulate this part, you can have him lie on his back with the pillow plumped behind the head so the neck will be exposed and arched forward. Then, you gently warm him up by brushing your own wet lips against his throat hollow. Dip down and stop there to start massaging that area in a circular motion using your tongue. Teasing him that way will excite his thyroid, maximizing his pleasure and making him go crazy over you.
3. The Nipples
Female nipples are the center of carnal command. However, the headlights of men may be more sensitive, according to experts. It is because most men are not used to having these areas nourished with attention. For many men, their nipples are considered uncharted area – an erogenous area which they have not experimented with. You can lick his nipples in a circular motion, starting from outside of his areola and then moving closer toward his nipples. Later, rapidly flick his nipples and gently bite it. The steadily built-up pressure will send stimulation to him.