New York, NY – Last week, we introduced part one of my short series on homelessness in New York City. For this week’s entry, however, I reached across the George Washington Bridge to fellow mental health professional, friend and mentor, Mr. Anthony Greene. As an advocate, Greene was open to discussing his own experience grappling with homelessness and alcohol abuse disorder, as well as becoming incarcerated before finally finding the help he needed to change his life.
My connection with Mr. Greene started with a simple introduction. We met while I was working as a recovery specialist at an opiate overdose recovery program. I was still working a full-time job during the day, but scheduled for hospital deployments a few nights a week across northern New Jersey.
My deployments followed 911 emergency calls of an overdose. It’s safe to say that I saw people from every background. There were people from all walks of life, rich, poor, white, Black, Latin-American, Jewish, Muslim, Catholic and otherwise. I met with people who identified as male and female, trans and more. Regardless of their differences and no matter where the patients came from, there was a common bond to our meeting. They all had overdosed and almost died.
Each day, my social understanding opened a little wider. My social views were changing. Each experience taught me more about the world outside my narrow view. I was given an education that no classroom could ever teach me. But more importantly, I was finding ways to give back and help others help themselves.
At one point, I was invited to speak at a shelter as a specialist and person in recovery. In all fairness, I had never been to a homeless shelter before. I had no idea what to expect or what a shelter would look like. Safe to say, I pictured what stigma taught me to believe a homeless shelter would look like.
My intention was to talk about my journey and the work I was doing in the recovery field. But in no way did I realize how much my journey was about to change.
I would like the record to show that I saw people from all cultures and backgrounds. These were people with many differences, and yet, they shared one commonality — a need for housing.
It was at this point that I learned how the mind can be truly limited by trained opinions and assumptions. None of what I expected to see was accurate. The shelter was safe, clean, brightly lit and run by a caring staff with the intention to effectively put an end to homelessness. In a word, I was humbled.
I was given the opportunity to run a special empowerment group on Sunday mornings. We called it “Breakfast with Benny.” It was here that I learned more about myself, my goals and the direction I wanted to pursue. It was also here I was given the chance to be on radio station 89.1 WFDU. This is where I met Anthony Greene.
Greene is a native of Greenville, South Carolina. He is also a veteran who was homeless for one year until he found himself in jail. However, Greene took advantage of the Drug Rehabilitation Center Program [DRC].
The program helped Greene enter the shelter. It was a big adjustment at first. He was around strangers and felt uncomfortable. But his outgoing personality helped him fit in. “The staff took to me,” Greene said. “I was dedicated and motivated to get my life back together.”
As a veteran, Greene was connected to the V.A., which helped him get into college. He went from jail, to the shelter and then to eventual housing. He admits, however, that part of his story is about relapse. Greene struggled with the ideas of his family, the time he had lost and the wreckage of his past. He even disclosed that after a moment of public intoxication, he found himself back in treatment at the DRC. But he was determined to recover. With his veteran’s benefits and the assistance of other caring people, Greene was able to work hard and finish his college education.
These days, Anthony Greene hosts a radio show and is a Certified Alcohol and Drug Counselor at Transition Professionals in Hackensack, New Jersey. He has not only changed his own life, he has changed the lives of countless others — including mine.
“I want to give back,” says Greene. “But the biggest challenge is to see people who struggle the same way that I did. It’s hard to watch them refuse treatment and choose the streets.”
Greene is a true hero. He is an advocate for those who cannot help themselves. He is a friend, a true spirit of hope, and a teacher who destroys the limitations of stigma.
I suppose the most overlooked fact is that we are all people. Race, religion, orientation and creed aside, we all have lives. We all have a history, a background, and a story. Greene’s is only one story but there are more to tell. Unfortunately, not everyone accepts the hand that looks to help them. Not everyone chooses to get help and not everyone survives. But these are stories for the weeks to come. Stay tuned.
It is not only important to have a direction in life but the right direction in order to live a fulfilled and happy life.
It’s like an internal road map that tells us what decisions to make and when to make those decisions.
It also indicates milestones that you have to reach at certain stages in life to be successful.
Having a direction in life means having goals to make progress slowly and reach your destination in time.
However, it’s not always easy to set goals that you can actually achieve.
And this is where you need to recognize your direction – the right direction, to live up to your purpose.
How to Find Direction in Life
If you feel your life lacks meaning and purpose, you probably haven’t found the right direction yet.
Every one of us has the ability to differentiate between right and wrong but sometimes we choose to close our eyes and go with the flow simply because we have no purpose in life.
But this is no excuse to keep going on the wrong path.
You can find direction in life by trusting your guts, discovering your strengths, and living by your values.
This doesn’t happen overnight; values are acquired with time and experience.
In addition, you need the support of those around you to learn from their experiences and find a focus.
10 Steps to Finding Direction in Life
1. Stop Procrastinating.
The first step is to get out of your comfort zone and start acting.
If you want to remain in that state forever, you will never be able to find a direction in life.
Procrastination not only makes us lazy and inactive but also indicates that we might be suffering from an underlying mental disorder.
The sooner you address this issue, the better.
2. Find a Focus.
How many people you know are living without a focus in life?
You can easily pinpoint such people by looking at their habits.
If they keep switching jobs and changing their narratives quite frequently, they are probably living without a focus.
It is very difficult to have a direction in life if you fail to find a focus first.
This involves your career goals and your plans on settling down, among other things.
3. Take Action.
When you have set your goals, it’s time to take action to achieve them.
Taking action will resolve your problems and help you get rid of obstacles.
It is possible to take action only when you believe that the path you have chosen is the right one.
So, it’s also important to trust your guts in order to be able to act, which we will discuss shortly.
4. Recognize Your Purpose.
If you don’t have a purpose, life would feel incomplete and meaningless.
You can recognize your purpose by identifying your strengths and then thinking of ways to use those strengths to serve others.
5. Stay Positive.
No matter what happens in life, you have got to stay positive and hopeful.
When they tell you that the right path is always full of difficulties and hardships, they are actually right.
So, be prepared to face challenges in life with a healthy and positive attitude.
6. Find out What Makes you Happy.
Some people believe that being happy is the only important thing in life and everything else must follow this belief.
However, it’s important to know that happiness is a state of mind and it can only be attained when you know deep down that you’re on the right path.
7. Trust your Instincts.
When you’re at a crossroads in life, you have got to trust your own instincts to make the right decision.
This decision is based on your past experiences and the values that you have acquired over time.
8. Be your Own Judge.
Don’t listen to what other people have to say about you or your goals in life.
Be your own judge if you want to find direction in life that will eventually take you to your destination.
9. Never Forsake Your Values.
If you choose to ignore your values, people will start taking you for granted and you will never be able to reach your goals.
Your values make you unique and stand out in a crowd. And that helps to recognize your purpose in life.
10. Live with Integrity.
Always be honest and fair if you want to find the right direction.
Living with integrity also helps to maintain your relationships and seek a balance in life.
You must have noticed that these steps are interrelated and overlapping.
So, it’s important to follow all of them if you feel your life lacks direction and you want to find the right one.
Choosing the Right Path
We are presented with a whole lot of decisions in life but making the right decision or choosing the right path is important because if you take even a single wrong turn, you may not be able to reach your destination.
If you want to know that you’re on the right path, take a look at your life and ask yourself a few questions.
Is your life hard?
Do you seek balance in life?
Do you have an internal narrative for direction?
Have you stopped living in the past?
If you answered yes to all the above questions, you’re definitely going in the right direction.
Finding direction in life is not always easy because it involves a lot of trial and error.
You learn from your mistakes, observe what other people are doing, find a focus in your own life, and recognize your values to be able to find your direction.
It is also important to know the right path and choose it despite the pressures from society or relationships.
In fact, when you’re successful in maintaining a balance in life, only then you will be able to recognize your direction and follow it to reach your ultimate destination.
How will you find direction in life? Share your thoughts in the comments below:
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Finding the right direction in life is an existential problem that all of us face at some time.
Whether you’re fresh out of college and figuring out what you want to do with the rest of your 20s and beyond, or you’ve realized that the life you’re living no longer serves you, these steps will help you find direction.
1. Draw the Line Between Thinking and Over-Thinking
While taking time to think about big life decisions is, of course, important, over-thinking leads to paralysis, deferred decisions, self-doubt, and, ultimately, inaction.
With every obstacle that comes up, ask yourself: “Is this a genuine concern or am I using this as an excuse to not follow my passion because I feel scared (or insert alternative uncomfortable feeling here)?”
2. Take Action
Finding the right direction in life is not something that happens to you, it’s something you create. This means that, at some point, you’re going to have to stop thinking about taking action and act.
One of the main reasons people don’t act is that they’re scared. They’re scared of messing up, scared of things not working out and scared of realizing that, actually, what they thought was the “right direction” isn’t right for them at all.
You have permission to change your mind. Just because you take action doesn’t mean you’re committed to that path forever. If it doesn’t work out, that’s great! At least now you know that you need to go back and try something else. Taking action, living through the disaster scenarios, and coming out the other end with more know-how and wisdom is far better than not taking action at all.
3. Trust in Your Instincts
Whether or not we should trust our instincts is a perennial debate, but at some point we do need to learn to trust our guts.
Yes, at times your gut instinct will lead you astray. Rather than viewing this as a justification for returning to over-thinking, however, use it as a learning experience that will better attune your gut instinct next time.
4. Notice What Makes You Happy
If you know that your current life direction isn’t meeting your needs, but you’re not sure what will, start to do some self-research.
As you go through your daily life, notice when you feel most alive, most enthusiastic and most like you’re adding value. Ask yourself what activities present a positive challenge and which make time feel like it’s speeding up.
Once you have that list, make a note of the common elements between those activities.
5. Discover Your Strengths
We all have individual strengths, but sometimes it’s hard to identify them ourselves. Because our strengths come naturally to us, we’re not always aware that not everyone has a particular trait or skill that we take for granted.
Taking a strengths test (such as the VIA Strengths Test) will give you more awareness of where your strengths lie, and perhaps a few more ideas of how you can use them to add value to the world.
6. Focus on Your Values
Just as we all have individual strengths, we also have a set of core values that are deeply important to how we live our lives. The more we’re living in alignment with our core values, the happier we will be. If we’re not conscious of what these values are, we’re not necessarily going to make the best decisions regarding our life’s direction.
To identify which values are must-haves in your life, find a list of values (such as this one) and narrow down the top 10 and top three that resonate with you. Once you’re aware of them, you’ll be better equipped to make important decisions based on these values.
7. Surround Yourself With Supportive People
Finding the right direction in life is a rewarding challenge that can involve a lot of trial and error. To give yourself the best chance of finding your right direction, you need to surround yourself with supportive people.
Focus on what people do, rather than what they say. If someone says they have your best interests at heart but constantly tries to force their way of life or opinions on you or tells you why you can’t do what you want to do, that’s not support. Find a group of like-minded people who will respect your autonomy and still be there when you need them.
Finding direction in life can be a struggle from one day to the next. You may constantly question if you’re on the right path or not.
Fortunately, with a little work, you can figure it out how to steer yourself in the right direction.
Most people already know when they are or aren’t on the right path. It’s that deep inner knowing.
You may ignore it or try to hide from it. But inside, you know.
So if you’re questioning whether you’re on the right path or not, you probably aren’t.
Meanwhile, when you’re actually on the right path, there’s an inner knowing and a feeling of always being in the right place at the right time.
Serendipitous and perfect synchronicities just always happen to show that you’re on the right path. There’s also always an inner excitement and drive to keep going further down that path.
There are many ways you can choose to be on the right path.
There’s not one singular path — there are many to choose from. You can express yourself in how you choose by using your purpose gift.
You have the free will to choose which path is right for you. The key is that no matter what you do, you use your purpose gift in the way you choose.
And as long as you’re using it, you’re on the right path.
The more you use your purpose gift, the happier and better your life gets.
It’s more like levels — you can still be on your path, but may not be too far on it. The farther you go, the better.
It happens in stages. As you add more of your purpose gift into your life, then more opportunities come up. If you choose to accept them, then you’ll get farther down your path.
So even if you’re not completely happy yet, that doesn’t mean you aren’t on your path. The path gets more beautiful as you go.
You find more peace, knowledge, and certainty that everything is right as you go. Having that is such an amazing gift — and you can have that.
Everyone can have that — we all can have it all.
Everyone all started from the same place with the same opportunities. But over many lives, your choices have either brought you further on your path or set you back. Usually, it’s a little of both.
Your choices created exactly where you are now.
But the good news is that your choices can take you to where you want to go.
One way to know that you’re not on the right path is if you notice a lot of repeating negative patterns.
Perhaps, you get a new person in your life, but they do the same negative things the last one did. You keep doing something that’s attracting this type of partner, which keeps you off the path to a good relationship.
Another way to know is when you feel like you keep getting blocked, no matter what you try.
At first, your spirit guides will give you a light tap to warn you that you are going in the wrong direction. But if you don’t listen to that light tap, it becomes stronger and stronger, until you’re hitting a brick wall.
Since we all have free will, our spirit guides can’t stop us from making a choice — but they can warn us strongly.
If you listen to those warnings, your life will be much easier. So, really pay attention when you keep being stopped. That means you’re going the wrong way, and that choice isn’t right for you.
Now, obstacles aren’t always blocking so that can be difficult to distinguish. As you make new choices towards your path, dissonance will always happen — mishaps and things just going wrong at the wrong time.
That dissonance is actually a good sign and just shows you that you’re closer to your goal. You need to keep going to push through that.
So, don’t confuse dissonance, which is a good sign that means you’re changing and closer to your goal, with guidance from your guides.
Dissonance happens when you’re actively making changes to achieve your goal.
Guidance from your guides will be an ongoing thing if you continue in the wrong direction. It gets stronger and harder as you go.
Dissonance will only stop once you reach your goal. The best way to know if something is right for you is to ask yourself if it’s aligned with your purpose gift.
Ideally, you want everything in your life to align even, including how you cook a meal or how you get ready. Your purpose gift should encompass everything you do, not just work.
The more you use your purpose gift, the happier and more abundant you will be in all areas of your life. You can never be abundant in your life if you aren’t using your purpose gift.
Without using your purpose gift, finding direction life will always be a struggle. But the more you use it, the easier your life gets.
EL CAJON, Calif. (BP)– God loves to do astounding things. Most of the time, they are in response to the prayers of His people. Throughout my years as a pastor, a number of people have come to me for counsel on how to find the direction God has set forward for their life. I have to admit, my straightforwardness is not lacking in my response to them: “Have you prayed about it?” More often than not, the reply affirms my suspicions.
Asking God is not only a good place to start, it is the only place to start! I have never understood why anyone would come to me before approaching the Creator of the universe. After all, God has a blueprint plan of our lives, written in the palm of His hand. “See, I have inscribed you on the palms of My hands; your walls are continually before Me” (Isaiah 49:16).
The Bible says we do not have because we do not ask. Therefore, if we don’t know God’s direction in our lives, we simply ought to try asking Him for guidance. By prayerfully seeking direction, surrendering completely to Him, and listening attentively to His will (whatever it may be), what once seemed mysterious and unrecognizable will become amazingly clear. It’s like staring a little cross-eyed at one of these two dimensional computer-generated pictures that suddenly leaps out in three dimensions. Suddenly we begin to see things we couldn’t see before.
God our Heavenly Father, loving Counselor, peace-giving Friend, and gentle Shepherd is laden with gifts that will change our lives. However, we must be prayerfully attentive to the direction He has for us and to discern the path He has chosen from the one we have chosen for ourselves. When we follow God’s will and live according to His divine plan, our perspective shifts. Our vision expands and we begin to look at life not in terms of what we can do, but what God can do through us. We soon realize that nothing can distract, destroy, discourage, disappoint or defeat us when we follow God’s direction.
For instance, consider distractions. Isn’t that when most of us get lost along the way? We start out to accomplish our purpose, then some other good thing comes along and before we know it, we’ve taken a left turn, landed just a few degrees off target, and lost the goal completely. But when we keep God’s purpose in mind, we are empowered by the Spirit of God to accomplish it.
I submit that when you live according to God’s plan, not only can nothing distract you, but also nothing can destroy you. Isn’t that exciting? Jesus did not fear destruction because He was on target with His plan. He knew what God had prepared for Him and He lived in the confidence and the courage of that understanding without discouragement.
It is often easy to get discouraged. However, when we focus on God’s direction as it is laid before us, we can overcome the urge to flee His plan. By doing so, we won’t be disappointed and consequently, by living according to God’s plan we will not be defeated.
My friends, it is possible to lock onto the goal and purpose that God has for your life. But it takes fervent prayer and a desire to accept His will, whatever direction that may take, to begin to see His direction. My prayer for you today is that you will become convicted to consistently ask God for His direction in your life. When He shows the path for you to follow, then trust Him and His plan with all your heart. Charge down that path with all you’ve got. Pursue His will with a passion. You’ll quickly find that there’s no more fulfilling, peaceful, and thankful place to be in this life than soundly in the center of God’s will.
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Particularly, in the case of a girl, parents grow over cautious while looking for their prince charming as their little princess cannot be married to anyone. They try and find out all that they can about their would be son-in-law. What kind of a person he is? Which family he belongs to? What does he do? Also, which direction will he be from? Is he compatible? How will the marriage be? Well, the questions are endless, bur fortunately with the help of astrology if not all, then definitely most of them can be answered and that too very accurately!
|• Sun (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius)||East|
|• Moon||North West|
|• Mars (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn)||South|
|• Mercury (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces)||North|
|• Jupiter||North East|
|• Venus||South East|
|• Saturn (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius)||West|
|• Rahu||South West|
We can find out the direction of spouse by following points in horoscope:
1. In the direction of planet placed in 7th house
2. In the direction of planet who see the 7th house
3. In the direction of 7th lord
4. In the direction of 7th lord from Venus
The strongest planet among above given four point will be the signifier of ascertaining the direction of spouse’s village/ house
Now let’s discuss the point on the basis of Rashi / signs:
1. Direction of The rashi / navamansha rashi in which strongest planet is posited in 7th house.
2. Direction of The rashi or navmansha rashi of planet who sees the 7th house.
3. In direction of rashi of 7th house
4. Direction of Navmansha rashi of 7th lord.
Lets an example to understand the above points, given below is the Janam Kundali and Navmansh Kundali of a native:
As per the birth chart, Jupiter and Saturn are posited in 7th house. Therefore, the direction of Jupiter is North East and Saturn direction is west. The direction of 7th house’s rashi Libra is west. Rahu is aspecting the 7th house, so the direction of rahu is west south.
In Navmansh chart, the direction of 7th house’s rashi Gemini is also west. Here Rahu and Saturn aspecting the 7th house, direction of Saturn is west. The Saturn who is aspecting the 7th is placed in Libra which shows the west direction again so we can conclude that the west direction is coming most of the time in both Janam Kundali as well as Navmansh kunadli. This native was married from west direction. Hence we can find out the direction of spouse’s House easily by the help of Vedic astrology.
How to obtain direction, meaning, and motivation.
I once had a client who, when asked about her deepest values, paused for a long time, before she finally said: “That’s the scariest thing I’ve ever been asked.”
After another pause, she added, “I’ve not thought about that in a long, long time,” and began to cry.
Unfortunately, the experience of my client is not uncommon. It’s easy to get bogged down in our daily chores and habits while losing sight of what matters most. Like a cog in a machine, we might function on the outside but are actually stuck, repeating the same old motions, unable to change, or even see a different way of living.
We might have mindlessly adopted the values and goals of our friends and family, never daring to explore our own out of fear they might deviate from our cultural upbringing. Or we might have come to doubt our ability to pursue a different path, because we are not smart enough, not confident enough, not good-looking enough, or simply… not enough.
There are many reasons why we lose touch, and they all lead to suffering—because humans are not mindless machines following a programmed script, but rather breathing beings with a yearning for meaning and self-direction. Without purpose, life becomes empty and dull, which is why values are central to my work with clients.
What Values Can Do For You
Values are chosen qualities of being and doing, such as being a caring parent, being a dependable friend, being loving, loyal, honest, and courageous. They can be expressed with verbs and adverbs, like teaching compassionately and giving gratefully. However, they are not goals.
Goals are finite; they are achievements, and once achieved, you are done with them. Values, on the other hand, are enduring, ongoing guides to living. You cannot achieve a value; you can only manifest it by acting in accordance with it.
Your values not only tell you where to focus your efforts and energies but also provide you with a new source of motivation. Whatever pain you have to endure along your journey becomes much easier to bear when it’s in the service of your goals and values. And acting in line with your heart’s deepest desires brings a sense of fulfillment and vitality that no material wealth is able to match.
Which values you choose is completely up to you. However, if you’re unclear what those values might be, and how to implement them, here are a few helpful steps.
How to Know Your Heart’s Deepest Desires
1. Rate Your Life Areas
The following exercise is based on the Valued Living Questionnaire by my friend and colleague Kelly G. Wilson. Please take a look at the following life areas, and rate their importance on a scale of 1-10 (1 = less important, and 10 = highly important). Remember, this is for you and nobody else. There is no right or wrong answer.
- Family (other than marriage or parenting)
- Marriage/couples/intimate relations
- Friends/social life
- Citizenship/community Life
- Physical self-care (diet, exercise, sleep)
- Environmental issues
- Art, creative expression, and aesthetics
2. Rate Your Consistency
Next, look at the life areas once more, but this time rate yourself in terms of how consistent your actions have been lately with your values in each of these domains.
- Family (other than marriage or parenting)
- Marriage/couples/intimate relations
- Friends/social life
- Citizenship/community life
- Physical self-care (diet, exercise, sleep)
- Environmental issues
- Art, creative expression, and aesthetics
3. Write Your Values
Take a look at your answers from the previous exercise and identify the domains that have a high importance score (9 or 10) and a low consistency score (6 or less). These are problem areas, and I suggest you start your values work with one of them.
Next, take a piece of paper and write for 10 minutes about your values in one of your previously identified domains. Really do it—10 minutes is not very long. You can ask yourself, “What do I care about in this area?” or “What do I want to do in this area that reflects that caring?” and ”What might I do to manifest this value more in my life?”
Research has shown that writing about your values has a measurable effect on your health and behavior. Keep in mind that this is only the beginning. There are many ways to connect deeper with your purpose and live more in alignment with your goals and values, lots of which I share in my new book, A Liberated Mind.
Living in line with your values is not just about knowing what matters but also about how to act according to these principles. It’s not a one-time choice, but a lifelong journey of choosing and committing. Again, and again.
Do you need direction from the Lord concerning a specific situation but don’t know how to receive it? Do you desire to hear the Lord answer you whenever you pray? The good news is that you can have the answers you need and the rewarding prayer life you desire. When you pray, you can be confident that you will be able to identify the Holy Spirit’s voice and that you will receive the answers to your prayers.
by Kenneth Copeland
Colossians 1:9-10 reminds us that a rich prayer life is possible: “So we have not stopped praying for you since we first heard about you. We ask God to give you complete knowledge of his will and to give you spiritual wisdom and understanding. Then the way you live will always honor and please the Lord, and your lives will produce every kind of good fruit. All the while, you will grow as you learn to know God better and better.”
The Apostle Paul wrote this passage to the church at Colossae to tell them exactly how he was praying for them. He wanted them to experience the same depth and richness that he and other believers experienced. He asked that they would have:
- Complete knowledge of God’s will
- Spiritual wisdom
Prayer is one of the best ways to receive these spiritual treasures. In Jeremiah 33:3, God promised, “Ask me and I will tell you remarkable secrets you do not know about things to come.” Those “remarkable secrets” are “complete knowledge of His will, and spiritual wisdom and understanding.”
Gaining these spiritual treasures requires tenacity. It takes more than simply bowing your head before your meals or sending up a quick prayer when things get tough. It requires seeking the Lord continually. Below are three habits to help you receive the direction you need every day.
- Set Aside a Designated Prayer Time
This means keeping regular prayer times and studying the Word habitually. Setting aside daily prayer times allows you to focus on the Lord and your relationship with Him. Instead of simply coming to Him with a list of demands, you develop a relationship, and studying the Word helps strengthen that relationship. Through His Word, you begin to understand God’s will and His ways better as you strengthen your faith. You also allow Him to speak to you through His Word.
So often, people want to hear from the Holy Spirit without spending time developing that relationship. They want to treat God like a spiritual ATM. They’d like to drive up, punch in what they want, grab it and be on their way. But relationships take time. As you begin to commune with the Lord regularly, you begin to recognize the Holy Spirit’s voice more easily and hear Him more clearly.
If you want to develop your prayer life, begin by setting aside a designated prayer time. If you keep a calendar, then make an appointment with yourself. In addition to thanking and praising God for allowing you to come boldly before Him in prayer (Hebrews 4:16), begin praying Colossians 1:9-10 over yourself. Ask the Lord to “give you complete knowledge of His will and to give you spiritual wisdom and understanding” so that you “will always honor and please [Him]” and that your life “will produce every kind of good fruit…”as you learn to know [Him] better and better.”
- Spend Time Reading God’s Word
During your appointed time, spend time in God’s Word. Read a chapter or two and stand in faith, believing that God will give you the revelation you need. Slow down, listen and tune in to what the Holy Spirit may be saying to you. This isn’t a time to rush. This is a time to focus on the Lord and listen to the Holy Spirit.
- Pray in Faith
After you read the Word, pray for a while in the Spirit and with your understanding (1 Corinthians 14:15). Pray in other tongues, and ask God to give you the interpretation. He’ll do it if you ask Him in faith. You might not always get the interpretation immediately, but if you will pray with expectation, it will come eventually. It might come as you’re driving to work or while you are at work. Or it might come gradually to your spirit over a matter of weeks, but one day you will have the answer to the situation you’ve been praying about.
Mark 11:24 promises, “I tell you, you can pray for anything, and if you believe that you’ve received it, it will be yours.” As you begin praying in faith for the direction you need, it will come. Trust God that His Word is true!
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Passion is the fuel that inspires us to wake up in the morning. Discovering and claiming our passion is about knowing what we love doing. Acknowledging this can have a powerful effect on our lives. If what we’re doing doesn’t make us happy, then it might be time for us to re-evaluate and recalibrate what would help us elicit the most joy.
Finding your bliss
When you’ve identified a life passion, you’re led to feelings of bliss, or the natural direction to take in order to maximize your sense of fulfillment. Bliss is a more powerful word than happiness. Sometimes people equate bliss with being in a state of euphoria, but in reality, it’s about learning what brings you joy, which is often connected to what you were meant to do with your life, or your calling.
Mythologist and writer Joseph Campbell coined the phrase “Follow your bliss,” another way of saying to follow your heart or listen to your authentic inner voice, which is present in the best writing.
Finding your bliss or your calling is about bringing into your life all those things that bring out your potential and help you live your life to the fullest. It’s also about ridding yourself of habits, situations and relationships that no longer serve you, and replacing them with those that do. Once you open your eyes and are aware of your bliss, opportunities begin to emerge, because the universe hears your desires.
For years, I’ve known that my bliss revolved around writing. I knew this because whenever people asked me when I felt my best, I always responded by saying, “When I’m writing.” This is true, whether I’m crafting poems, blogs, essays or books.
My life is a good example
Sometimes, life passions are established early in life, as a response to childhood experiences. Perhaps an experience was a joyful one; or maybe it was related to trauma or pain as a result of loss, abandonment, being orphaned or being severely hurt (physically or emotionally).
Not everyone responds to challenging situations in the same way, and it is not so much the experiences you had that matter, but how you reacted to them and the effect they had on your life. If you had a disharmonious past, perhaps you’ve drawn meaning from your lived experiences and have decided to help others navigate similar paths.
My life provides a good example. I was raised in the 1960s in New York. My parents were immigrants and worked two jobs. My maternal grandmother lived with us and was my caretaker. When I was 10, she took her life in her bedroom, which was next to mine, and I was the one who found her.
Years later, I learned that she was tormented by the demons of her past and by being orphaned during the First World War. My mother was dealing with her own grief, and wasn’t quite sure how to help me cope with this tragedy.
As a journal-keeper herself, she bought me a Kahlil Gibran journal and told me to write down my feelings. I’d sit for hours in my walk-in closet, clothes hanging above my head, pouring my heart and grief out onto the journal’s pages. This experience taught me two things: that writing heals, and that our early childhood rituals and hobbies can be a clue to our capacity for joy later in life.
Little did my mother know that her seemingly benign gesture of buying me a journal would be the springboard for my life as a writer. In fact, receiving that journal was a pivotal moment for me, as I realized that when I was writing, my heart was singing. That’s how I knew that writing was a career path for me.
Now, more than five decades later, my journal continues to be a place I go to share my innermost sentiments and feelings. It is my confidant and best friend. Journaling about losing my grandmother transitioned into journaling about my turbulent teen years, raising a difficult daughter and two cancer diagnoses.
When people remark that they’re unhappy and feeling somewhat lost, I typically ask them, “What brought you joy or bliss as a child?” They’re often surprised to be asked this question, and it’s interesting to watch smiles spread across their faces. They stop to reflect, and then I ask whether they’ve ever thought of revisiting their childhood passions.
Inevitably, they say, “I haven’t thought about that in so long.” I suggest that they write about what gave them joy back then, and see what unfolds on the page—perhaps some juicy revelations or illuminations. In many ways, I believe that our childhoods hold the key to our life passions and who we become as adults.
A very important gift
My mother, in her role as my muse, gave me another very important gift. Twice a month after school, she’d drive me to the local library in her light-blue VW station wagon. She’d walk me to the children’s section and tell me to choose as many books as I wanted. My favourite ones were the true-life stories or biographies about real people doing real things.
Some of my favourite books were about Florence Nightingale, Clara Barton, Abigail Adams, Helen Keller, Thomas Edison and John Hancock. I would arrive at the checkout desk with books piled up to my chin, and my mother would smile in approval as she pulled out her red wallet to hand over my very own library card. The librarian would smile at us as we walked out the glass doors to the car.
As a child, I was inspired to read and write. Children’s passions are reinforced by the adults around them. In school and at home, I received accolades for my writing. This encouraged me to write even more. Thus, the creative spark was nurtured early on.
Now, as a parent to three adult children with four grandchildren, I’m constantly noticing what brings them joy, and I wonder how it will translate into their lives as a whole. Sometimes, it’s a good idea to look back to our childhoods and think about those times when we received praise and encouragement, and then determine if that’s where our bliss may lie.
When we’re at a crossroads in our lives, we might stop to ask ourselves about our overall purpose and destiny, and how to discover what that is. These are sacred and awakening questions that encourage transformation and compel us to examine what matters most.
While in the discovery process, we might notice untapped talents and desires. Writing is a productive way to tap into the answers to these questions.
For some people, living their passion seems to come naturally. They throw themselves into the pursuits they love with no regard for what society expects of them. But it isn’t that easy for all of us.
You’ve made lists. You’ve asked your friends for advice. You’ve tried journaling and you’ve analyzed every thought you’ve ever had. Yet, you’re still asking yourself “ what is my passion ?”
That’s because passion comes from the heart, not the head. Chances are, you already know what your passion is. You just need to connect with it.
Do you need help unlocking your passion for life?
1. SHIFT YOUR PERSPECTIVE
For many, living a life of passion feels unrealistic. Because they feel this way, some people aren’t optimistic about changing. If you enter the journey to discover your passion with this mindset, you’re setting yourself up for failure. The only way to succeed in finding your passion for life is to 1 hift your mindset to one of positivity and possibility. Be open to the adventure you’re about to have. Get excited about what is possible. Look forward to the incredible life ahead of you. Only if you’re truly open and ready for change will you find what you’re passionate about. Realize that life happens for you, not to you – but you must listen to what it’s telling you.
2. Discover your top human need
As human beings, we all have Six Human Needs : certainty, significance, variety, love/connection, growth and contribution. Life is a delicate balance between these, but we all have one top need that is most essential to our happiness. Discovering your driving force can give you a window into how to find your passion for life by showing you what you need most to feel fulfilled.
3. Look at what you love
Look at your bookshelf, favorite movies or the last play you saw – is there a common theme? Think about your favorite summer job or the last time you got so caught up in a project, you completely lost track of time. Think about what you loved to do as a child – drawing, writing, dancing. So often, we give up our passions when we become adults because we think we have to grow into something we aren’t. This isn’t true. Tap into the activities and topics that used to fill you up when you were younger. Ask yourself: What could you talk about for 30 minutes with no prep time? What topics make other people think of you? What do you love teaching others? These are all hints about how to find your passion in life.
4. Notice where you spend your free time
Your hobbies aren’t necessarily the same as your true passion, but they can provide a hint. If you spend a lot of your free time reading, your passion could involve writing, teaching or research – anything that feeds your mind the way reading does. If you enjoy fixing things around the house, your passion likely involves creating and building. If you enjoy dancing or exercising , you are probably drawn to movement and expression. Think deeper about your extracurriculars and you could uncover your passion.
5. Recognize your patterns
The human brain loves patterns. Sometimes this is a bad thing, as we get stuck in unhealthy habits . But sometimes, it can provide a clue into what really matters to us. Long-term patterns will often reveal hints on how to find your passion . Is there something that seems to come up in your life again and again? A need to travel means you crave new experiences. Gravitating toward a certain author, speaker or businessperson could mean they inspire you. Patterns aren’t coincidences – they’re how our subconscious communicates with us. When you start to recognize them, you’ll be one step closer to building a life you are passionate about.
6. Use the rocking chair test
Tony teaches the rocking chair test frequently at his events because it is one of the most powerful ways to unlock how to find your passion. Imagine yourself when you are 90 years old, sitting on your porch in your rocking chair and reminiscing about your life. What is your biggest regret? What do you wish you had experienced? What passion do you wish you had followed? How do you want to be remembered? All of these questions will unlock something in you and give you hints at what really matters to you. Chances are, it won’t be what society has conditioned you to think it is.
7. Examine your fears
One creative way to figure out how to find your passion in life is to think about what scares you. Have you thought about quitting your job to write, dance, start a business, bake cupcakes or walk dogs – and the thought absolutely terrified you? If you feel excitement and fear when you think about going all-in with a certain skill or pastime, that’s a sign it’s your passion. It’s time to stop letting that fear hold you back . You may fail at first but don’t let the fear of failure hold you back. Keep trying.
8. Get unreasonable
There is a reason that Tony says that “Passion is found in the field of the unreasonable.” Passions aren’t rational. They often directly conflict with what society teaches us to want: get a degree, get a boring office job, put up with a long commute and only have fun on the weekends. That’s why you need to listen to your heart instead of your limiting beliefs . Cut the word “unrealistic” from your vocabulary. Let yourself dream big. Create the most extraordinary life you possibly can. Anything is possible if you remain open to change and the unknown.
9. Get out of your comfort zone
Still drawing a blank on how to find your passion in life? If you spend your days commuting, working and sitting in front of the TV, you’ll never figure out what ignites that spark of passion. You need to get out of your comfort zone and have new experiences. Take a class. Join a sport. Travel somewhere new. Try new foods. Research something you always thought seemed interesting. Answering the question “ what are you passionate about? ” is going to take some work. It will probably make you feel uncomfortable at first. Life – and finding your passion – begins at the end of your comfort zone.
10. Cultivate belief in yourself
Many times, the answer to how to discover your passion is right in front of you, but you’re refusing to see it. Open your eyes and believe that life can be extraordinary. To make your life a masterpiece, you must become unstoppable . Turn your “shoulds” into “musts,” eliminate excuses and accept nothing less than a life filled with joy. This may sound impossible at first – but once you commit to overcoming your fears, you’ll be able to overcome self-doubt and reservation, too. This is the first step to finding your passion.
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If push comes to the shove and you need to find the true north without a compass, you must know how to do that to survive. We’ll tell you how today!
In this article:
Finding True North: Navigate Outdoors Without a Compass
1. Shadow-Tip Method
There are three essential components in using a stick to act as a true north compass: the sun, a stick, and the stick’s shadow.
- Place a stick upright on level ground where it can cast a shadow.
- Mark the tip of the shadow and wait for about 10-15 mins. until the shadow changes its position. When it does, mark the second shadow.
- Stand on the first mark with your left foot and the second mark on with your right. Doing this would make you stand in front of the true north.
2. Stars in the Northern Hemisphere
What is the Northern Hemisphere? The portion of the globe above the equator. The Northern Hemisphere consists of 90% of the world’s whole population.
Looking at the stars in the northern hemisphere is one of the best ways on how to find true north without a compass. This is a good method to use when the stars are shining brightly in the clear night skies.
Locate the Big Dipper constellation and draw an imaginary line on its two outer stars.
In sky lore, these two stars are called Dubhe and Merak. The line points to Polaris which is the last star in the Little Dipper constellation.
Now that you found Polaris, just draw an imaginary line downward and that is where the true north is.
3. Stars in the Southern Hemisphere
If you’re in the Southern Hemisphere, the North Star will not be visible. Hence, you must look for the Little Dipper instead.
- Look for the Southern Cross, which is composed of five stars and is angled on one side.
- Put five imaginary lines as big as the longest axis of the Southern Cross in front of its angled side.
- From there, draw another imaginary line downward — this points toward the true south. Thus, this makes the opposite direction the true north.
4. Stars in the Equator
In this method, you’ll be using Orion’s Belt to navigate. It runs from east to west, so you can project a line from these directions.
Projecting another line starting from the middle star of the belt downward will point you to the true north.
5. A Watch in the Northern Hemisphere
Hold your watch horizontally and make sure the hour hand points at the sun. Bisect that angle you see between your watch’s hour hand and the 12 o’clock — this angle is the north-south line.
In the Northern Hemisphere, the sun is in the south when it’s midday, so opposite of it will be where north is. If, on the other hand, you follow daylight saving time, then bisect it with the 1 o’clock instead of 12.
6. A Watch in the Southern Hemisphere
When you’re in the Southern Hemisphere, point the 12 o’clock at the sun or 1 o’clock if it’s on daylight saving time. Bisect a line from the hour hand and the one pointed at the sun, which makes your north-south line.
Since you’re in the Southern Hemisphere, the sun is due north at midday, leading you to where the true north is.
7. Sun’s Direction
Knowing where the sun is positioned will help you find where the true north is. Technically, the sun rises in the east and sets in the west.
So by early morning, watch where the sun rises. The true north will be a quarter turn counterclockwise from that direction.
On the other hand, if you see the sunset, which is the west direction, the north is roughly a quarter turn clockwise from that direction.
Download or reference this infographic for future reference.
Of course, finding the true north is simpler if you have a compass, so it’s best to always keep one in your bug out bag. But in cases when there’s none, learning the above-mentioned ways can help you out in finding your way back.
I’ve tried the shadow-tip method and it worked perfectly. The downside, though, is you need to have sunlight to be able to use this method so it will be hard to rely on this one after sunset.
Do you know other ways to find true north without a compass? Share them in the comments section below!
Editor’s Note: This post was originally published on August 11, 2017, and has been updated for quality and relevancy.
Having a Say in Your Life
Self-Direction gives you the chance to choose your own services so you can live the life you want. When you self-direct your services, you have increased flexibility to choose the right supports for you, the staff you want to work with and a schedule that works best for you. This gives you more control over how you want to structure your life.
Things you can self-direct:
- where you live
- how you spend your days
- what you do in your spare time
- how you stay healthy and active
- your relationships with family and friends
- who you hire to assist you
Your care manager can help you learn more about Self-Direction and guide you through the steps you need to take.
Living the Life That’s Right for You
Everyone has their own likes and dislikes, hobbies and favorite activities. Having a choice is what Self-Direction is all about. You will get to pick your own activities, staff and schedule when you self-direct.
Self-Direction may be right for you if you can make your own decisions (or have someone to help you do so) and if you want more responsibility, flexible supports and services. Anyone who is eligible for OPWDD services and enrolled in the Home and Community Based Services (HCBS) Waiver can choose to self-direct their services.
Although the process may seem complicated at first, you will get help at every step. First, you can attend a Self-Direction information session at a nearby Developmental Disabilities Regional Office (DDRO). You will meet with a team of people whom you choose, (your Circle of Support) and they will help you select your services and put together a budget. Your Circle of Support can include family and close friends, your Care Manager, a Support Broker and staff who know you well. You will talk about what you want from life and make it a reality.
Self-Direction is flexible. You can change things in your plan when you want something different. You can always switch back to a more traditional model of supports if Self-Direction doesn’t suit you.
Now that we all have GPS and Google Maps on our phones, we’ve gotten pretty bad at reading actual, paper maps and knowing which direction we’re facing. So what’s a modern person to do in the event that they don’t have their phone or a compass and need to know which way is north? Here are a few strategies to point you in the right direction.
Use the sun
This is pretty basic info, but the sun rises in the east and sets in the west. If you’re trying to figure out which direction you’re facing during sunrise or sunset, paying attention to where the sun is moving is your best bet.
But what about the rest of the day? For this, we turn to the Pursuing Outdoors for another method:
First, we need to find a clean patch of land that gets a lot of direct sunlight. Then, we need to find a stick and plant it in the ground.
Once we have done that, we will be able to see the stick’s shadow. We should place a mark at the tip of it. After about 30 minutes, the tip of the shadow will move and we will need to mark it again.
Now that we have two points, we can connect them with a line. That line will give us a rough idea of the east-west direction.
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Unfortunately, this will only really work on a sunny day, but it’s a handy trick to know. Also, it should go without say, but never look directly into the sun.
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Use an analog watch
Telling time on a non-digital clock or watch is becoming a lost art , but if you’re in need of a compass and happen to be wearing an analog watch, you’re in luck. Actually, even if you have a fancy digital watch, all you need to do is visualize the hands on the dial. Then try this trick from Kirk Reynolds, CEO and guide at Discover Outdoors via Mental Floss :
Take the watch off and align the hour hand with the sun. Imagine a line that intersects the halfway point between the hour and 12:00. That line is pointing south. For example, if it’s 4:00, the halfway line will be pointing to 2:00. Note that in the summer, you will need to adjust for Daylight Savings by one hour, so move your hour hand back an hour. If you’re in the Southern hemisphere, align the sun with 12:00 and the imaginary line will be pointing north.
Stop feeling confused and overwhelmed; this exercise will help you gain clarity.
A lot of people come to work with me because they feel stuck, and they want to change their life. But one of the first obstacles we run into is that when I ask them what they want their life to look like, they often don’t know.
Knowing what you want is the first and most important step in creating a better future. But how do you make this important decision? Trying to decide what you want in a world full of so many choices can seem overwhelming.
On the other hand, most people have a very good idea of what they don’t want in life. We look around and see all the terrible things happening in the world, and we realize we don’t want war, we don’t want poverty, we don’t want sickness.
We look at our own lives and think about the things that don’t feel right, such as the boss who nags, the spouse who isn’t supportive, the kids who don’t listen, or the empty checking account. You may have thoughts like: “I don’t want to be poor,” “I don’t want to work at this lousy job where no one appreciates me,” or “I don’t want to have to deal with the screaming kids who never listen.”
The good news is if you can identify what you don’t want, knowing what you do want is definitely within your reach. To perceive anything, there must be a contrast between the two states. To know that something is unwanted, we must know that something else is wanted instead. One serves as the reference point for the other.
For example, we could not identify the wanted state of happiness if we did not know what it was like to experience the unwanted state of being unhappy. The reason you can identify what you don’t want is that you are aware some other, preferable state exists, otherwise you wouldn’t know it was unwanted. You simply have to give more of your attention to the wanted state and give it some clarity.
Once you have identified what you don’t want, see if you can flip it over and find the contrasting wanted state. If you don’t want to live in the city, perhaps it is because you prefer a slower country pace. If you don’t want to work in a retail job, but you aren’t sure what kind of job you would like, write down as many details as you can about what you don’t like in retail. For example, “I don’t like retail because it’s exhausting to stand on my feet all day. Instead, I would like a job where I could spend more time at a desk.”
Once you have identified what you don’t want, ask yourself: What would I like to see instead?
Don’t want: I don’t want a spouse who doesn’t appreciate me.
Want: I want a spouse who adores me and treats me with respect.
Don’t want: I don’t want to work at this lousy job.
Want: I want a job that stimulates me intellectually and allows me to be creative.
Get as specific as possible. Once you have decided you want a job that is stimulating and creative, start thinking about other aspects of the job you would like, such as independence, a lot of interaction with coworkers, increased responsibility, a better salary. The more details you include, the more specific you can be in developing the plan and the steps necessary to achieve your goal.
A worksheet to help with this can be found here.
Deciding what you want today does not mean you can’t change your mind tomorrow. Often, we think we want something, but as we find out more about it, we change our minds. Consider this a success, not a failure. It doesn’t mean you don’t know what you want; it means you know you want something else instead.
Focus on that “something else instead,” and go in that direction. Deciding that you don’t want something that you thought you did, just means you are making a more informed decision with new data that wasn’t available to you before; it is not the same as giving up when things get difficult.
Also, keep in mind there is no final destination in life. Every time you obtain something you want, you have a new perspective from which to see other possibilities. Choosing something you want doesn’t mean you give up all other possibilities; it means you open the door to possibilities you didn’t know existed.
If you find yourself looking at your list of wants and saying, I don’t really believe I can have what I want, then you have a different issue about your expectations of the future. You act on what you expect, not what you want—so your expectations need to align with your wants, or you won’t be able to achieve them.
To work on changing your expectations, you may wish to check out my TEDx talk on exactly this topic or read my book Think Forward to Thrive, which is all about developing the skills you need to create a better future.
Vilhauer, Jennice (2014). Think Forward to Thrive: How to Use the Mind’s Power of Anticipation to Transcend Your Past and Transform Your Life. New World Library. Novato, CA.
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“Dharma” is a Sanskrit word that translates literally to “right direction,” “rightful duty,” or “righteous living.” But the concept of dharma has a far deeper meaning than its direct translation.
Essentially, your dharma means your purpose in life. Your dharma is your true calling – what you were put here to do.
Ancient yoga texts describe dharma as an inner wisdom, or a cosmic guidance that governs not only you and me as individuals, but the entire Universe itself! So how do you find – and then follow – your inner dharma?
Your dharma is your true calling – what you were put here to do.
As abstract as the concept of dharma sounds, there are ways to listen to your own inner voice of this dharma . . .
IF you can identify it above all the other voices around you – of your culture, of your conscience, of society’s expectations, and of beliefs handed down through generations.
We can easily get lost in the chaos of all these voices, but once we can access and become attuned to it, our dharma acts as a guiding light. And once we become aware of our true purpose, we can step into our full power and potential.
Here Are 5 Techniques to Help You Find Your Dharma:
1. The Trail of Joy
Follow your joy, and it will lead you straight to your dharma. I might say joy is the easiest way to find that inner guiding voice and follow your dharma!
What makes you joyful? What makes your heart sing? What makes your soul shine? Whether it’s nature or art or poetry, look for the joy that’s calling to you, and simply follow it. If you follow those things that fill you with joy, your inner purpose will find you!
As the saying goes, “Follow your bliss – it will always lead you home.”
2. The Track of Synchronicity
Synchronicity happens when a series of events guide you toward a particular next step. It’s a phenomenon that the Universe uses to show you that you’re on the right track, and to show you your next steps.
When you can listen to your inner guiding voice, it will illuminate these synchronicities.
Take note of any synchronistic events or occurrences that show up in your life, and follow their clues! The more you become aware of the synchronicities in your life, the easier it will be to recognize and understand them.
The more you become aware of the synchronicities in your life, the easier it will be to recognize and understand them.
3. The Highway of Letting Go
Being able to let go of the things, people, beliefs and behaviors that are not serving your purpose might be the hardest, but also the most essential step of finding your dharma.
When we don’t let them go, we’re weighed down by them. It’s only when we can consciously let them go that we can make room for more of the things, people and blessings that align us with our purpose.
Because when one door closes, another opens . . .
4. The Path of Practice
The above three methods are ideal for finding your inner voice that guides you to your dharma. But it doesn’t end there! Once you’ve found your purpose, you then must listen to and follow it by practicing whatever it is on a regular basis.
The more you practice, the closer you get to your soul’s purpose!
Any practice that leads you to your dharma – whether it’s yoga and meditation, or nature and art, make a ritual to include them into your daily life. The more you practice, the closer you get to your soul’s purpose!
5. The Way of Being
Paradoxical to the step above, where practice can mean action, it is just as important to make time in your day for non-action – for doing nothing – and simply being.
If you can step away from your phone, facebook and email, and take time to invite more “being” into your life – by going for a walk each day, or taking a solitary retreat once a month – you will find opportunities to realign with the cycles of nature, the energy of the universe, and the center of your Being.
Dharma and Finding Your Life Purpose: The Takeaway
Start by accessing that guiding voice within yourself. We all possess it – it’s simply a matter of recognizing and becoming attuned to it. Through this guiding voice, we can begin to find our true purpose in life – our dharma.
When each of us can practice using our joys, talents, and gifts to express ourselves in the best way possible, to fulfill our potential and purpose, we will create and participate in a society full of dharmic beings.
Thus, we will help create a more conscious planet – something we as a human race need more now than ever before.
Have you discovered your dharma and want to share your experience? Have questions about dharma and finding your life purpose? Please share in the comments below – we love hearing from you!
You know how to ASK for directions, but what happens when an English speaker asks YOU for directions. This is not a time for small talk. Give only basic directions with short phrases. Do the best you can.
Questions you may hear
How do I get to Main Street?
Where is the closest gas station?
Can you tell me where the community centre is?
I’m looking for Jane Street.
Are you from around here?
If you know the way…
Use basic English to offer directions. Short phrases are best. Speak slowly and use very careful pronunciation. Spell out a word if necessary.
The easiest way is to…
The quickest way is to…
The best way is to…
go + direction (right, left, down, up, through)
take + road name
turn + right/left
stay on + road name for + distance or time
The easiest way is to go right on Commercial Avenue.
The quickest way is to take Road Number 1.
The best way is to turn right on Main Street.
Stay on Route 1 for about ten minutes.
Separate each leg of the route with a transition.
when you get to…go…
Offer “Ballpark Figures” (rough estimates of time or length of travel)
Some people feel better knowing how long it will take to get from A to B.
It’s just around the corner (not far).
It’s not far.
It’s a bit of a way. (it takes a while)
It’s about a five minute walk.
It’s about a twenty minute bus ride.
Tell the person what to watch for.
You will see a large clock on the right.
You will pass a gas station.
It’s across from the blue church.
More useful language
It’s on + street name
It’s across from
It’s around the corner from
Stay in the right lane.
It’s a very busy road.
It’s a big hill. (if they are walking or on a bike)
There might be construction.
If you pass the … you went too far.
There’s no parking.
If YOU repeat the directions again, the other person will feel more confident. Repeat important details including street names and turns. You can also ask the other person to repeat the directions back to you.
If you are in the car with the driver…
Give a lot of warning.
Turn right at the next street
Get in the left lane.
Go one more block. Then turn right.
At the next traffic lights turn…
It’s going to be on your right.
Make sure that the other person understood your directions. Say: “Did you get all that?”
If you don’t know the way…
Don’t guess! Don’t just shake your head and walk away. Use one of these phrases:
I’m sorry, I’m not from here.
I’m afraid I can’t help you.
Sorry I don’t know my way around here.
Offer another solution
You could ask the bus driver.
Ask the front desk clerk.
Follow me. I’ll show you the way.
Do you want me to draw you a map?
“Read the directions and directly you will be directed in the right direction.”
(Alice in Wonderland)
Career and Success
Sometimes the biggest questions you can ask yourself—Who am I? What is my purpose? Where can I find fulfillment?—come down to a very simple one: What shall I do today?
Grand visions aren’t hard to think up; carrying them out is the problem. Everyone’s days are filled with distractions. Duties and demands pile up steadily. The bigger issues become hazy when your to-do list is overflowing. So how can we bring vision and practicality closer together?
The world’s wisdom traditions tell us to look inside for the real obstacles that block the way to fulfillment. Outer demands will always fill the time given to them. Pitching into the swirling activity of daily life inevitably makes existence seem stressed and chaotic. What you can do instead is to examine your reality “in here,” which is where clarity can be found.
What most people find when they look inside are the following ingredients in their mental makeup:
- Confusion: this manifests as not setting clear priorities because the path ahead doesn’t look clear and decisive.
- Distraction: this manifests as a hundred small things that pull your attention this way and that.
- Disorganization: this manifests as a lack of orderly thinking that leads to productive results.
These three ingredients make up the managerial part of mental life, which is a basic necessity. There’s a spectrum of problems that changes from person to person. The tightly controlled, highly disciplined thinker is at one end, while the vague dreamer sits at the other edge of the spectrum. There are countless variations in how we use our minds. If your goal is clarity, set aside the thoughts and sensations that fill your mind every day. Focus instead on the goal of finding clarity.
- Confusion is solved by getting your priorities straight.
- Distraction is solved by getting better at focusing your attention.
- Disorganization is solved by throwing out non-essentials and tending to the important things first.
Remember that we are talking about your inner life, so achieving clarity isn’t the same as cleaning the house and straightening out every room. The solution doesn’t lie in attacking the problem directly. If you become a kind of efficiency expert, you could probably sort your thinking out in a more orderly, focused way. But the effort would be a strain, and the results would likely be temporary. It is far better to find a way to let the mind become orderly, focused, and clear on its own.
We’ve all been taught, one way or another, that the mind will run amok if it isn’t watched and controlled. Like a child, it is easily distracted; an undisciplined mind will run around in all directions. But few people have actually tested whether the mind’s nature is so chaotic. We take for granted, looking at our own confusion, that it would be a struggle to turn inner chaos into something more orderly. This is where the world’s wisdom traditions offer a valuable secret.
They teach that the unsettled mind comes about through one thing only: losing sight of who we really are. You can’t be a puppet of outside demands and pressures unless you see yourself as secondary while the world “out there” is primary. After all, how can you eat, put a roof over your head, raise a family, and so on without plunging into the hard realities of daily existence? The answer lies in finding out who you really are—a conscious agent who can choose, at any time, to live from the level of the true self.
By committing to the practice of meditation, you take your mind to this level where clarity is natural and effortless. The analogy of a river helps to show what happens. On the surface, a river is fast-flowing and whipped up into waves and eddies. As you descend into it, however, the river’s flow becomes slow and steady. At the very bottom, the water may be so calm that it hardly moves at all. In the same way, there’s a level of the mind that knows only peace, calmness, and clarity. But unlike a river bottom, it’s not sluggish. There’s a beautiful balance between relaxation and alertness.
The settled mind, in fact, is the most capable of meeting the day’s demands because it is guided from within. Self-awareness dominates, which means that you know who you are and where you’re going. Suddenly, it turns out that the day contains enough time for you to find fulfillment, which is a timeless quality that is undisturbed by demands, duties, and distractions.
Regular daily meditation also leads to changes in your everyday life that can be summarized as dos and don’ts.
- Make your surroundings orderly and uncluttered.
- Take a close look at the stresses that need to be addressed.
- Keep away from negative influences.
- Find a friend or confidante who shares your vision of clarity and fulfillment.
- Center yourself several times a day whenever you feel distracted or unsettled.
- Go outside to experience the calm and inspiration of Nature.
- Follow a regular, daily routine.
- Get eight hours of good sleep every night.
- Remain in situations that are disordered and stressful.
- Push your work time to the limit of exhaustion, mental or physical.
- Be tied down by other people’s opinions and attitudes.
- Let stress go unaddressed.
- Let a good night’s sleep slip by more than once or twice a week.
- Immerse yourself in bad news and the world’s chaotic unrest.
- Ignore your body’s signals; be aware of when it wants to rest, nourishment, downtime, and a chance to reset itself through meditation and quiet time alone.
- Forget to provide yourself with pure food, water, and air.
What these lists suggest is that as your inner world becomes more orderly and clear, your actions in the outer world should follow suit. Both sides of the equation are important. Just remember that without inner clarity, all the external neatness and organization won’t serve as a substitute. Inner fulfillment is the goal of life, and always has been.
Imagine a tightrope walker in a circus. He is on a rope suspended a few feet above the straw covered floor. His purpose is to walk the rope from one end to other. He holds a long bar in his hands to help him maintain his balance. But he must do more than simply walk. On his shoulders he balances a chair. And in that chair sits a young woman who is balancing a rod on her forehead, and on top of that rod is a plate.
If at any time one of the items should start to drift off balance, he must stop until he can get all of them in perfect alignment again—for the tightrope artist doesn’t begin until all the elements above him are aligned. Only then does he move forward, carefully, slowly, across the rope.
Life is very much a balancing act, and we are always just a step away from a fall. We are constantly trying to move forward with our purpose, to achieve our goals, all the while trying to keep in balance the various elements of our lives.
If any aspect of our life draws a disproportionate amount of energy, we have to shortchange the other aspects. That throws us off—and we are unable to move forward on life’s tightrope until a balance can be reestablished. We have to deal with any areas that are taking too much energy and put them in perspective, align them, so that we have energy available for all areas.
It’s important to understand that others cannot do this for us. No one can think, breathe, feel, see, experience, love or die for us. It’s up to us to balance all the different aspects of our lives. We just have to decide to do it.
How? What’s the first step? To stop and assess how we’re doing. To look at all the various aspects of our lives that we are constantly juggling, constantly trying to keep in balance—marriage and family, money, health, social circles, spiritual development, mental growth.
Are we able to devote ample energy to all areas? Or are we tipped to one side, unbalanced in one direction? Here’s how to balance it all out:
1. Assess your life as it is now.
Looking at ourselves as we really are is the first step in restructuring our lives. Do you feel physically exhausted, mentally stagnant or find yourself without close relationships? Would you call yourself a workaholic? Do you feel a lack of spiritual alignment? If you answer yes to any of these questions, your life is probably out of balance.
2. Make a conscious decision to become balanced.
Choosing reality as our basis of decision is the second step to becoming balanced. Achieving balance allows us to reach our goals and our purpose in life while creating less stress to do so. A conscious decision to change is now in order.
3. And make that decision on a minute-to-minute schedule.
We are all instant forgetters. Remember all those resolutions you made way back in January? Renewing our decisions on a daily, minute-to-minute basis allows us to ease into change, instead of expecting things to change overnight.
4. Set goals in every area of your life.
Set realistic goals in all areas of your life to assist yourself in remembering that your ultimate goal is balance. Your goals should cover:
• Your relationships
• Your physical being
• Your spiritual alignment
• Your mental development
• Your job
• Your finances
5. Be willing to take the risk.
Being willing to assess ourselves and take the risk to change will not only enhance our lives, but you will feel more energy and an expanded awareness of what life is all about. Acknowledging that balance is essential and recreating your life to encompass your decision is worth all the risk.
6. Make time to reassess yourself on a daily basis.
None of us can really know how well we are doing with change in our lives unless we are willing to reassess our position. Don’t feel that your decisions are made in concrete; if something feels that it isn’t working, be willing to look at a new decision. Make time for yourself every day, in a quiet meditative state, to relax and “check yourself out.”
It hasn’t been long since smartphones and GPS units have become the norm, but thankfully they’re always there to help us find our way. Unless, of course, you lose internet access, run out of battery, or get lost in a place with no streets. When that happens, it helps to know how to find your way.
Navigation Tricks You Can Use Anywhere
Perhaps one of the easiest places to get lost is in places like the forest or desert. Away from roads and signs, everything can start to look the same. Fortunately, there are other ways to get your bearings and figure out where you’re headed.
Guide Yourself with the Sun
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Anyone who’s ever had to reboot a computer in front of Samuel L. Jackson knows that navigating with the sun should be a first resort. While it’s roughly simple to find an east-to-west line when the sun is up, it’s also important to note that the line is not constant from season to season. It also changes based on where you are in the world:
The exact bearing of sunrise and sunset is determined by your latitude and the time of year. The greater your latitude and the closer you are to one of the solstices, the further from east and west the sun rises and sets. If you take it to the extreme, then in the Arctic Circle in June the sun rises so far north of east and sets so far north of west that these points actually overlap – in other words the sun doesn’t set.
If you walk in the direction of sunrise in March or September and then turn around at the end of the day and head back towards sunset you stand a good chance of finding your way back to where you set out from (out east, back west). If you try the same thing in midsummer or midwinter you will get horribly lost. If you walk towards sunrise in midwinter you would need to walk with the sunset over your left shoulder to get back to the same spot at the end of the day (out southeast, back northwest).
You can read more about how to figure out what direction you’re traveling based on the sun’s position here . Once you’ve figured out the lines along which the sun travels in the sky in your area, you can use it reliably to figure out which direction you’re heading by taking into account what time of year it is.
Use the Stars for Guidance at Night
The sun may be helpful during the day, but at night, the stars are your eyes. If you’re a constellation nerd, you’ll have a leg up on the rest of us, but everyone else can still pick out a few key lights that are almost always visible that can help guide you:
- The North Star: The quickest, easiest way to get your bearings (if you’re in the northern hemisphere anyway) is to locate the North Star, Polaris. From our earthly perspective, it doesn’t seem to move and is always within one degree of true north. You can locate Polaris using the panhandle of the Big Dipper, one of the most easily identifiable constellations (more information on locating the North Star can be found here ).
- Orion: Another useful constellation is the easy-to-spot Orion. Its distinctive belt makes it simple to spot in a crowded sky. The belt runs roughly east to west (though, like with the sun, it’s a little bit more complicated than that), and the hunter’s sword points roughly South . The downside to Orion, though, is that you can’t use it in the summer months. During this time, Orion is out during the day so it’s not visible.
- The rest of the 57 stars used for navigation: Most of you probably won’t end up lost at sea, but if the Sun, Polaris, and Orion aren’t enough for you to navigate, read up on the rest of 57 stars that sailors use for navigation .
Keep Track of Landmarks and Don’t Walk Aimlessly
If you’re lost, don’t move until you know where you are. The more you move aimlessly, the farther you could end up from civilization. Start by identifying memorable landmarks . While it’s generally bad form to cut into a tree or permanently mark it (if you’re in a designated reserve or camping area, this can get you in trouble), tying a piece of fabric to a tree can help identify when you’ve gotten turned around, as well as aiding anyone who might be trying to find you.
In many ancient cultures, we see the importance of looking to the natural world and the four directions of north, south, east, and west. Similarly, the magnetic compass directions are meaningful in the practice of feng shui and are used in a variety of different applications. For instance, the directions correspond to different bagua areas. Another one of the ways we work with the directions is to use them so they are supportive and favorable for your personal feng shui kua number. In the traditional and classical schools of feng shui, practitioners will often work with the compass directions in tandem with your birth information to advise you on the adjustments and positions for you in your home.
Your personal feng shui kua number can tell you the best magnetic directions for you to face while sleeping, when working at your desk, and even who you’re most compatible with. It can also advise you on the best directions to invite in more money and success, to improve your sense of wellness, to attract love, and for your personal growth.
Your Feng Shui Kua Number
|Your Feng Shui Kua Number|
|Kua number||Trigram name||Direction|
First, you can calculate your personal feng shui kua number. This number is formulated using your birthdate to assign a number to you that connects to a direction. Once you find your personal feng shui kua number, you can look at the chart below to locate your favorable directions.
Best Directions Chart
|Your Favorable and Best Feng Shui Directions|
|Kua Number||For Money and Success||To Improve Health||To Attract Love||For Personal Growth|
Your Best Bed Direction
Your bed and bedroom represents you, so it’s one of the most important areas to take care of when it comes to feng shui.
After you find your personal feng shui kua number, you can use our chart to locate your best bed directions. This refers to the direction that the top of your head is pointing towards. Based on your kua number, all of the four directions listed will be favorable. The most favorable would be the directions that improve your well-being and support your personal growth. The others are fine, too, though the money and success direction may be too stimulating.
Your Best Desk Direction
In feng shui, your desk is a symbol of and affects your career, your wealth, and your path in life. You can use the insight from your personal kua number to determine a favorable and supportive direction to face while you’re at your desk working. For desks, the direction connected to money and success is obviously a lucky one to face. In addition, the improving your health direction will also invite good luck and prosperity. The least desirable at the desk may be the personal growth direction that may lead to too much relaxation and procrastination if you have trouble focusing.
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Keep in Mind
It’s easy to jump to a negative approach if you can’t easily identify an ideal direction. So, please keep in mind that there are other factors that affect your feng shui, such as the commanding position, the other people in your home, the annual flying star positions, and just plain common sense. The mundane aspects of your home are just as, if not more important than these energetic adjustments. For instance, don’t try to set up your bed in the kitchen so you can achieve your best direction.
And in general, remind yourself that you can only do the best you can with what you have. It’s not good feng shui to take a negative black and white approach to this. Yin and yang describe the unity with the dualities, so find the middle way.
Did You Know?
The personal feng shui kua numbers also correspond to the eight areas of the feng shui bagua map.
Asking for directions is the first thing we do when we arrive to a different country, or even when we are just trying to find a place. Knowing how to ask for them can make our life so much easier!
The way we ask for directions may affect the answer we get. Luckily, Canadians are known for being very polite and helpful. Here are some tips you can use when you need to get from place A to place B.
1. Use Greetings and Polite Expressions
Starting the conversation with a greeting is a must. If you want to receive a nice explanation, begin by saying hello first.
Hello! Good Afternoon!
Excuse me, could you help me?
Hello! May I ask for some help? I need to get to the CN Tower
Tip: Finish with a “thank you” and “have a nice day”.
2. Modal Verbs Will Help You Express Yourself
May I ask you how to get to the Eaton Centre?
Could you help me?
I would like to go to the Royal Museum.
3. Build Your Vocabulary
You should know the basic vocabulary that can be used when getting directions. It may be useful to remember frequently visited places too!
Places: High Park, Dundas Square, Queen Street, Union Station.
Vocabulary: Traffic lights, bank, post office, constructions, block.
It’s about two blocks from here.
Go along the street until you reach the traffic lights.
You will see construction on the road.
That place is very close to Dundas Square.
4. Know How to Ask a Question
Use the right words and adverbs! Try not to leave any information out, if you ask a specific question there are more chances of getting a specific answer.
How can we get to High Park?
Where is Chinatown? Where am I on this map?
Which subway line should I take to get to the Rogers Centre?
5. Get to Know the Transportation System
Sometimes, it can happen that you are still far from your destination and you have to take the public transit. Which types of public transportation are most commonly used in Canada? The three most common types are streetcars, buses and the subway. You should also use specific verbs and prepositions with them.
Is it far? No, it isn’t very far. It will take you 10 minutes to walk there.
Well, it is quite far. You’d better take the streetcar.
Take the streetcar / take the bus / go by streetcar / go by bus
Take the streetcar number ___ / take the bus number ___
Get on at ____ station/street/stop
Change at ____station/street/stop
Change to the yellow/green subway line
6. Familiarize Yourself with the Cardinal Points
In big cities, people often use cardinal points when explaining directions and locations. The cardinal points are North, South, East and West.
“At the foot of John Street, on the south side of Front Street, there’s a set of stairs that takes you to the entrance of the CN Tower.”
7. Learn the Most Commonly Used Prepositions and Adverbs of Place
Some important prepositions to remember when getting or giving directions are:
- Left and Right
- Next to
- Straight Ahead
And the adverbs near, nearer, nearest and close, closer, closest will be very useful when you need to find something fast.
Go straight ahead, then turn right at the crossroads.
Please, where is the closest police station?
8. Use Imperative Sentences When Giving Instructions
And expect people to use them when explaining to you where to go.
Go down this street!
Go straight and up the stairs!
Go down the escalators!
9. Don’t Be Afraid of Using Landmarks
Every city in the world has its own landmarks. You can cut down on search time if you know what the important landmarks are in the city or place you are visiting. For example, in London, England, the main landmark is Big Ben.
Some landmarks in Toronto are the Eaton Centre, the CN Tower, and the Rogers Centre.
The Aquarium is next to the CN Tower!
Go past the hospital and then turn left.
After the supermarket, you will see the bus stop.
10. Know Where Your House or Residence is on a Map
Before you go on a trip, check first where your house is located on a map. Find it and mark it! It is important to know where you live.
Learn to forgive yourself if you get a little lost. We all do that now and then, especially when exploring a new city!
When I’m amongst other Christians or in church circles, the most common prayer points are usually from people seeking prayers for God’s direction and wisdom.
This makes sense since prayers for direction permeate every aspect of our lives.
We need God’s help to know what to do, per time and the right decisions to make.
But these sorts of prayers can also be overwhelming.
The most obvious questions are;
“how do I pray for direction?”
“How do I ask for revelation and wisdom?”
We may be trying to figure out what to say, how to say it, and when to know what God is saying.
One thing I have found about prayer is that it is more effective for us when we pray in line with God’s word.
When our prayers are backed by scriptures and the promises of God to his children, it reminds us of what God says, what he has done in the past, and what he is able to do in our lives and the lives of others.
Does this mean that we cannot pray without using scripture? Absolutely not!
Prayer is a conversation with God, which means it can happen with or without scripture. Many times, we use scripture as a guide and to help us focus on the truth.
Using scriptures to pray points us to specific areas to pray about and also builds up our faith as we are able to fill our hearts and minds with the truth of God’s word. Praying according to God’s word strengthens us in moments of confusion and fear.
Seven Scriptures to help us pray God’s for direction
There are a few scriptures that have played a pivotal role in my spiritual growth. These scriptures have helped in moments of uncertainty, worries, and fears. Here are some of them and a few more to guide our prayers and to act as wonderful reminders of the promises of God’s word and his plans for every single one of us.
“…Don’t worry about missing out. You’ll find all your everyday human concerns will be met. Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don’t get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard things come up when the time comes.
Matthew 6:33-34 (MSG)
“Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart.”
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your understanding, in all your ways acknowledge him and he will direct your path. “
“For we do not have a high priest that is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are – yet he did not sin. Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace in our time of need.”
“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”
“Commit to the lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans.”
“If you remain in me and my word remains in you, ask whatever you wish and it will be done for you.”
Why we need to always pray for God’s direction
I hope reading through the above scriptures has reminded you that God loves you unconditionally and he is still in the business of directing your path.
Sis, one thing I have seen time and again is that God’s way will always be better and we will never regret going His way.
One proviso to praying using God’s word is:
Faith in God.
You have to believe in God and the fulfilment of His word. You have to believe that he is able to direct your path, that he is able to reveal his will for your life as and when due.
Will this be easy? No way. There will be moments of doubt and uncertainty but He is also the Prince of Peace. Pray in faith using and believing in the efficacy of the above scriptures.
I am a living testimony that God answers prayers. There are so many other women like us, who have prayed and continue to pray for God’s guidance and direction.
I pray you do not give up or believe that God will not hear you. Remember that he loves you with an everlasting love and His words says:
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declared the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a future and a hope.”
God had plans for you from the very beginning of time. He knew when and where you would be born, he knew who your parents would be and the sort of life you would have.
He knows you better than anyone else, including yourself. King David understood this and said:
“You saw who you created me to be before I became me! Before I’d seen the light of day, the number days you planned for me were already recorded in your book.”
Are you trying to figure out what God is saying about your relationship? Please read this post. For other posts on dating and relationships, please check here.
For posts on prayer and pursuing your dreams see here and here.
Sis, remember that God knows you and he loves you. How have the past few months been? How has it been seeking God’s face as you make life’s decisions? Please share your journey through knowing and trusting God.
Google Maps is great for getting directions to far off cities and obscure shopping plazas. But what if you open it up only to realize that you have no idea where you are right now?
That’s not a problem. Every version of Google Maps has a “Current Location” button. Tap this, and the map will zoom over to your exact location — give or take a few hundred feet.
Here’s how to find where you currently are in Google Maps, using a computer or phone.
How to find where you are in Google Maps
Before anything, make sure your device is connected to the internet. Even if you’ve saved some offline maps, you’ll need internet access for Google Maps to find your location.
1. Open Google Maps on your computer or smartphone and let the map load.
2. The app should center on your location automatically, but if it doesn’t click or tap the Current Location button in the bottom-right corner. On the website and Android app it’ll look like a bullseye, while in the iPhone app it’ll look like an arrow.
3. Your browser or phone might ask you to give Google Maps permission to see your location. Allow it.
4. The map will move to focus on your location. The dark blue circle is where Google Maps thinks you currently are, and the translucent blue circle around it is where you could possibly be.
The faster your internet, the more sure Google Maps will be of your location, and the smaller that translucent range will be. If Google Maps is having issues finding you, it probably means that you need a better cell signal or faster internet.
Quick tip: In the iPhone and Android apps, tapping the Current Location button twice will turn on compass mode. The app will center on your location, but the map will rotate to match the direction you’re currently facing in real life.
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The Medicine Wheel and the Four Directions
The Medicine Wheel, sometimes known as the Sacred Hoop, has been used by generations of various Native American tribes for health and healing. It embodies the Four Directions, as well as Father Sky, Mother Earth, and Spirit TreeвЂ”all of which symbolize dimensions of health and the cycles of life.
The Medicine Wheel can take many different forms. It can be an artwork such as artifact or painting, or it can be a physical construction on the land. Hundreds or even thousands of Medicine Wheels have been built on Native lands in North America over the last several centuries.
Movement in the Medicine Wheel and in Native American ceremonies is circular, and typically in a clockwise, or вЂњsun-wiseвЂќ direction. This helps to align with the forces of Nature, such as gravity and the rising and setting of the Sun.
Meanings of the Four Directions
Different tribes interpret the Medicine Wheel differently. Each of the Four Directions (East, South, West, and North) is typically represented by a distinctive color, such as black, red, yellow, and white, which for some stands for the human races. The Directions can also represent:
- Stages of life: birth, youth, adult (or elder), death
- Seasons of the year: spring, summer, winter, fall
- Aspects of life: spiritual, emotional, intellectual, physical
- Elements of nature: fire (or sun), air, water, and earth
- Animals: Eagle, Bear, Wolf, Buffalo and many others
- Ceremonial plants: tobacco, sweet grass, sage, cedar
While you can manifest just about anything with the Law of Attraction, the most important first step is to figure out what you really want most of all. What gives you the greatest levels of satisfaction, and allows you to contribute something truly unique to the world? What is your purpose and how can you find your passion?
It may seem daunting and your feelings may change. But the great thing about life is tomorrow is a new day! We are never too old to start again.
Read on to find out how you can find your passion and purpose in life in just 15 minutes with our quiz. Plus, learn what you need to do next.
What Is My Purpose In Life Quiz
Eight Questions To Find Your Passion
1. What 5-7 things do you value the most?
When asking this question, think about everything from your most significant relationships to the things you love to learn about, any spiritual commitments and your major hobbies. As you think about these 5-7 things, note down anything you see in common between them.
2. If nothing changed, what would be your biggest regret?
You don’t need to spend a long time ruminating on this question, but the point of it is to tell you what needs to change about the way you’re living. Although the exercise can feel negative at first, it is easy to reframe the answers you get as a positive indicator of your purpose going forward.
3. What have been your past dreams and why did you give them up?
We often suppress dreams we deem improbable or unrealistic. This may be because we give up easily, or the end goal seems too far away. In this way, people tend to settle for other, more possible dreams. But if you are at a crossroads in life (or at any other stage actually) then you need to look back. Now, looking back is not usually advice I suggest.
In this case, think about what activities you used to enjoy doing or dreams you once had.
4. If we lived in a moneyless economy, how would you spend your time?
“Find out what you like doing best, and get someone to pay you for doing it.” – Katharine Whitehorn
Basically, what do you like doing for free? Hypothetically, if there was no money involved, what do you enjoy doing? This can help you decide what you should and would enjoy doing, regardless of the money involved. After a while, I’m sure we wouldn’t all want to be doing nothing forever. We crave productivity!
5. If you could be anyone, who would you be?
Don’t restrict your imagination here. Just tune into who and what you would truly want to be, regardless of how different they are from you. This is a great way to realize new things about the kind of person you want to become, removing the defensive barriers that are normally in place when you think about this.
6. What are your happiest memories?
When you think about your life so far, the events and experiences that stand out are often the ones most strongly tied to your major passions. Once again, you’re looking for common denominators in these memories.
7. What gifts can you give to the world?
Everyone has something substantial and meaningful to offer the world, and in many cases, the gifts that you can give are intimately connected to your life’s purpose. Come up with as many as you can, considering what friends, colleagues, and family members have noted about the ways you change their lives.
8. What one thing would you do or try if you KNEW you couldn’t fail?
Start a business? Go traveling? Ask your crush out?
Consider what you would do if you knew it would all work out for the best.
Analyzing Your Answers
Try to see what your answers to the above questions can tell you about the things you’re good at, what excites you, what you could live without, and how you’re uniquely positioned to change the world. Then, ask yourself this final question: what jobs, hobbies or lifestyle choices could allow you to live in concert with these key values and positive feelings?
Remember, it’s never too late to start again! This includes your job and passion.
Follow Your Passion
Now that you have a better sense of what your life purpose might be, you can use the Follow Your Passion program as a way to make reaching that goal both quicker and easier. No matter what you want to achieve, manifesting new levels of abundance is a great way to start! With only a brief time investment, you can enjoy the kinds of incredible gains that set you up for life.