How to be peaceful

This article was co-authored by Nicolette Tura, MA. Nicolette Tura is an Authentic Living Expert who operated her own wellness business for more than ten years in the San Francisco Bay Area. Nicolette is a 500-hour Registered Yoga Teacher with a Psychology & Mindfulness Major, a National Academy of Sports Medicine (NASM) certified Corrective Exercise Specialist, and is an expert in authentic living. She holds a BA in Sociology from the University of California, Berkeley and got her master’s degree in Sociology from SJSU. She constantly draws from her own wounds and challenges; with her training in the healing arts and sociology, she offers potent content, powerful meditations, and game-changing seminars on inspiring elevation on a personal and corporate level.

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People inherently strive towards a state of peacefulness, one free of stress and anxiety. Being peaceful is both an outward and an inward state of being and acting. If you are trying to be more peaceful, you can begin by finding peace within yourself. Further your peaceful nature by bringing it into your interactions with others and making your environment peaceful.

How to be peaceful

Many of us live with a level of persistent low-grade stress that becomes so normalised that most of the time, we don’t even realise it’s there.

While we might not be displaying obvious signs of stress, cortisol—the hormone associated with stress—wreaks havoc on our mental and physical health over the long-term. Therefore it’s important to make time to clear our minds and bring some peace into our lives, even if we’re not feeling particularly anxious.

Here are 11 suggestions you can use to make your mind calm and peaceful.

Make time to meditate

Meditation has a number of positive effects on mind and body. It’s also deceptively hard, which is why many people try it once or twice but struggle to make it a regular habit. Meditation helps combat the physical and emotional affects of stress and has lasting benefits that affect your productivity, as well as your ability to relax. Set aside time to meditate for just 10 minutes a day over the next week or two and experience the benefits for yourself.

Focus on gratitude

When we’re facing a series of challenges, it can be easy to slip into tunnel vision and focus on what’s going wrong at the expense of noticing what’s going well. Even taking the time to write down just three things each day that we feel grateful for can help reinstate a balanced perspective on our day-to-day experience.

Notice internal judgements

While many of us fear judgement from others, the harshest criticisms we experience are often self-inflicted. Nothing clutters and stresses the mind like internal self-judgements, so pay attention to your thought patterns and notice when your inner critic rears up. Being aware of these thoughts as they occur is the first, and most important, step towards replacing criticism with calm.

Practice self-compassion

Once we are able to notice our self-criticisms and judgements in the moment, we have a chance to practice self-compassion. This means acknowledging and accepting reality, and extending the same kind of compassion to ourselves that we would to a good friend in our situation. In doing this, we stop measuring ourselves against different standards compared to other people.

Distance yourself from negative self-talk and beliefs

We can’t necessarily stop ourselves experiencing negative self-talk and beliefs but we can distance ourselves from them. Using the phrase “I notice that…[I’m judging myself harshly for forgetting that file this morning]” whenever we identify a negative self-judgement or belief helps us see these beliefs for what they really are: opinions, rather than facts.

Set routines

Setting routines might sound like a recipe for boredom but it actually helps instil a day-to-day sense of peace in our minds. When we have set routines, we have less decisions to make during the day. This frees up space in our minds for bigger, more important tasks.

Keep a journal

Journaling is a great way to get our thoughts out of our heads and onto paper. Writing down our most pressing thoughts and worries each day has a similar effect to talking to someone about them. By making time to journal, you’re giving yourself the chance to process your thoughts and feelings, and to express them in a safe, private space.

Create a to-do list

Similar to journaling, writing down your tasks and projects helps clear your mind. If you find that various activities and reminders keep popping into your head and distracting you from the task at hand, a system like Getting Things Done can help increase your productivity and your mental calm.

Exercise

It’s a well-known fact that exercise augments our sense of mental well-being. According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, exercising for just 10 minutes can release endorphins, pain-killing chemicals that help induce a state of mental and physical peace.

Experiment

Finally, it’s important to remember that everyone is different. What helps one person find peace and calm might have the opposite effect on the next. As you go about your day, notice the times when you feel most at ease and make note of what you’re doing at that time. Experiment with the methods above, as well as your own suggestions, and create your own list of activities that help your mind find clarity and relaxation.

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How to be peaceful

How to be peaceful

We have had a number of weeks focusing on goals, success and preparing yourself for 2014. Now, I think it’s time to share some tips for finding peace in your life.

Life is all about balance. Being productive and achieving success is one half of the equation but there is an equally important other half and that is finding peace in your life. I’m pleased to introduce a lady named Solony who embarked on a journey of self-discovery in Kenya when she took part in a Meditation Fellowship. She believes that meditation has opened a new chapter in her life and now wants to share what she’s learned about living a harmonious life. Take it away, Solony!

How to be peaceful

Enter Solony

Living in peace is about living harmoniously with yourself, others, and all sentient beings around you. Living in peace is both an outward and an inward process. Outwardly, it’s a way of life in which we respect and love each other in spite of our cultural, religious, and political differences. Inwardly, we all need to search our hearts and minds and understand the fear that causes the impulse for violence. In continuing to ignore the rage within, the storm outside will never subside.

While you will find your own meaning of a peaceful existence according to your beliefs and lifestyle, there are some basics that cannot be overlooked. Here are the steps which can help you to discover your journey towards living in peace.

1. Seek to love, not control others.

Ceasing to seek power over people and outcomes in your life is the first major step to living peacefully. Trying to control people is about seeking to impose your will and reality on others without stopping to see their side of things. A controlling approach to relationships will keep you in conflicts with others. Replacing a will to control with a broad approach of loving others instead, including their faults and differences, is the way to a peaceful life.

2. Find Your Inner Peace.

At least once a day spend ten minutes in a peaceful place, such as under a shady tree or in the park, anywhere where you can sit quietly without distractions. Without inner peace, you’ll feel in a constant state of conflict. Trying to fill your life with possessions or improving yourself by social climbing without stopping to value your inner worth will leave you perpetually unhappy. When you’re angry, find a nice quiet place to stop, take a deep breath, and relax. Turn off the TV and computer. Get out into nature if possible, or go for a good, long walk. Put on some soft music or turn down the lights. When you feel calm again, get up and go on with your life.

3. Moderate your convictions.

Thinking in absolutes and holding to opinions without considering the viewpoints of others is a sure way to live a life without peace. This type of extremist thinking usually leads to reactive, hasty, and driven behavior that lacks the benefit of reflection. This approach can easily lead you into conflict when other people fail to agree with your convictions. Remain open-minded and ready to review your understanding. It’s more rewarding because you’ll grow as a person and live in greater harmony with those around you.

4. Be tolerant.

Tolerance in all that you think and do will make a difference in your life and in the lives of others around you. Tolerance for others is about appreciating diversity, the plurality of modern society, and being willing to live and let others live too. When you fail to tolerate others’ beliefs, ways of being, and opinions, the end result can be discrimination, repression, dehumanization, and ultimately violence.

5. Be Peace.

A peaceful person does not use violence against another person or animal (that includes small obnoxious insects too). While there is much violence in this world, make a choice to not let death and killing be a part of your philosophy of living.

6. Reflection of thought.

If someone hurts you physically or mentally, do not react with anger or violence. Stop and think. Choose instead to respond peacefully.

7. Seek forgiveness, not revenge.

Live in the present, not the past. Dwelling on that which should have been and reliving past wounds will keep the negativity of the past alive and bring constant internal conflict. Forgiveness allows you to live in the present, to look forward to the future, and to let the past settle gently. Forgiveness is the ultimate victory because it lets you enjoy life again by making peace with the past.

8. Live in joy.

Choosing to see the wonders of the world is an antidote to violence. It’s hard to be violent against that which you see as beautiful, wondrous, amazing, and joyful. The greatest despair arising from wars comes from the destruction of innocence, beauty, and joy. Joy brings peace to your life because you’re always prepared to see what is good in others and the world, and to be grateful for the wondrous aspects of life.

9. Be the change you wish to see in the World.

Violence starts with your acceptance of its possibility as a solution. It’s within yourself that you need to stop violence and become peaceful. Change yourself before you can change the world.

At the end of the day, living in peace will be your own conscious choice. You’re free to choose your own path, but whatever way you go, keep in mind that all your actions will affect those around you.

Author Bio: Solony embarked on a journey of self-discovery in Kenya when she took part in Peace Revolution´s Meditation Fellowship. She believes “Meditation has opened a new chapter in her life” and now wants to share what she’s learned about living a harmonious life.

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T he vast majority of Black Lives Matter protests—more than 93%—have been peaceful, according to a new report published Thursday by a nonprofit that researches political violence and protests across the world.

The Armed Conflict Location & Event Data Project (ACLED) analyzed more than 7,750 Black Lives Matter demonstrations in all 50 states and Washington D.C. that took place in the wake of George Floyd’s death between May 26 and August 22.

Their report states that more than 2,400 locations reported peaceful protests, while fewer than 220 reported “violent demonstrations.” The authors define violent demonstrations as including “acts targeting other individuals, property, businesses, other rioting groups or armed actors.” Their definition includes anything from “fighting back against police” to vandalism, property destruction looting, road-blocking using barricades, burning tires or other materials. In cities where protests did turn violent—these demonstrations are “largely confined to specific blocks,” the report says.

The ACLED report includes protests toppling statues of “colonial figures, slave owners and Confederate leaders” as violent incidents. “Since Floyd’s killing, there have been at least 38 incidents in which demonstrators have significantly damaged or torn down memorials around the country,” the report states.

Still, many people continue to believe that Black Lives Matter protests are largely violent—contrary to the report’s findings. ACLED highlights a recent Morning Consult poll in which 42% of respondents believe “most protesters (associated with the BLM movement) are trying to incite violence or destroy property.” ACLED suggests this “disparity stems from political orientation and biased media framing… such as disproportionate coverage of violent demonstrations.”

U.S.-based ACLED is funded by the State Department’s Bureau of Conflict and Stabilization Operations as well as foreign governments and other organizations, including the Dutch Ministry of Foreign Affairs, the German Federal Foreign Office, the Tableau Foundation, the International Organization for Migration, and The University of Texas at Austin. It relied on data collection from the U.S. Crisis Monitor—a joint project led by ACLED and Princeton University’s Bridging Divides Initiative—that tracks and publishes real-time data on political violence and demonstrations in the U.S in order to “establish an evidence base from which to identify risks, hotspots and available resources to empower local communities in times of crisis.”

ACLED also highlights a “violent government response,” in which authorities “use force more often than not” when they are present at protests and that they “disproportionately used force while intervening in demonstrations associated with the BLM movement, relative to other types of demonstrations.” The report also references “dozens of car-ramming attacks” on protesters by various individuals, some of whom have ties to hate groups like the Ku Klux Klan.

How to be peaceful

If you had one gift to give to yourself, what would it be? More money, better relationships or simply more inner harmony?

A peaceful life is yours when you remove ego and desires completely and visualize yourself as a peaceful being. If we look at our life as a series of experiences, we will appreciate the importance of our thoughts and emotions as we go from one day to another.

Each day is filled with numerous experiences, some new and some repetitive. If we take some minutes out every day to connect with ourselves and just be still, we will be able to gain perspective and feel comfortable—irrespective of the goings-on around us.

The Virtuous Cycle of Peace

When you are peaceful, you are able to think clearly and control negative emotions a lot better than you can in a disturbed state of mind. This way, one can also make wise decisions related to the different aspects of life: relationships, finances (besides others), thanks to a stable and peaceful mind.

In fact, all aspects of a person’s life benefit from spending some peaceful and quiet time alone. When one is contained, still and peaceful, one can give one’s best to everything one undertakes since the mind develops the power to focus with dedication.

Peaceful Life – How to Gain Peace

If you wish to experience Peace, think about it for some time and visualize yourself as a peaceful being. No matter how disturbed or distracted you may be, you will automatically be able to create some peaceful thoughts.

Just like we recharge our mobile phones and other gadgets after using them, our minds also need to be recharged to function optimally. The more frequently and regularly we do so, the better will be the quality of life we enjoy.

Only after one starts to commit some time to oneself dedicated to finding and restoring inner peace, can one move on to a regular routine of practicing meditation, which can open up a storehouse of positive energy for a person.

Gen-X Syndrome

Manas and Arpita was a successful couple who believed in the popular philosophy of ‘Work hard and Party Harder.’ After a few years of living a life based on that belief, both of them felt de-motivated and directionless. Was life all about money, material achievements and showing off to others?

The emptiness and meaninglessness stuck Arpita first who became a follower of a renowned spiritual guru to sort out her feelings and inner disturbances. Manas, though resistant at first, soon followed suit since he too was experiencing the same emptiness.

Seeing how disconnected the couple was with their inner world and understanding the fast pace of their lives, the guru first guided them to spending peaceful time alone individually.

Taking out ten minutes everyday for doing nothing and just sitting down with their eyes closed seemed weird to the young couple at first but their affinity and respect for their guru helped them overcome this feeling.

The results soon followed and both of them noticed how their entire lives changed after a few months of this regular practice. Gaining spiritual insights transformed their relationship, their priorities, their mood swings and their personalities.

They decided to make spiritual practice an important part of their lives forever and live a meaningful peaceful life filled with inner power and positive peaceful energy.

Conclusion – Peaceful Life

Everyone seems to be running in circles all around us these days. It is our choice, if we want to follow the herd and live meaninglessly or step aside, make a wiser choice and live a peaceful life. Recharge your inner batteries and see your entire life becoming beautiful, one day at a time.

WARNING: Images of beautiful betta fish shown within. You may want to buy all varieties after seeing this.

If you’ve been following our articles about betta fish and how they breathe air and blow bubbles, then you may have picked up on the fact that there are multiple types of bettas. If you haven’t seen the previous articles, you can find them here:

Those articles cover some betta basics. But this article takes a look at differences in betta fish types. So if you’re trying to decide what kind of betta fish to start with, or you want to add a new betta to your collection, then keep reading.

What are the common betta species?

In most freshwater fish stores, you’re going to find one (or both) of two species:

  • Betta splendens
  • Betta imbellis

The two are similar, but B. splendens is the most popular betta, called the Siamese fighting betta. B. imbellis is not as popular in the fishkeeping world, and it is known as the peaceful betta.

What are the differences between the betta species?

You may have guessed from the names that the two commonly kept betta species have different personalities from one another. Fighting bettas tend to be highly territorial and aggressive, especially the males. Because of this, fishkeepers who want to keep bettas often have to isolate them in their own tanks rather than making them part of an aquarium group.

Peaceful betta, on the other hand, does not display such strong aggressive characteristics. Because of this, it may be easier to keep a tank of multiple peaceful bettas and other fish together.

That being said, the name “peaceful” betta may be a bit deceiving. Betta keepers should keep in mind that both species are similar, and even the peaceful betta will become aggressive if it is defending a bubble nest. Still, they are milder and have smaller tails, which keep them from antagonizing other fish species in the tank (the fighting betta’s large tail attracts fish that might nibble it, provoking an attack).

In general though, Betta imbellis can be kept as a community species with other B. imbellis. This can be a big bonus for keepers who love the beauty of bettas but want to keep multiple fish without the cost of multiple tanks.

Fighting bettas and peaceful bettas also look slightly different from each other, but it can be difficult to recognize them by appearance because fighting bettas, themselves, come in a variety of breeds that all have different colors and tail shapes.

Take a look at these photos that all represent various Betta splendens:

As you can see, fighting bettas come not only in many colors, but also many tail sizes and shapes. So how do you recognize a peaceful betta by appearance?

The best way is to look at the tail. The peaceful betta is also called the crescent betta because its tail is outlined in a red crescent, like these:

Peaceful bettas aren’t as popular of pets yet, but they are great tank mates for other freshwater fish.

Want to learn more about the fighting betta variations? Watch The Tye-Dyed Iguana blog for more betta fish information.

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How to be peaceful

No one can be a peacemaker until they’ve first made peace with God, so there’ll be no peace of God until you’re at peace with God, and that only comes through Jesus Christ’s shed blood. If you have not trusted in Christ, you can have no lasting peace. Things might be peaceful for a time, but without Christ, there is no true, lasting peace. If our trust is in Christ, then it means “we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ” (Rom 5:1). You cannot be a peacemaker in this world until you’ve made your peace with God, and that comes through Jesus Christ alone (Acts 4:12).

Pursuing Peace

Jesus Christ said, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God” (Matt 5:9), but how can we be a peacemaker? Jesus told us, “love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return, and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, for he is kind to the ungrateful and the evil” (Luke 6:35). That will so confuse your enemies that they won’t know how to respond. Jesus said it would be by our love for one another that “all men” or all people will know we are His disciples (John 13:34-35). The Apostle Paul says, “If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all” (Rom 12:18). If it is something you can do to keep the peace, do it. To be a peacemaker, we must “pursue what makes for peace and for mutual upbuilding” (Rom 14:9). That’s pretty simple. For example, we know that “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” (Prov 15:1). That’s pursing peace. We also know that “A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention” (Prov 15:18). To be a peacemaker, we must “Turn away from evil and do good; seek peace and pursue it” (Psalm 34:14). If we don’t turn away from evil, we can’t be a peacemaker, and that means we’re not at peace with God.

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Praying for Peace

Pray to God when there seems to be no peaceful solution to a problem between you and others, or between others. Ask God to soften their hearts and pray for His wisdom in showing you how there can be a compromise on both parts. Pray that you can bring about a peaceful solution. The psalmist wrote “Pray for the peace of Jerusalem! May they be secure who love you! Peace be within your walls and security within your towers” (Psalm 122:6-7), so praying for peace is biblical. We know there is “Peace in heaven and glory in the highest” (Luke 19:38b), and God wants us to be peacemakers here on earth, so why not pray for peace and pursue it. God is pleased with the peacemakers, and “they shall be called sons [and daughters] of God” (Matt 5:9).

Receiving Peace

The disciples were anxious. Jesus was about to leave them to return to the Father after going to the cross. They were afraid to ask Him about His coming crucifixion. They knew they’d be left along, and Jesus knew this, so He wanted them to have some peace about it. In fact, He wanted them to have His peace, and not just the peace of the world. He said, “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid” (John 14:27). The world’s peace can come and go, but the peace of God abides forever. The psalmist had peace about his security in God. He wrote, “Mark the blameless and behold the upright, for there is a future for the man of peace” (Psalm 37:37). What we can say about the man and woman of peace? The Bible says, “In his days may the righteous flourish, and peace abound, till the moon be no more” (Psalm 72:7)! That sounds very much like a permanent peace to me…a peace that only Jesus can give.

Pleasing the Lord

God gives us the peace of God through Jesus Christ, but we can lose our peace when we fall into habitual sin. The psalmist wrote, “Let me hear what God the Lord will speak, for he will speak peace to his people, to his saints; but let them not turn back to folly” (Psalm 85:8). If we turn back to certain sins, we will not be at peace with God anymore. He may take us to task in our folly. Contrast that to “When a man’s ways please the Lord, he makes even his enemies to be at peace with him” (Prov 16:7). God did not gave us what we deserved (grace, Eph 2:8-9); rather, and He withheld from us what we truly did deserve (wrath, John 3:13, 36), so too should we give our enemies, or those who hate us, not what they deserve, but what they need. Jesus says to “Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you” (Matt 5:44). The world pays back what’s done to them, but we pray back what they do to us. We don’t pay them back…we pray them back. We shower them with love, good, and pray for those who persecute us. That’s how we can be at peace, even with our enemies, but only if our “ways please the Lord.”

Conclusion

My prayer for you all is, “May the Lord give strength to his people! May the Lord bless his people with peace” (Psalm 29:11)! That is my prayer because God looks favorably upon the peacemakers of the world. Peacemakers are indispensable in today’s world. We need as many peacemakers as we can get; at work, in the family, and just about anywhere you go, so we hope you enjoyed this study on being a peacemaker in the world. Why don’t you share this with someone right now? Remember that “the meek shall inherit the land and delight themselves in abundant peace” (Psalm 37:11), so “Blessed are the peacemakers!”