Take notes on his routine and look for patterns. Example: they’re suddenly working late every Thursday night.
I live in the State of California, I do not know if it is legal to spy on my husband’s cellphone without getting into trouble and I do not want to pay for a service just to see if he is cheating?
Can you help me find out if he is cheating and with whom? I have tried: I tried checking his cellphone but he put a thumb print access on it. I think it was caused by: He says it’s because of my older children and me helping them all the time. My three grandchildren live with us, ages 13, 7, and 5 which he agreed to, now he is saying it’s too much, but his 74 year old father also lives with us which he has no problem with
California requires two-party consent, which means you would need his consent for a spy app. If he finds it, you could be prosecuted. Such a restricted access to his phone could be so that the children do not use his phone, however, you should ask him to unlock the phone in front of you and allow you to check it if he has nothing to hide.
Is there any way to find out without joining these social media sites?
I know my husband has been having some pretty strange text messages at odd hours and I have seen that he is on several different social media sites. I believe he is cheating but he has his phone and computer on lock down. He hasn’t touched me in months. I feel in my soul something is wrong but I do not want to confront him about this. Would just like to know so I can move on if that is the way it is. We have been married for 1 year and I would like to have peace of mind over this. If he is cheating, I would rather let him go than to live this way.
Instead of snooping, talk to him and ask him outright if he is looking elsewhere for love. He may just be thinking he is innocently flirting online but he is definitely starting to alienate his affections in your marriage. Snooping can often be far more painful as you see what has been said and done first hand. Also, some men, when confronted, will tell you the truth, while many others will turn it back on you, trying to make you feel guilty for even suspecting. Sadly, this tactic often works. Watch his eyes when you ask him.
Gut feeling he is being moody and arguing for no reason. Caring for his appearance and getting muscles he never had, and a big stomach, now he has a real buff chest?
His appearance has changed, he doesn’t call me, yet his phone is always busy or it goes to voice mail
He is focusing on himself more than ever before. There may be someone else involved, however, it could just be that he is self-improving just for himself. Be aware that often when people have big physical changes, they feel like they can suddenly spread their wings and fly.