How to deal with your crush not liking you

Updated on March 15, 2021 by Cyril Abello 189 Comments

Are you dying to find out whether your crush likes you too? Are you confused whether his/her actions towards you mean anything or you only overanalyze?

To help you resolve your inner conflict, and so you would know if it is time to forget about your feelings for him/her, here are 15 signs that show a person’s interest in you. Find them out and use them to assess your crush’s behaviors.

1. Steals glances at you
This is probably one of the most obvious clues that someone is into you. If you have caught your crush staring at you not just once or twice, then maybe those were not coincidences. Just keep observing if this will happen again.

2. Sends and responds with long messages
If you happen to have communication with your crushes like thru phone or social media, observe how long his/her usual messages to you are. If oftentimes s/he sends lengthy messages even when responding to a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ question, then it means s/he wants to keep your conversation going. How to deal with your crush not liking youPhoto by Pexels

3. Interested to know more about you
In a normal friendship or acquaintance setup, a person would not be too eager to know trivial information about you like the name of your pet and your favorite color. If your crush keeps on asking you such questions, then probably s/he is researching about your life.

4. Knows details you never told him/her
If your crush surprisingly knows your birthday or your middle name even if you never mentioned them to him/her, then probably s/he is doing research about you. This means only one thing—s/he is interested in you. It is quite flattering, right?

5. Notices even small details about you
This is connected to #3. If your crush is interested to know everything about you, then expect that s/he is observant even to the tiny details of your being. For instance, s/he would ask you how you got the scar on your hand, or comment on your handwriting.

6. Appreciates you even in little things
If your crush is too grateful to you even just for passing on the tray of cookies or picking up his/her pen, then it could be a sign—unless s/he normally do it with everyone else. Furthermore, a person who likes you appreciate or praise you for almost anything like your haircut, being an early bird, or how you dress up.

7. Always willing to help you
The person who eagerly offers you help for just anything may actually like you. So, if your crush is always available to lend you a hand whenever you need it, then there could be a chance that s/he is trying to be impressive.

8. Can stand long conversations with you
You have to wonder if your crush keeps on engaging in long talks with you. Normally, unless you are BFF’s with the person, you would not waste hours of idle conversation with an ordinary friend. A fifteen to thirty-minute chitchat is long enough, but how about an hour or two of an unplanned sitting on the bench together and talking about anything under the sun?

9. Asks for your contact details
When a person asks for your mobile number and asks permission to add you on Facebook or Instagram, it does not automatically mean s/he likes you. However, this should be on your checklist, because the person who likes you would eventually do this. If this person asks for these details after a long time of being casual or friends with you, then it could be that s/he had to gather enough guts to finally do it. It is normal and easy for new friends to do this, but it is a bit weird if you have known each other for quite a while already.

10. Responds to invitations
Another behavior of a person who likes you is his/her automatic willingness to join you or your cause. In case you invite him/her to volunteer in a socio-civic organization, then s/he would not say ‘no’. If you invite him/her for dinner to discuss a business proposal, you would get an excited, positive response, even if the person is actually not business-minded.

11. Shares secrets with you
If your crush comfortably shares secrets with you even if you are not best friends, then it could be a sign that s/he likes you. This behavior could mean that s/he wants to open up about his/her life with you because s/he wants to get your acceptance and trust.

12. Unusually presentable when s/he knows you would be around
When you like someone and you know you would meet him/her, you exert greater effort to make yourself attractive, right? That is the same as the person who likes you. So, if you notice that your crush looks unusually more decent during expected meetups than when you only accidentally bump into each other, then s/he is probably trying to catch your eye.

13. Finds ways to be near you always
If you notice that, even without you making an effort, you always end up in one group with or sitting beside your crush, then it is either the work of destiny or your crush him/herself. Just observe how your crush behaves whenever you are around. Does s/he pass by in front of you all the time or approach a friend who is in close proximity with you? Is it just coincidence and timing? How to deal with your crush not liking youPhoto by nextbike

14. Becomes awkward, timid, or hyper when you are around
How do you feel whenever your crush is nearby? Usually, it is either you tense up and become conscious of yourself or you get too excited and happy to the point that you overact. If your crush likes you too, then it is expected for him/her to feel the same. You can try to observe his/her behaviors in different situations: when you are around and not. You can ask for help from friends for this mission.

15. Changes mood when you hang out with someone else
How does your crush react whenever s/he sees you in deep conversation or walking side by side with someone else from the opposite sex? If you notice that every time this happens s/he becomes unusually gloomy, then maybe it is because of you. Other signs of jealousy are when s/he interrupts or joins you; passes by in front of you several times, or walks out or leaves the place.

Warning: Do not assume

Even if you can see most of the signs on your crush, please do not presume that s/he likes you. It is okay to feel good about the attention you get from this person, but unless s/he directly state it, do not assume anything. It may cause you to be aggressive, overfamiliar, and territorial, which could turn him/her off instead.

There is that moment no one wants to face – when you have to accept that your crush doesn’t like you. Whether it is because he just made it clear in the most embarrassing (for you) of all possible ways, or because he doesn’t respond to you flirting with him, or he started going out with someone else.

1. Cry a Little

Let it out. Take a day to feel sad about it. To analyze it. To do whatever you want.

2. Accept It

To be able to let something go you have to accept it. Some people get angry and want to fight it. They want to prove themselves to the guy. In other words, they are still holding onto it. Then it won’t go away. Fighting something requires that it’s still there.

3. Get a Life You Enjoy

Whilst you might not feel motivated at first, the best way to become happy again is to create a fulfilling life.

The first step to happiness is health. This includes healthy foods, plenty of fresh water, sleeping on regular hours and getting enough sleep (otherwise you are constantly jet lagged and irritable as a result), spending time outdoors so you get your dose of sunshine every day and exercising. Exercising, whether it be hiking with friends, dancing, yoga, the gym, or martial arts, is also the perfect time for socializing and meeting new people. Find something you enjoy doing as opposed to just going to the gym because you have to.

Being healthy helps the brain release the chemicals that will make you feel happy. It’s a cornerstone to happiness.

Secondly, fill your time with things you love and things you know will take you to where you want to go. Inspire yourself to become the person you truly want to be. Maybe you need to do more homework to get the grades to get into your fav uni, or you are in uni thinking you want to develop your interests further and take a fashion designer class…whatever it is, do it!

4. Get Social

Nothing like love and laughter to make you forget your sorrows. Join Meetup groups, spend time with friends, attend networking events, take classes in something you love…do whatever it takes to fill your life with fun people!

5. Get Away

There’s nothing like a change of scenery to lift your spirits and make you realize there’s more to life than what you’re currently seeing. Take a road trip for the weekend with friends. You can always catch a bus if you don’t have a car and you can try couchsurfing.com for free stays – choose people with plenty of reviews so you know it’s safe. You could also go visit relatives somewhere, or go camping with friends or family.

6. Care About Someone Else

Whether you decide to pamper your grandma for the weekend, or join a volunteer program, there’s nothing like helping others to forget about your own pain. It opens your eyes to things beyond you. It also helps cure a broken ego as you realize the world is not all about you.

7. Stop Yourself from Brooding

You had your day of sadness and sure enough pangs of sadness might hit you at other times, but don’t let them overtake you. You are the master of your mind. When you feel your thoughts drifting in the wrong direction (or you start talking to your friends about the guy), change direction. Watch a movie, put on happy music, read a book, go for a walk, dance, hit the gym…just simply discipline yourself to acknowledge the feeling, let it be (don’t fight it!) and move on.

8. Challenge Yourself

There’s nothing like overcoming your fears, or perceived limitations, to make yourself feel good. Go out there and do what you dream of. Challenge yourself to become good in areas you know you want to be good in, but aren’t. If you don’t know how, Google it. Read books about it.

When you overcome the fears holding you back in your life, you will feel amazing!

9. Don’t Blame Yourself

The truth is that finding the right guy is about finding the right match. If he doesn’t like you, it doesn’t mean you are unattractive. It means the two of you aren’t a match. Look upon it as a puzzle – just because the pieces don’t fit doen’t mean they are wrong. It simply means that they don’t fit together.

10. Meet Other Guys

The more you socialize the greater the chance of meeting other guys as well. And the happier you are, the greater the chance of attracting them.

How to deal with your crush not liking youBy Maria Montgomery Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery

You and your friend have been texting each other constantly for the last several weeks. They comment on all your social media posts, and when you’re together they seem to be really into you…they may have hugged you goodbye for the first time, or your hands touched while walking together. You can’t get them off your mind and you want to make a move before the moment fizzles. You finally summon some courage, tell them how awesome you think they are and express your feelings… only to hear that they “only think of you as a really good friend….”

It turns out that those feelings you had weren’t mutual… Ouch!

What do you do when your crush doesn’t like you back? Here are some pointers that can help:

Here are 8 Things To Do When Your Crush Doesn’t Like You Back!

1. Don’t Be Quick To Take It Personal

It’s easy to think that there is something “wrong” with you when facing rejection, but the truth is that the reason your crush turned you down may have nothing to do with you at all. Maybe they aren’t looking to be in a relationship right now, or they have something else going on in their lives that they need to focus on. It could be that they do think you’re really great, but the timing is just off. If your crush needs that space, they are entitled to it. However, if the reason your crush turned you down really is because they simply are not attracted to you in the same way, keep this next point in mind…

2. It’s Not A Reflection Of Your Personal Worth

Just because your crush isn’t interested in a relationship does not mean your worth as a unique, amazing individual has diminished! It’s totally normal to feel bummed out that your crush doesn’t see how great you really are, but you shouldn’t feel compelled to change just to be the type of person you imagine they may be into. Ultimately, you want to be with someone that appreciates you just as you are!

3. You Don’t Like Every Person That Likes You Either

How to deal with your crush not liking you

It’s fair to say that at some point, you will find yourself on the other side of the coin. Remember when you realized that you and the person who was crushing on you were not compatible, or that time you were caught off guard by your friend’s confession of their undying love for you when you were sure that you were just friends? It’s better to be honest and say that you don’t feel the same way than to give in to your crush’s advances out of fear about hurting their feelings. You knew then that it was better for both of you if you were honest in the first place, so keeping that in mind can help you not take it too personally when you’re the one getting turned down this time. We’re all entitled to our feelings, even if the outcome isn’t what we were hoping for.

4. You Can’t Force Someone to Like You Back

Don’t exhaust yourself trying to change someone’s mind. Trying to force relationships can be like trying to fit into a pair of shoes that are too small. As much as you like them, they just won’t work. It doesn’t mean that pair of shoes isn’t nice, it just means they aren’t the right pair for you. In that case, it’s best to move on. No one should feel required to be in a relationship, or pressured into dating someone. If you do decide to take those steps, both people should feel equally excited about it, not coerced into it.

5. Give Yourself Time To Process How You Feel

How to deal with your crush not liking you

In a perfect world, your feelings for your crush would be reciprocated, but life isn’t a fairytale. It’s totally normal to feel “crushed” when the object of your affection doesn’t feel the same way. Take time to take care of yourself while you work through the disappointment. If you need to vent, look for a listening ear in a trusted friend or family member. You can also look for healthy ways to keep busy, like volunteering in your community or taking up a new hobby, like exercise or writing. Staying active can help you avoid unhealthy coping behaviors such as binge eating, or moving on to someone new too quickly out of spite.

6. Avoid These Common Social Media Pitfalls

We all know how tempting it can be to scroll through your crush’s social media pages, but that will likely only allow your feelings of disappointment to fester. Also, obsessively keeping tabs of someone’s social media, or wondering who the new person in all of their posts may be is not healthy. If you find yourself scrolling mindlessly, it may help to take a break from following them as a way to take care of yourself. This can give you the time you need to heal and help you focus your energy elsewhere.

7. Move Forward

Everyone goes through this experience at least once in their lives (if not more)! Remember that you will survive the fact that your crush doesn’t like you back. Use this as an opportunity to really think about why you were crushing on this person. Were they open and honest? Were they willing to lend an ear or shoulder to cry on? It could be a great opportunity to identify certain traits that are really important to you, like honesty and respect.

In the end, we all want to be in healthy relationships with people who enjoy all that we are. Even if this person wasn’t a good fit, it doesn’t mean you won’t find someone else who is – and that person can come around when you least expect it. So keep up those positive vibes, learn to love yourself first, and others will love you back, too.

How to deal with your crush not liking you

Everyone has experienced unrequited love at least once, and recovery from unrequited and painful love can take quite long. It is not easy to find a cure for a broken heart. It is necessary to confront them and stop idealizing a person for whom we suffer. Yes, unfortunately, unrequited love is quite common, even among those who had long ago emerged from teen years.

Of course, to face that these feelings are not reciprocated is quite painful and not easy. You have probably analyzed the situation a thousand times and thought that this certainly would not have happened if you’re a hot and leggy blonde but trust us, no person has not experienced unrequited love.

Tracing the choral literature, we realize that the pen mostly writes with a broken heart. Without so many ill-fated romances, many of the most beautiful poems and stories would never have seen the light of day.

Experts say that when we love someone, and the feedback is missing, we feel both mentally and physical pain. It is even more intense if we do not realize on time that no one is worth our tears.

How to deal with your crush not liking you

Many scientists warn that hopeless crush can cause a range of physical reactions, which can severely damage your health.

If you are struggling to remove from your system a crush that doesn’t return you the same way and to continue with your healthy life, you need to know that you are not alone.

It is possible to feel desperate during the falling out of love, and even regret that you liked that person at all. Just because crush doesn’t see you as relationship material, doesn’t mean that you don’t perceive as a friend. We will present all the ways to send your unrequited crush into history, to make it easier to deal with this “loss” and the pain that it brings:

1. ACCEPTANCE OF PAINFUL TRUTH

How to deal with your crush not liking youThe hardest thing about overcoming the unhappy love is to realize that this person doesn’t like you in the same way that you like her. Acceptance of this knowledge may be the first, but also the most difficult step to take. If you like some guy, and you might even love him, if he doesn’t feel the same, you cannot force him to love you, no matter how hard you try.

2. DO NOT TAKE IT PERSONALLY

Just because he doesn’t have the same feelings for you, you should not take it personally. Going through the process of overcoming your unrequited love, in any case, is not the reason to examine yourself and to accuse. Your crush cannot control his feelings just as you cannot control yours. Imagine the reverse situation where someone wants and likes you, but you absolutely don’t have feelings for that person. So don’t take it too personally.

3. BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF

The overcoming of unfortunate love is never easy, but you need to be honest with yourself. You have to confront yourself with your feelings. You need to be aware of how much you’re affected by that your crush does not return you the same way. When you are honest with yourself and admit you are hurt, easier will take the whole situation, and easier will be to get over it.

4. DO NOT STAY LONG IN THIS STATE

How to deal with your crush not liking you

Do you have someone who could give you support? Do you have the best friend with whom you could talk? Is there anyone to whom you can redirect your attention, to stop thinking about the fact that you will never have your crush? Try to move on because you may not linger on something that will never happen, and that is one of the basic and necessary tips to overcome unrequited love.

5. DO NOT BE ANGRY

Why are you angry? Is that because he doesn’t have the same feelings for you? This should not be a reason for anger. Although you may be hard to reconcile with that, you must make sure that your feelings remain calm and peaceful. Do not want to be angry or mad at your crush just because he doesn’t reciprocate the feelings that you cherish. After all, you cannot control who you want!

6. THINK ABOUT EVERYTHING AND FINISH WITH ILLUSIONS

While trying to shake off love, why do not you give yourself a little time to think? Do you act differently when you are in his presence? Did you scare him/her with something? You can think about everything and every interaction you have had with him/her – only a short time, don’t stay in these thoughts for days and days but think about all briefly.

7. AVOID OBSESSIVE THINKING ABOUT HIM/HER

How to deal with your crush not liking you

One of the best ways to overcome the crush is that you stop thinking about how you love. We know that’s easier to be said than done, but in order not to think about it, you have to try to hold on to something else. Avoid thinking about him/her at all costs. Choose a hobby, talk to friends, and accept support from your families. Keep yourself busy, so you will be able to overcome crush as soon as possible.

8. SELF-CONFIDENCE

Work on self-confidence. Every day remember your positive qualities. Say that you are a great person no matter if someone did not return the feelings. Think about what you would like – to be more confident, be a better connoisseur of music, dance, or better roller skating and work on it.

9. STOP TO HOPE

Stop hoping and live in the belief that you have some chances. He might never change his mind, and you must be ready for this. When you release your hope, you will feel getting better every day. Although falling out of love is a tedious process, you have to remember that there is someone who will appreciate you, someone will love you, and you strive towards it.

10. MOVE ON

How to deal with your crush not liking you

Only when you feel ready, you can accept a date with a potential new candidate and allow yourself to fall in love again, although you are now in this depressive phase of a broken heart and that still seems impossible to you. Love is actually happening when you least expect it, but you must be willing to surrender to those feelings. So head up and think positive!

How to deal with your crush not liking you

Everyone has experienced unrequited love at least once, and recovery from unrequited and painful love can take quite long. It is not easy to find a cure for a broken heart. It is necessary to confront them and stop idealizing a person for whom we suffer. Yes, unfortunately, unrequited love is quite common, even among those who had long ago emerged from teen years.

Of course, to face that these feelings are not reciprocated is quite painful and not easy. You have probably analyzed the situation a thousand times and thought that this certainly would not have happened if you’re a hot and leggy blonde but trust us, no person has not experienced unrequited love.

Tracing the choral literature, we realize that the pen mostly writes with a broken heart. Without so many ill-fated romances, many of the most beautiful poems and stories would never have seen the light of day.

Experts say that when we love someone, and the feedback is missing, we feel both mentally and physical pain. It is even more intense if we do not realize on time that no one is worth our tears.

How to deal with your crush not liking you

Many scientists warn that hopeless crush can cause a range of physical reactions, which can severely damage your health.

If you are struggling to remove from your system a crush that doesn’t return you the same way and to continue with your healthy life, you need to know that you are not alone.

It is possible to feel desperate during the falling out of love, and even regret that you liked that person at all. Just because crush doesn’t see you as relationship material, doesn’t mean that you don’t perceive as a friend. We will present all the ways to send your unrequited crush into history, to make it easier to deal with this “loss” and the pain that it brings:

1. ACCEPTANCE OF PAINFUL TRUTH

How to deal with your crush not liking youThe hardest thing about overcoming the unhappy love is to realize that this person doesn’t like you in the same way that you like her. Acceptance of this knowledge may be the first, but also the most difficult step to take. If you like some guy, and you might even love him, if he doesn’t feel the same, you cannot force him to love you, no matter how hard you try.

2. DO NOT TAKE IT PERSONALLY

Just because he doesn’t have the same feelings for you, you should not take it personally. Going through the process of overcoming your unrequited love, in any case, is not the reason to examine yourself and to accuse. Your crush cannot control his feelings just as you cannot control yours. Imagine the reverse situation where someone wants and likes you, but you absolutely don’t have feelings for that person. So don’t take it too personally.

3. BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF

The overcoming of unfortunate love is never easy, but you need to be honest with yourself. You have to confront yourself with your feelings. You need to be aware of how much you’re affected by that your crush does not return you the same way. When you are honest with yourself and admit you are hurt, easier will take the whole situation, and easier will be to get over it.

4. DO NOT STAY LONG IN THIS STATE

How to deal with your crush not liking you

Do you have someone who could give you support? Do you have the best friend with whom you could talk? Is there anyone to whom you can redirect your attention, to stop thinking about the fact that you will never have your crush? Try to move on because you may not linger on something that will never happen, and that is one of the basic and necessary tips to overcome unrequited love.

5. DO NOT BE ANGRY

Why are you angry? Is that because he doesn’t have the same feelings for you? This should not be a reason for anger. Although you may be hard to reconcile with that, you must make sure that your feelings remain calm and peaceful. Do not want to be angry or mad at your crush just because he doesn’t reciprocate the feelings that you cherish. After all, you cannot control who you want!

6. THINK ABOUT EVERYTHING AND FINISH WITH ILLUSIONS

While trying to shake off love, why do not you give yourself a little time to think? Do you act differently when you are in his presence? Did you scare him/her with something? You can think about everything and every interaction you have had with him/her – only a short time, don’t stay in these thoughts for days and days but think about all briefly.

7. AVOID OBSESSIVE THINKING ABOUT HIM/HER

How to deal with your crush not liking you

One of the best ways to overcome the crush is that you stop thinking about how you love. We know that’s easier to be said than done, but in order not to think about it, you have to try to hold on to something else. Avoid thinking about him/her at all costs. Choose a hobby, talk to friends, and accept support from your families. Keep yourself busy, so you will be able to overcome crush as soon as possible.

8. SELF-CONFIDENCE

Work on self-confidence. Every day remember your positive qualities. Say that you are a great person no matter if someone did not return the feelings. Think about what you would like – to be more confident, be a better connoisseur of music, dance, or better roller skating and work on it.

9. STOP TO HOPE

Stop hoping and live in the belief that you have some chances. He might never change his mind, and you must be ready for this. When you release your hope, you will feel getting better every day. Although falling out of love is a tedious process, you have to remember that there is someone who will appreciate you, someone will love you, and you strive towards it.

10. MOVE ON

How to deal with your crush not liking you

Only when you feel ready, you can accept a date with a potential new candidate and allow yourself to fall in love again, although you are now in this depressive phase of a broken heart and that still seems impossible to you. Love is actually happening when you least expect it, but you must be willing to surrender to those feelings. So head up and think positive!

Remember those days in high school when you spotted the cute guy in the classroom across the hallway? You used to blush every time he passed by, and you instantly looked at your shoes the moment he smiled at you.

Approaching him to tell him how you felt seemed surreal and impossible. Even the thought of it made you freak out.

What if he says no? What if he laughs in my face?

Fast-forward, and you’re in your mid-20s. The story repeats itself, but now you’re a mature, confident and mature woman.

To hell with your nerves! You like him, so you’re going to get him. Leave all the prejudices about men making the first move behind, and listen to your heart.

It’s easy to say, but doing it is another story.

When giving it a second thought, though, what can really happen? If he rejects you, you move on and get rid of that “what if?” feeling.

I’d known this guy for about a year, and things had never been clear between us. We liked each other and had things in common, but there were long periods of time when we didn’t even talk.

He sent all the wrong signals. He would engage me in the idea of a possible sparkle that would go beyond friendship, but he’dВ step back every time I brought it up.

So one day, I just decided to open up and ask him one last time if there was any possibility of us being together.

We hadn’t spoken in a while, so he confessed he was involved in a new relationship, and he wasn’t attracted to me.

Did I feel rejection? Yes. Did I feel relieved? Totally.

Did the sky fall on me? QuiteВ the contrary.

A mix of emotions wentВ through my mind during our conversation, but a few days later, I could identify all of the feelings I experienced while opening up to my crush.

1.В Relief

The first wave of emotion I felt while the words rolled out of my mouth was genuine relief.

It takes a lot of energy to hold back your feelings, and I learned a negative answer is better than no answer.

Living in the dark makes you imagine all sorts of things, and it’s not healthy for you. When I actually put it all out there, my heart felt lighter.

2. Disappointment

It would be deceitful to pretend I didn’t have a glimmer of hope.

Of course, rejection was something I prayed wouldn’t happen, but I tried to be realistic so I wouldn’t be too upset.

Disappointment is a sneaky bitch, though, and it finds its own ways to crawl into your mind and heart.

Rejection is never pleasant, and it makes you question yourself. You wonder what you could have done differently, but sometimes, it just isn’t up to you.

3. Heartbreak

You know that feeling of your heart breaking into a million pieces? You’re allowed to feel that for a few moments. (You can take longer, too.)

After all, if you didn’t really mean what you said, you would have kept your mouth shut. But in order to bravely face heartbreak, you prepare to reveal your feelings.

I, for one, postponed the actual dialogue for a long time. When I was completely confident, I could then face discovering the unknown.

4. Anger

Be angry all you want. Frustration and anger usually come from his reasoning for rejecting you.

“I have a new girlfriend.”  Why didn’t you bother telling me sooner?

“I am focused on my work now.” Douchebag.

“I like you just as a friend, and I don’t feel attracted to you.”

Then why did you kiss me and sent all those signals?

5. A new start

After anger and disappointment pass, you start seeing the bright side.

There are only three options when you open up to someone and tell him how you feel: 1) He says yes, you get involved and you realize you’re not right for each other 2) He says yes, and everything turns into a fairytale or 3) He says no, and you can move on to find your Prince Charming.

It suddenly sounds promising. You have new opportunities, and you can go after all of them.

6. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

It takes a lot of courage to reveal your true feelings to your crush, so you’ll really boost your confidence. Facing rejection makes your skin thicker and your heart stronger.

Fear isn’t allowed in the room, so this experience is supposed to make you braver. The chances are 50-50, but next time you’ll know 100 percent that rejection doesn’t kill you.

Falling in love is exciting, but finding out that the object of your affection doesn’t feel the same way is devastating. They call it a crush for a reason, y’all. It’s a sad fact of life that your feelings are not always going to be reciprocated, and as painful as it is when it happens, you’re definitely not going to be the first person who’s experienced this. There are countless songs about loving someone who doesn’t love you back, and even when you’re feeling totally alone, it might help to know you’re not the only one who’s ever been crushed by a crush.

Unreciprocated feelings don’t always have something to do with you. It’s possible that the person you’re crushing on already has feelings for someone else. Your crush might even be dating someone else. And if the person you love doesn’t feel the same way, that’s not a reflection on who you are as a person. That special someone you have your eye on may someday change their mind about you, but that’s never a guarantee. If you’re looking to move on to someone new (or just want to feel understood), then these songs about unrequited love are for you.

“Just A Friend To You” By Meghan Trainor

I loved you from the start / So it breaks my heart / When you say I’m just a friend to you / ‘Cause friends don’t do the things we do

Is anything worse than the “friend zone”? “Just a Friend to You” by Meghan Trainor is perfect for anyone who’s ever been in a relationship that feels more than platonic — except the other person doesn’t see it that way.

“Not In That Way” By Sam Smith

And I hate to say I love you / When it’s so hard for me / And I hate to say I want you / When you make it so clear / You don’t want me

Raise your hand if you’ve ever been told, “I like you, but not in that way.” In “Not in That Way,” Sam Smith nails the devastation of being cared about by another person, but not exactly in the same way that you “care” about them.

“Better Now” By Post Malone

I seen you with your other dude / He seemed like he was pretty cool / I was so broken over you / Life, it goes on, what can you do?

Feelings don’t just go away after a breakup. You can still harbor feelings for an ex after they’ve moved on to someone new. Post Malone’s “Better Now” proves that sometimes it’s more painful to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

“Gorgeous” By Taylor Swift

You make me so happy, it turns back to sad, yeah / There’s nothing I hate more than what I can’t have / You are so gorgeous it makes me so mad

Sometimes the problem isn’t that your crush is unavailable — sometimes you’re the one that’s taken. “Gorgeous” is all about a magnetic yet elusive flirt that Taylor Swift wants and can’t have, and her inability to be with him only fuels her desire, despite the fact that she already has a boyfriend.

“Call Out My Name” By The Weeknd

I said I didn’t feel nothing baby, but I lied / I almost cut a piece of myself for your life / Guess I was just another pit stop / ‘Til you made up your mind / You just wasted my time

People don’t always fall at the same time. What may be a casual fling for someone might be the real deal for someone else, and as The Weeknd sings in “Call Out My Name,” it’s possible to want someone to stay even though they don’t want you.

“Without Me” By Halsey

And then I got you off your knees / Put you right back on your feet / Just so you can take advantage of me

In an ideal relationship, you’d get out of it what you put into it. Of course, that’s not always the case. Halsey’s “Without Me” is all about the experience of falling hard and fast for someone who — rather than returning your feelings — takes that love for granted.

“Need Ur Luv” By Charli XCX

Boy, you really messed around / Put me six feet underground / Always kick me when I’m down / But I’m still driving through your town

A crush can be so intense that even rejection can’t get that person off your mind. Charli XCX’s “Need Ur Luv” is all about wanting so badly for a love to be reciprocated that you’re willing to hurt yourself in the process.

“Memphis” By Justin Bieber (Feat. Diplo & Big Sean)

I’d like to give you what you need / I try but you’re makin’ it hard for me / How do I make you believe? / ‘Cause I love you, need you, / I need you here to stay

When you really love someone, you might believe that — with enough convincing — you can get them to feel the same way. But as Justin Bieber’s “Memphis” demonstrates, you can’t persuade someone into showing you the affection you crave.

“Bad Religion” By Frank Ocean

It’s a bad religion, ooh / This unrequited love / To me, it’s nothin’ but a one-man cult / And cyanide in my styrofoam cup / I can never make ’em love me

Unrequited love truly is like a bad religion that you follow blindly and without question, simply because it brings you comfort. Frank Ocean has this revelation in “Bad Religion,” and although he’s helpless to escape his feelings, he at least recognizes that an unreciprocated crush can be as irresistible and destructive as a cult leader.

“Liability” By Lorde

The truth is I am a toy that people enjoy / ‘Til all of the tricks don’t work anymore / And then they are bored of me

Not everyone is going to get you. They may think you’re “a little too much” and write you off rather than getting to know you. But as Lorde points out in “Liability,” you’re better on your own than with someone who won’t give you a fair chance.

“Tears” By Clean Bandit (Feat. Louisa Johnson)

I tried hard to make you want me / But we’re not supposed to be / And the truth will always haunt me / Even though it set me free

As improbable as it sounds, finding out that someone doesn’t feel the same way can actually be a blessing, because it might convince you to move on to someone new. “Tears” by Clean Bandit revolves around the idea that rejecting you is sometimes the kindest thing a crush can do, even if it still hurts.

“I’m A Mess” By Bebe Rexha

Everything’s been so messed up here lately / Pretty sure he don’t wanna be my baby / Oh, he don’t love me, he don’t love me / He don’t love me, he don’t love me / But that’s OK / ‘Cause I love me, yeah, I love me

Loving someone who doesn’t love you back can be messy. In trying to win someone else’s affection, you might sacrifice your dignity or make yourself vulnerable. But as Bebe Rexha sings in “I’m a Mess,” it’s OK to put yourself out there as long as you still love yourself through it all.

Unrequited love sucks, and I don’t think anyone can disagree with that. But unrequited love did result in all of these great bops, so I guess it’s good for something!

It ‘ s no fun thinking that your crush is intentionally avoiding you.

But as much as it hurts not to see them, it can be even more painful when you ‘ re not sure why they ‘ re going out of their way not to see you. If you ‘ re trying to figure out why they ‘ re avoiding you, chances are it ‘ s one of these nine reasons.

1. They Have a Crush on You But Don ‘ t Know How You Feel Back

Have you ever tried to hide a crush by acting like you ‘ re totally uninterested? There ‘ s a possibility that ‘ s happening to you right now. They ‘ re playing it cool, or are a little bit anxious about hanging out and accidentally divulging their true feelings. Your crush might even be working up the courage to make their move and ask you out.

How to deal with your crush not liking you

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2. They Know You Like Them and They Don ‘ t Feel the Same Way

Sometimes a crush will avoid you if they find out about your feelings for them and they aren ‘ t mutual. They don ‘ t want to spend too much time with you in case that makes you think they like you back, or they ‘ re not prepared to be forced to let you down. After all, rejecting someone can be just as tough as being rejected yourself.

3. They Know You Like Them and They Do Feel the Same Way

Bewildering as it might sound, sometimes knowing the other person has a crush on you back can be just as stressful as being unsure. Knowing there ‘ s a mutual interest creates a lot of pressure for the potential relationship, and they might not be prepared to handle that right now. Plus, they might feel even more nervous and giddy around you knowing you have a big ol ‘ crush on them, too.

4. They Don ‘ t Know You Exist

Don ‘ t take this personally, but maybe the reason you think your crush is avoiding you is they haven ‘ t really acknowledged you in the first place. If you ‘ ve mostly admired them from afar, they might not even know you exist. Until you actually are introduced to them or strike up the courage to talk to them, you might remain invisible to them for a while, so get used to the ” avoidance. “

5. They ‘ re Upset With You

Maybe your crush doesn ‘ t want to see you because you ‘ ve upset them. Perhaps you made an offhand comment that unintentionally offended them, they found out something about you that they don ‘ t like or, worst of all, someone is spreading negative rumors about you. If you think this is the case, chances are that things won ‘ t improve until you can set things straight with them.

6. They Need Their Space

If you ‘ re the ultra-clingy type, they might be avoiding you simply because they need their space. Some people can ‘ t handle being smothered with affection. This doesn ‘ t necessarily mean that they ‘ re not interested in you—just that it ‘ s time for you to back off a little and give them some room to breathe.

How to deal with your crush not liking you

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7. They ‘ re Taken

If your crush is already seeing someone else, they have a pretty good excuse to avoid you. Maybe they don ‘ t want to give you the wrong idea, or they used to talk with you when they were single, but have stopped now that they ‘ re off the market. Maybe they don ‘ t want to make their new flame jealous. Regardless of the actual reason, if they ‘ re taken, it ‘ s time to back off.

8. They ‘ re Playing Hard to Get

It ‘ s possible your crush knows you like them, and that they like you, too, but they don ‘ t want to make themselves too available. They want to seem uninterested and are never around because they think that makes them more desirable. While this tactic has definitely caught your attention, it ‘ s also sending you mixed messages.

How to deal with your crush not liking you

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9. They ‘ re Not Actually Avoiding You

Have you considered that your crush isn ‘ t actually avoiding you? Sometimes it seems like our crushes are never around, but we ‘ re just reading into things too deeply. You might ‘ ve set your expectations of their being around too high. Maybe they ‘ ve been super busy or preoccupied, and your not seeing them actually has nothing to do with you.

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