Welcome to the Sarah and Amanda school of Crossdressing
I know what your thinking, but just give me a few minutes to explain how having a boyfriend that can crossdress, could be the best thing for you both.
2. You will have a friend that you can count on when you go out.
3. She/he will always be there to watch out for you.
4. Think of the vacations you can spend together.
5. Dont get me started on the best sex you’ll ever have.
Im going to show you some of the success stories then you can decide for yourself.
This one took less than three weeks, they now share a happy life and she has doubled her wardrobe, and got her now husband to build an extension for all the clothes they share, (He wore a tux for the wedding by the way)
Here are a couple of step by step transformations.
Sam to Samantha, and ladies he did all his own make up.
It can take years off your husband/boyfriend.
Doesnt she look younger than her male counterpart?
There is a very small charge of between $3,000-$10,000
Depending on how far you would like your husband/boyfriend to be transformed
John could never break into top management, but since his transformation
he has been offered the C.E.O. position of a major corporation.
(He has asked to remain anonymous, so if you recognize him
please keep it to yourself)
And here is our latest transformation
he had no idea until it was too late.
So here he is, from Bernie to Bernice in 7 easy parts.
If you would like to be transformed, or have your husband/boyfriend transformed
Please leave your name in the comments section below
In early December of 2016, I began an experiment. I wanted to find out whether transitioning from male to female would cure my depression. With support from my therapist, I found a doctor and began a regimen of testosterone blockers and estrogen. A month later, blood work showed my levels of both hormones were solidly within the natal female range.
It was surprisingly easy to do this. Onc e I got past many months of agonizing over a course of action, and then a few more weeks just working up the courage to make a phone call, it was only a matter of going to the clinic, discussing the medical implications of treatment, and signing a form saying I understood what I was doing. A blood test and a trip to the pharmacy later, I had the pills in hand.
The thing I noticed immediately was that nothing was immediately noticeable. I didn’t feel the sudden calm or rightness that many transgender people say they feel when their brains are operating on the correct hormones. I didn’t feel anything at all aside from eagerness and curiosity. At least, not right away.
Aside from not curing my depression, feminizing hormones have been everything I hoped for. Breast growth began in the first month, sooner than expected, and as of today they’re large enough to cup in my hands. I could probably still get away with going shirtless at the beach, but just barely. They jiggle painfully when I walk down stairs. Other than being anxious about hiding them, I’m okay with having breasts.
My skin is softer, I think. Softness isn’t exactly something you can measure, so this may just be a placebo effect, but it seems like the veins on my legs and forearms are less visible. I got carded when buying alcohol for the first time in years. Then it happened again the next day. I’m 36 years old.
My hair is growing back. I didn’t expect this at all (in fact, the consent form specifically says not to get your hopes up), but there’s now a half-inch of light fuzz where my scalp was once visible on the top and back of my head. Unfortunately, the receding hairline in front isn’t doing so well. It’s crept back forward a little bit, but my hairline has been slowly receding since high school, so I assumed it was too far gone to recover. So be it.
The most unexpected thing, and maybe the most welcome, is that I smell better. I can now go 2 or 3 days between showers and not notice. Before, my hair would get really greasy, so I would have to wash it every morning even if I took a shower the night before, otherwise it would start looking stringy and gross before the end of the work day. Now I just wash it when I shower and it’s fine.
The biggest change has been to my libido. It’s tanked. Erections don’t happen anymore unless I try to make it happen, which I don’t do nearly as often as I used to, and even then it takes more effort than before. I’m conflicted on this development. On the one hand, I’m worried about my relationship with my wife. On the other hand, for my entire life these feelings have been linked to sex and I thought of them as a fetish, but now the dysphoria is still there even though I’m not aroused. This is valuable intel that I’m taking into consideration for my next course of action.
A few weeks ago, I went back to the doctor for a 3-month follow-up visit. She asked how things were going and I told her that I was having doubts. The experiment hadn’t produced any solid results. There was no sense of clarity, no answers to the question I was asking. I said it felt pointless to take feminizing hormones, even if I did like their effects, since I wasn’t going to transition. She tried to hide a light smirk and said something to the effect of “I think you are.”
It was an off-handed comment that I ignored at first, but then later asked her to elaborate on what she meant. She talked about the different components of gender transition: social, medical, and surgical. I may not be dressing publicly in women’s clothes or asking people to recognize me as female, and I certainly don’t have any surgeries planned, but medical transition is just hormone therapy, which I’m now months into. Therefore, I am medically transitioning. Her argument was logical, but I still resisted it.
She also talked about how social support and self-acceptance would help the depression more than any chemicals would. I resisted that advice too.
By the end of the visit I’d decided to stay on the testosterone blockers and to lower the estrogen dosage to see if that slows breast growth. I also got a prescription for an anti-depressant.
My plan when I started all this was to try hormone therapy for 3–6 months and see how it felt, then switch off that and try an anti-depressant for a few months so I could compare them and see which is more effective. I was and am not convinced that gender dysphoria is the primary cause of my depression. This experiment was meant to provide information to help parse out just how much of a factor it is.
Now, having been on female hormones for nearly 4 months, I realize that the thought of going off them is vaguely terrifying. I like the effect they’re having on my body. There are moments of doubt, and a few of those moments have manifested as intense anxiety that makes me hate everything I’m doing, but on most days I know that these are positive changes. It feels like progress.
I’ve added the anti-depressant to my worryingly large collection of medication, though it’s too early to know what effect it will have. If there’s an obvious improvement in my mood, I might still decide that hormones are an unnecessary treatment, but that seems unlikely.
What I’m hoping, though I still have trouble admitting it to myself, is that the anti-depressant will reset my brain chemistry back to pre-depression levels where I felt motivated and occasionally happy. Then I can stop taking it and focus on using hormones not as a depression treatment, but for their intended purpose: to keep the gender dysphoria at bay. And maybe, in some future I can’t envision yet, actually cure it.
For those starting out on this journey of discovery and delight, we have some basic tips that any beginner CD/ TG should know. It’s important to concentrate on ease and cost-effective purchases at the beginning of your femme adventure. You don’t want to overwhelm yourself or feel like you wasted your money on something luxurious that you don’t properly know how to use or style yet. So, to ensure you have a pleasurable experience, start with buying the basics first. This article will concentrate on:
Basic Shaping Garments
Undergarments and Hosiery
BASIC SHAPING GARMENTS:
Most male body types require some help from shaping garments to emulate a female shape. It doesn’t matter if you are lean or a fuller body type, you will need one or more of the following items to get you started looking like a woman. For example, boobs and wider hips are essential for pulling off a passable lady.
Breast Forms : Breast forms do 3 things for the male shape: first of all, they make ladies clothing fit and look much more attractive. Secondly, they help soften the look of wide male shoulders. Thirdly, breast forms automatically make you feel more feminine and confident. Unless you have a thing for large breasts then start with a C or B cup, so you can get a feel for them. Also, if you go too large you’ll have issues finding ladies clothes that fit. If you can, buy silicone forms, since they are the closest products that look and feel like the real thing. You can spend hundreds of dollars on these but to begin, look for sale items like the Wider Full Teardrop Breast Forms from GlamourBoutique.com that cost from just $19.95 a pair and can be used with regular bras or even adhesives.
Corsets/Cinchers & Slimmers/Girdles : Another part of creating an ideal female silhouette is striving to achieve an hourglass figure. You can do this by slimming your waist. If you only need to smooth the waist area and lose an inch or two, then a simple slimmer or girdle will help. If you need to lose 3 to 5″, then you need a steel boned corset. These take more time to fit when dressing, but they are the only garment that can radically reduce the waist area to get the shape you want.
Hip Padding and Padded Panties : As a male, you will most likely not have wide hips, however, there are hip pads anyone can afford to enhance their hips quickly. For cheap options, you can purchase stand-alone foam pads that are held in place by pantyhose, or a good quality pair of padded panties like the Padded Rear and Hip Shaping Girdle . Most people love this product because the padding blends nicely with your natural curves. Plus, it also acts as a supportive girdle.
Once you have achieved that perfect hourglass figure with the shaping garments, you can now focus on dressing like a woman. For beginners, I am sure you do not have a lot of clothes at your disposal, so keep it simple. Order some dresses, bigger tops, and some skirts online from a transgender-friendly company. This will ensure the clothing will fit your body type better. Try and plan out at least two outfits when you are purchasing.
If you are particularly athletic, with a triangle-shaped body, and do not pad up your hip areas you will definitely want to shop for curvy skirts and tighter tops. The skirt will give you some added curve in the hips and the tight top will keep your top half slender-give a curvy appearance.
On the other hand, if you have that perfect hourglass shape, dresses are simple and sexy! Our basic Little Black Dress for Crossdressers is an ideal solution for many. It’s sexy, stylish, cut with wider shoulders, a longer torso, has full-length sleeves, and has a high neck to mask hair. If you feel brave enough to venture out to shop at consignment stores or even chain stores make sure to choose garments with some spandex/lycra. This will ensure that they will stretch in areas like the shoulder; 100% cotton or polyester dresses will not work for most because they are not stretchy.
UNDERGARMENTS AND HOSIERY
Most novice dressers we meet cannot suddenly start shaving their legs every time they want to wear a dress or skirt; as friends and family would notice. So, good quality opaque pantyhose, stockings, or stay-ups will mask the hair and blemishes that need to be hidden. The other essential for a beginner would be a Crossdressing Gaff for tucking the ‘boys’. This will give you a nice flat front when wearing your dress or skirt. If you don’t use a tucking gaff then you can do the same with multiple pairs of control top pantyhose, but that can become hot and uncomfortable! So, having a couple of gaffs laying around is always beneficial to the occasional crossdresser.
Many beginners think that they can start out walking in 4″ or even 5″ shoes. Girl, you are crazy- are you trying to break an ankle? We always say, if you’re not well practiced in walking in heels, go with a 3″ heel. Trust me, you will be doing yourself, and your feet, a favor. Heels are hard to walk in. Period! So, you need to be sure you are comfortable before hitting the town in 5″ heels. Recommended shoes for beginners would be the Divine Pump .
IT IS 7.48pm. I am just about to leave the house for a night out with friends. I have checked I have a spare pair of tights in my handbag, ensured that the working remote is actually in the oldest child's hand – no more panicked, 10pm ''WE CANT FID [sic] THE CONTROLLS. '' texts for me – and now, the last thing that needs to be done is to bid my husband adieu.
I walk into his ''study'', where he is listening to a reggae compilation, while contemplating his new Fotheringay mug, which is full of tea. He has a happy look on his face.
''Have a great night,'' he says, taking his headphones off, and beaming. There is a pause. I kind of … stand at him a bit. Loom, maybe.
''I'm off out, now,'' I say, again, more purposefully. ''Off into London. To see people.''
''Make sure you've got your keys!'' he says, cheerfully. ''Have a great night. Send my love to … whichever bunch of arch, chain-smoking homosexuals you're on loan to tonight.''
There is another pause. I stare at him quite intently. He stares back, confused. Pete can tell there is some manner of urgent business left unattended here – but he does not know what. I can sense his heart rate accelerating, like a panicked lab rat on sighting a speculum. The rat does not know exactly what is going to happen next – but it knows it's going to be bad. ''Do you … want a lift to Finsbury Park?'' he asks, eventually.
''HOW DO YOU THINK I LOOK?'' I shout.
Pete is immediately contrite – ''Sorry!'' – but also back in charted territory again.
Twelve years ago, shortly before our wedding, I told him – with the kind of fearless honesty that lovers can afford – that I would only ever impose two rules on our marriage. First, that he must never, ever throw me a surprise birthday party in our front room again. And second, that every time I appear in front of him in a new outfit, he must say, without hesitation:
''You look so thin in that!'' Pete says – delighted to be back on firm ground. He puts his headphones back on. He clearly thinks all the business has been concluded.
''Phew. Have a great night out,'' he says – going back to staring at his Fotheringay mug, which depicts the whole band as 15th-century minstrels. ''I'll see you in the morning.''
Unfortunately for Pete, ''You look so thin in that'' is not the droids I am looking for in this particular conversation. The dress I am in is a bit of a new development, in terms of my ''fashion range''. It's a 1950s tea dress in shape – but in pattern, it's got an African-textile theme going on. I'm wearing it with zebra-skin sandals, and a snakeskin clutch-bag. Basically, I need to know if I look like Lady Ace Ventura: Pet Detective in it. I don't know if this ''lysergic safari'' thing is working.
Were I with any of my female friends or relations, they would have understood this instantly. My sister Weena, for instance, would have greeted me with, ''You're perverting the assumed prejudices of postwar chicks, with some kind of 'demented gay Ghanaian disco' vibe. It's Mad Men versus Brixton Market. You're essentially saying you're a liberal – but with big tits. Nice. Catch that bus with confidence.''
This is what women do – tell each other what story their outfits are projecting, by way of confirming that the wearer has got it right. The women who love you recite back to you the aspiration and impact of your ''look'' – hence a group of eight of us being able to greet our friend Hughes with, ''Post-divorce slutty secretary – but with unexpected neon rave-stilettos! You're a sexy lady who will not cling to one man tonight, but seek the communal ecstatic uprising of a room full of party-goers instead. In this Pizza Express we are having dinner in.''
Women speak the language of clothes. Everything we wear is a sentence, a paragraph, a chapter – or, sometimes, just an exclamation mark.
Unfortunately, however, Pete does not speak the language of clothes. My dress and zebra-sandals are essentially shouting at him in French. Unable to make out a word they are saying, he panics.
''It's a top-notch item,'' he says, staring at it. ''Unusual. It's, ah, amazing that 'they' keep coming up with innovative things – even in 2012. That's … got to be good news for the fashion industry!''
There is a small pause – then he starts laughing so hysterically at the desperation of what he has just said that he slides off his chair, headphones still in hand, and kneels on the floor, red-faced, and weeping.
He's still there when I leave. Which is a bit annoying, because I did actually want a lift to Finsbury Park. My zebra-skin sandals are chafing.
From Moranthology by Caitlin Moran. © Caitlin Moran 2012. Reprinted by permission of Random House Australia. All Rights Reserved. RRP: $29.95
Crossdressers often like to wear low-cut dresses and want to show a little or a lot of cleavage. There are several ways to create cleavage. A company on the web sells a special bra-like item that will create cleavage. Another way is to use tape pulled across the chest. For many, this has been expensive and/or painful. I have used the tape method in the past. I have found it to be uncomfortable, and marks are left on the chest after removal.
A third way is described below and can be made by cutting out a piece of plastic cut from a wastebasket, the top of a storage bin, or any item of flexible plastic of appropriate size. I used a tin snip to cut out and then sanded edges smooth. A good scissors would probably work. For lack of a better term we will call this plastic a Cleavage Enhancer.
I have experimented with sizes and shapes and have found the two following to be most beneficial. The size of the green one is 9"w X 5"h X 1/16" and the blue one is 11"w X 5"h X 1/16".
A slightly snug bra and breast forms (water balloons or anything with some mass could also work read breastforms) help to keep the plastic in place, but with movement and moisture the skin will eventually let the plastic move and the cleavage will disappear. A few pieces of Transpore tape will help keep it in place. But be careful not to place the tape where it will adhere to the breast form.
An even more secure method is to use a multi-purpose craft adhesive spray. I have found that spraying this adhesive on the inside of the Cleavage Enhancer keeps it in place. Spray a light coat and be sure to let the craft glue dry for 10 to 15 minutes before using.
Insert the Cleavage Enhancer between the breast forms and the chest. Give the skin a little tug toward the center of your chest and up as each side is slipped into place. The coating should lightly stick to the skin and the pressure from the form and the bra will hold the skin in place. This coating will last for several wearings. To finish the illusion, use some dark and/or light powder to contour the breast.
One of my sisters uses an almost identical item, except she has covered her plastic with adhesive tape and coated the inside with rubber cement to make it slightly tacky. Let it dry to become tacky.
Using this insert is inexpensive and much more comfortable than tape.
I received this suggestion:
I wanted to write to thank you for your excellent and informative page. I especially found the crating cleavage page helpful; as I was having difficulty with the tape. I made a simple plastic piece and it works great; instead of using glues or adhesives; i bought a small simple luggage strap to hold the plastic in place below my breast forms.
Thank you, Jennifer.
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People who hide habits or parts of their personality from their partner often do so out of a fear of being judged or losing love. Sometimes, if they own up, they do risk ruining their relationships, however being real about who we are can also force us to face the fallacies of our own assumptions.
Take, for instance, the call I received some months ago from a woman who lives in a large country town. Her husband is a shift worker and one afternoon she arrived home unexpectedly to discover him dressed in women’s clothes, wearing a wig and make-up. She was devastated because they have been married for several years and she was totally unaware of his habit.
The woman found her husband wearing makeup.(Image via Getty.)
When she confronted him he told her that he was too scared to tell her for fear of rejection and he thought he might just hide it from her. She could not cope and called me in total despair. I was able to explain to her what cross dressing is about.
Cross dressers are usually heterosexual men who like to dress up in women's clothes. They discover their need to cross-dress during childhood starting out by dressing up in their sisters or their mother's clothes. They soon find out that it is not accepted and are told to stop it. They feel ashamed, become secretive and try to suppress their feelings and their desire to crossdress.
Later in life the issue can cause a lot of distress because often they are not sure how to cope. A lot of questions and worries persist and for each person it is a different story.
There are also many misconceptions about men who cross dress:
1) They have to be gay – they usually are not!
2) They don't like women – they do, most men are married
3) They do it for sexual gratification – Although cross-dressing is a sexual fetish for some, the vast majority of men do not experience any arousal as a result of cross-dressing, for some it is the exploration of feminine self-expression.
4) They always wear women's clothes – not true, most may only dress up occasionally – some men sometimes wear women's underwear under their clothes.
5) They can be cured – there is no cure as it is not an illness but a "state of being".
6) Cross-dressing should not be mixed up with being transsexual or transgender.
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Some men find that cross-dressing makes them feel relaxed and helps them with stress. For both the cross dresser and his family it is not an easy thing to deal with and it is very common to experience a sense of despair to face the reality of the situation.
There’s nothing as beautiful as feminine lingerie, so I’d love to hear from you on this important topic.
Please take my 4-question LINGERIE POLL and share your thoughts below!
What’s your favorite piece of lingerie to wear?
How many bras do you own?
How many panties do you own?
What’s your favorite panty style?
i would love to start having bras to wear along with high heels and stockings i love the feel of nylon stockings
Yes bra and stockings are great and good start love my black stain bras
I love to wear RHT stockings and girdle. I love the feel of nylon stockings
All of the above +
I love wearing women’s foundation garments, a girdle with garters or a garter belt, with stockings and long-line bras. my absolute favorite is an all-in-one bra / girdle, both pantie girdle & open bottom style.
You are cheating : that’s a real woman, and gorgeous at that !…
My favorites have always been stockings and garters. I like my stockings to be very snugly fastened and wear garterbelts with up to eight straps with the rear strap well to the back for good stocking support. I reach back between my legs to fasten my rear garters just outside my seams, then my side garters and finally the front ones. Them gentle thigh massage from my stockings and tiny motion of my straps as I move about are really enjoyable. Right now, I’m wearing lovely lace top stockings with a six strap belt.