вЂњWhat were you like when you were a kid?вЂќ
It’s hard to hit the right note when you’re texting a recent crush, and having some questions to ask your crush can help you get them to open. It saves you the trouble of having to come across as witty and interesting, and it basically guarantees that someone is going to be excited to talk to you. Literally everybody loves talking about themselves.
But you know who else asks a lot of questions? Psychiatrists. So when you’re texting your crush, keep it light, cute, and as funny as possible. There’s plenty of time to open up about your deepest, darkest secrets later on, and it will be so much more meaningful when you aren’t communicating through a phone.
And if you feel like you are doing all of the legwork in keeping a text conversation going, then cut yourself some slack. It takes two people to have a flowing conversation, and not all of the pressure should be on you to make your connection jive over phone.
Here are some questions to ask your crush to find out whether you two can keep up a text flirtation in between dates:
1. When Was The Last Time You Cried?
You don’t need them to tell you why they cried, just find out whether they can keep up with your weekly regimen, or if they’re an android who hasn’t cried since second grade.
2. What Were You Like When You Were A Kid?
Talking about what enormous dorks you both were works 99 percent of the time.
3. What’s The Weirdest Pet You Would Like To Have?
Forget snakes. Let’s talk about how you fantasize about owning a leech.
4. What’s Your Biggest Deal Breaker On A Date?
If they say that they donвЂ™t like it when people talk about zodiac signs, then they aren’t worth your time.
5. What Color Is Your Aura?
Bonus points if they not only know the color but also have some idea about which chakra it’s closest to.
6. Pros And Cons Of Having Kanye West As President?
Honestly, I can’t think of any cons.
7. What’s Your Opinion On Free Will?
The perfect question for philosophy students and astrologists alike.
8. What’s The Best Compliment You’ve Ever Received?
Once you know the competition, you’ll have some idea of how to beat it. Because nobody compliments like you compliment.
9. How Would You Fare During The End Of Days?
With the end of days looming nigh and whatnot, it’s probably a good idea to figure out of if this is someone who would learn to till the land in the event of the apocalypse, or if they would eat you first.
10. Would You Rather Live In The City Or In The Woods?
My parents are woods people. I grew up in the woods. I need to be with someone who is city all the way.
11. Do You Believe In Soulmates?
I don’t know if I believe in soulmates, or if I just want to believe in them, but anyone who puts a cap on the idea probably doesnвЂ™t like fun, too.
12. What Is Your Biggest Fear?
Reoccurring nightmares, childhood terrors, and similar subjects naturally follow asking your crush this question вЂ”В just in time for Halloween.
13. Have You Ever Fallen In Love With Your Best Friend?
If they say no, they are either completely repressed or a liar. I’d place money on it.
14. How Many People Are You Crushing On Right Now?
Don’t be too disappointed if you’re talking to someone who has five different crushes a day. Crushes are fun! And it doesn’t mean they’re not into you.
15. What’s The Worst Job You’ve Ever Had?
It’s a tie between a substitute teacher and working at Starbucks.
16. Who Do You Talk To When You’re Feeling Sad?
Everyone needs a friend to text 20 times in a row while panicking and then follow up four hours later with a casual “. but how r u??”
17. Who Was Your First Crush?
You know how crushes flirt with one another? By talking about their previous crush.
18. Do You Eat Things That Have Been Dropped On The Floor?
Spoiler alert: Virgo is maybe the only sign who doesn’t.
19. What’s The One Thing You Would Save From Your Burning House?
I mean, after their pets. Always pets first.
20. Are You Ticklish?
If you’re hoping your bodies will get close sooner rather than later, this is definitely the question to find out whether it’s on.
Nobody knows exactly how or when our children will be back in the classroom or what safety measures schools will take to limit the transmission of COVID-19. What we do know is that when in-person school resumes, every aspect of the school day will probably be affected. The key things to model for kids of all ages? Calmness, flexibility, and a willingness to take the necessary steps to keep everyone safe.
Being a middle schooler just got harder. This intensely social age group has to find ways to express themselves, individuate from their parents and pursue their passions amidst a whole new set of rules and restrictions. But since the latest research suggests that kids aged 10 to 19 are at least as likely as adults to transmit the virus, getting them on board is crucial.
Take this thing off!
Rules at school will vary, but in general it’s good practice to wash or sanitize your hands before you remove your mask, place it into a designated paper or plastic bag while you’re not wearing it, and wash your hands again after removing it. Before masking up again—you guessed it—wash your hands!
Information is power—but dosage is important
Participating in informed discussions about the latest news and numbers may help older kids feel some control and alleviate their anxiety. Some kids will be interested in charts and graphs depicting efforts to flatten the curve, or in apps that track cases in your area. But put limits on consuming coronavirus news (that goes for the adults, too). Research shows that overexposure to negative news provokes fear, anxiety and other damaging outcomes. Instead of letting your middle schoolers watch a steady stream of TV news, find an article or video you can share and talk about.
Lunchtime trading is off the table
If students eat lunch at school, there will be new rules about how to behave. Whether kids are eating outside or at their desks, it’s a safe bet that passing choice snacks will be forbidden. Perhaps now more than ever it’s worth getting your child to help plan some lunches or snacks that give them a boost of happiness and health during their school day.
Peer pressure takes on new risks
You probably understand many of the ways that peer pressure influences your youngster. But now there’s a complex new set of health guidelines that your child may be looking to their peers as role models for. What will your child do if the cool kids keep taking off their mask and hanging out in not-socially distant groups after school? It’s worth it to have conversations in advance because going against the grain will take every bit of your child’s willpower. Just as it’s recommended to ask your child, what would you do if somebody offered you a vape at school or the answer sheet to that really hard math test, it’s worth asking “What would you do if… a friend hugged you, a group of friends all “decided” to take off their masks, shared food, planned a party?” Your child probably won’t enjoy these conversations but you will be helping them develop one of the most precious resources for this age: forethought. Thinking through different scenarios gives them a chance to discuss the issues with you and find the right words in advance.
Looking for the silver linings
Children of all ages around the world are experiencing the stresses and uncertainties of the pandemic. And we as their parents are feeling the pain of every virtual birthday party, missed playdate and lonely day of less to do. In the midst of this stress and sadness, it’s worth remembering that young humans are supremely adaptive: they are creatures of change and creativity and make-do-with-what-you-have.
In this moment many kids are discovering treasure that will last their whole lives. They’re learning that they have reservoirs of resilience, siblings they love, abilities to learn new things they never thought they could learn. One teen starts a journal. Another child creates a basket of goodies for the delivery people. A middle schooler gets to spend some quality time with his typically overworked father. Children are adapting to the world as it is, not as we have hoped it would be for them. And in this, they are better suited to the moment than we are. So as you move into this fall with all of its unknowns, notice the small wins your child is no doubt experiencing and celebrate them. Because those will be the learning moments that stick.