How to have sex without your parents knowing

Car, hotel, your house when rents aren’t in, her house when rents aren’t in, a field, a hill, the bathrooms, college unoccupied room, a car park, a wood I, the sea, a lake I could continue, use your imagination it makes life a little more exciting
haha but the challange of 3 square feet can make it quite fun

Premarital sex is a sin. Wait till marriage, having sex before marriage is dangerous and not worth it

EDIT: I don’t care about negative rep. Thanks for the people giving me positive rep, they are the ones not feeling compelled to blindly follow immoral trends.

In his room (quietly) with the door locked.
In my room (quietly) with the door locked.

In a park.
In a cupboard.

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In his room (quietly) with the door locked.
In my room (quietly) with the door locked.

In a park.
In a cupboard.

I love this post in combination with your sig

Seriously, why the neg?? I honestly would like to hear a reason.

if you cant use your immagination then that sex must be boring in the first place

Edit: Two people on tsr have only got as far as dry humpin with clothes on!

Haters gonna hate.

Late at night in a park/greenland, it is unbelievably easy. I live in a flat that overlooks a trainstation. I saw two people going at it for 45 minutes in the full lit shelter at 3. Other than me, who was hypnotised by the act, not one person interfered. Not that I think they would have stopped the guy was practically taking a run up.

This is a childhood fantasy that a lot of children experience when their hormones override the threshold of their self control. A good beginning step in the process of becoming an adult is learning that the world doesn’t turn on what you want. In most cases the world doesn’t even care what you want.

You should earn to control your fantasies before you show your mom how silly and childish you really are.

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First off, I’ll say that at that age it’s illegal pretty much everywhere (I can’t think of anywhere it’s legal.). Second, all societal norms aside, if parent and child have sex it changes the relationship forever–a few for the better, but most for the worst. Finally, it can have other long-term effects upon all involved.

My own story occurred over 40 years ago. I lost my virginity to my now-deceased mother. At the time I was 14 and she was 40. Dad had basically been gone since I was 4 or 5, so with the exception of an occasional date or boyfriend, it was just mom and I. It didn’t help that in the summer, mom would often parade around the house when she got home in just her bra (or a slip) and panties, especially as I entered puberty. Her answer to the “bird & bees” talk was to get a subscription to Playboy after her friend, who was also a single mom, found her son’s stash of Playboys, cigarettes and booze. Mom also had a habit of having a few drinks every night “to unwind.” This didn’t help with her inhibitions. There were other factors that ultimately led to us having sex, but my hormones and her being tipsy if not drunk were the two biggest factors. Over a couple of months things built up between us, then one Saturday afternoon it happened, we had sexual intercourse.

Immediately afterwards we both felt guilty and withdrew from each other for the rest of that day. I don’t think either of us ate dinner that night. I know she drank more and got drunk. I couldn’t sleep at all. Then, around 3:00 or 4:00 the next morning, she came to my room. She was sobered up and we agreed to never tell anyone and to never do it again. However, within an hour we had finished talking about what happened and hugged each other then we went went to kiss, it was like the switch got turned back on and we had sex for a few more hours.

When we woke up we decided to try and talk about it again over lunch, but it did no good and it started a sexual relationship that lasted until I got engaged well after I graduated from college. Even if one of us had a significant other, we still had sex. She never remarried.

Once I got married it stopped for about 10 years. Then one night we were alone at her house and it started up again. When my wife and I separated, my mom visited often and we always had sex. Then my wife and I got back together, but trips to my mom’s house involved sex when it was just the two of us.

Now that my mom is gone, I miss her obviously; but the fact that we had sex really messed things up. I often fantasize or replay sex I had with mom, sometimes even while I’m having sex with my wife or other women. I actively seek other women who want to role play mom-son sex.

I will close by saying if your a teen, it’s mostly hormones. If it starts controlling your thoughts and/or you start doing sexual things, you need to stop and seek help. If you’re a parent, be a parent, take charge and stop it before it starts. While it may well take care of immediate urges and desires, the long-term effects can be bad.

How many times did you guys have sex? 🙂
I dont think it makes sense to deny two mentally mature, 18++ year old people having sex. A 40 year old mom and a 14 year old kid? I got a hard time. but I am not the boss, and you liked it and like it to this day right?

I for one got “the fetish to” but never acted on it really other then exiting shower to late when momma comes to visit for a coffee and smoke. she stares so intensely, tries to look away if I look at her . but dont try to hide my dick. also once she literally followed me to the room to watch me change, acting like she had to tell me something real fast cant wait. some weird sentences, red ears and touching of ears, visible niples. I hope im not insane from over 4000 wanks to the fantasy in many different forms with her. fact is I was deflowered by little sis 18 as a 21 virgin. but I always really wanted my mom as senpai

No one should be engaging in sexual intercourse until they are financially, physically and emotionally able to have a child. You are none of those things. At 13 you have no business having sex. Actually you have no business having a boyfriend. It might even be illegal for your "boyfriend" to have sex with you.

You don’t say how old he is or how long he has, allegedly, been your "boyfriend". But any boy who would pressure you for sex at your age is not someone you should be associating with.

You will find no support here for underage sex. You will find no support here lying to your parents. Smarten up and dump this punk and wait until you are ready to have sex.

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To Fr_Chuck: he is my age and I think it would be a good idea to change my mind about this

To Scottgem: he is my age and we have been together for almost 3 or 4 months

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So, this isn’t the 12 yr old? So you have two boyfriends?

Look we don’t like being played here. We can’t help you if you don’t tell the truth.

And by the way, please don’t use the comments feature to post followups. Use the Answer options at the bottom of the page.

Originally Posted by delilah123

First, please don’t use the comments feature for followups.

Wow, 3 or 4 months? And you aren’t even sure how long? Do your parents know and allow you to date?

But yeah, you really need to be rethinking this foolishness.

Oh and by the way, don’t PM people without permission.

Originally Posted by delilah123

To Fr_Chuck: he is my age and i think it would be a good idea to change my mind about this

To Scottgem: he is my age and we have been together for almost 3 or 4 months

I think changing your mind about this is a good idea too.

Wait. The post about the guy you wanted to dump was written on December 22, 2010. So you were dating 2 guys at once?

Delilah, it’s time to slow down, stop being in such a hurry to grow up. Stop dating more than one guy at a time.

There’s a word for girls like that, and it’s not a nice word, not one you want associated with you.

There’s plenty of time for you to do grown up things, but really, it’s best to wait until you’re actually grown up.

You need to slow way down.
You were just asking a question about a 12year old boy.
Where and when did this one come about?

I don’t think you know what you want to do or who to do it with, but that is normal because you are 13. This topic should not even be coming up.

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I am really concerned about you being pressured. This is not cool, even if he talks to you about how much he loves you, or gives you any other story about why you should do what he wants, he’s pushing you to have sex when you clearly aren’t sure. I agree with everyone else, you’re too young. 13 is a time to have fun with friends, play sport, go to movies, hit the swimming pool, go dancing.

Of all my friends the one who lost her virginity the youngest, was only 14, and she says that she’s regretted it for many years. She felt pressured, she didn’t feel like she did something that she wanted to do, the boy told everybody and the other kids started to tease her or ignore her. Other boys then assumed she was ‘up for it’ so she was never sure after that of their motivations. She often got told, well you’ve done it before, what’s the big deal? Which made her feel really cheap and ruined her confidence and trust in other boys, then men for a long, long time.

Delia there is plenty of time, when I look back I remember my teenage years as being one with lots of giggling with my girl friends, crushes on boys, and feeling good that I wasn’t a child anymore but also happy not to be an adult with adult responsibilities. Stay innocent a little longer, it’s a pretty nice way to be, because eventually life is going to get complicated!

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All I am saying is something is not right here. Either the OP is lying about age, dates or lifestyle or she really has dug herself into a deep hole early.

One question? Have you even hit puberty? Has he? That should throw things in perspective for you. You have a lot of growing up to do, both physically and mentally before sex is even considered.

Why be in such a hurry? Your life right now should be about having fun, being with friends, school, dances, not paying bills ;), riding the bus to school, worrying about going into H.S. etc.

Don’t be in a hurry to grow up. it’s over-rated.

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How to have sex without your parents knowing

How to have sex without your parents knowing

No one is ever excited to say, “Hey, Mom and Dad! I think I’m ready to have sex. Can we talk about it?” You’d probably rather go to summer school for Calculus or plunge a clogged toilet in a gas station restroom than voluntarily strike up a conversation with your parents about sex.

They might have a hard time hearing that their baby is growing up, and you might want to crawl under a rock and die. But as awkward as you may feel, it’s an important conversation to have that can help you stay safe and healthy, and informed. Even though you might feel like you’re disappointing your parents, ultimately, knowing you are being responsible can go a long way in helping them trust you more.

We talked to Jessica Sheets Pika, director of communications at the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, about how to talk to your parents about sex. Here’s everything you need to know before you have “the talk”, from how to make it less awkward to whether you need their consent to access birth control.

1. Do your research first

Whether you want to ask your parents about going on the Pill or you’re interested in considering an IUD, a little research can go a long way toward showing your parents that you take your health seriously, and you’re mature enough to handle the responsibility of being sexually active. Here are some resources you can trust, according to Sheets Pika:

  • Read about sex, relationships, birth control, pregnancy, STDs, abstinence, and more; ask questions and get answers; play games and take quizzes.
  • Stay Teen Method Explorer: Compare different methods of birth control to help find the one that’s right for you.
  • Stay Teen Health Center Finder: A national ZIP code-based search engine that pinpoints nearby health centers.

2. Understand what you need from your parents

The laws regarding teen access to birth control vary by state, and that different health care plans have different rules. That means a doctor might be able to prescribe the Pill to a teen without her parents’ knowledge in some states, but not in others. For information specific to your situation, Google “[your preferred method of birth control] + [your state] + [your health care plan].” And FYI, condoms and Plan B are accessible to everyone — there’s no age minimum to purchase them! Still not clear on what the laws are surrounding birth control in your state? Use the Stay Teen Health Center Finder to locate a clinic in your area (or call your local doctor).

“Our advice is to call the clinic and say, ‘I’m on my parents’ insurance, this is what it is, what are my options?'” says Sheets Pika.

3. Choose the right place and time for the conversation

If the topic comes up naturally and you have a question or concerns, rip off the Band-Aid and just spit the words out. “Literally any time you can be bold enough to have the conversation is when you should do it,” Sheets Pika advises.

Striking up the conversation in the car might make you more comfortable, since you’ll be seated side by side and won’t have to make eye contact. Or try broaching the subject during a regular routine or ritual you do with your parents, like taking a walk together after dinner or getting your nails done together. “Your parent would most likely invite a deeper conversation during one of those really special times that you’re sharing anyway, and it might make things less awkward,” she says.

To help make the convo go smoother for everyone, avoid bringing it up when your parents are in the middle of something and make sure they have time to talk. “You don’t want to go to your mom when she’s in the middle of doing her taxes,” Sheets Pika points out.

4. Pick a conversation starter that works for you

One easy way to bring up the subject is to use a story line from a TV show as a conversation starter. The Fosters, Switched at Birth, East Los High, Awkward and more of your go-to showsall feature story lines surrounding sex, pregnancy, and birth control. Instead of, “I’m thinking about having sex,” you’re opening line can be, “Jenna and Matty just hooked up. What did you think of that?” Once the subject of sex is already on the table, it’s less daunting to bring the conversation back to your own life.

That strategy works with people you know in real life, too. “You can say, ‘Oh, hey, Mom, Becky at school is on the Pill, what do you think about that?'” says Sheets Pika. “That sort of moves the onus away from a very personal my daughter is asking this question for her to this is a hypothetical situation happening outside.”

5. Be patient

Maybe you want to get a hotel room with your boyfriend on prom night, but your dad is putting his foot down. Or maybe you want to go on the Pill, but your mom says you’re not ready. When you and your parents don’t see eye to eye, it can be incredibly frustrating.

If you’re bringing up a topic you’ve never discussed before — like telling your parents that you’re having sex and want to go on the Pill, or that you’re pregnant — they might need some extra time to process your words. Even if you’re freaking out on the inside, try to be patient and avoid getting angry.

“You’ve had a lot of time to think about this, but this may be the first time your parent is ever hearing this information,” Sheets Pika says. “They may need some time to process. So be patient with your parent, be patient with the process, and try not to get defensive as much as you possibly can — which is really hard to do in these situations, because they’re so emotional.”

It might take more than one conversation, and they might not react exactly how you’d like the first time, but try to see things from their point of view. They may not be ready to accept that you’re ready to have sex.

“Your parent loves you so much that perhaps their care and concern for you is clouding their better judgment,” says Sheets Pika. “In other words, if you were someone else, they might understand your situation perfectly, but because you’re their daughter, they literally cannot see the forest through the trees, and can’t have a good, calm, reasoned conversation about this.”

Just because the conversation didn’t go the way you had hoped today doesn’t mean that you parents’ views can’t or won’t change over time.

“Be patient and try to slowly bring these things up when you can in a measured way that isn’t door-slamming and sneaking out in the middle of the night and intentionally provoking them. You have to take on a more adult role, which is really tough. But it’s such an important conversation to be having, that in the long run, it’s really worth it.”

Knowing you’re being responsible and honest with them can go a long way. It’s entirely possible that once they’ve had some time to think the issue over, you might be able to find some common ground.

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i like this guy and have been seeing him at my friends houses or the beach but my mom and dad dont know that i really hangout with guys or like them. i want to be able to have him pick me up and go places to hangout and i want them to know that he is picking me up and its a boy i like and who is going to be my boyfriend soon!!
what do i say to get them to let me do these things though??

i want them to say yes to it and let me hangout with him ugh its complicated
and i dont know how they would approve of him driving me around either

omg! my parents r di same. Di thing is, where im from it’s not rlly “our culture” to get in serious relationships at a young age. my parents dont want me to date till im 18 although ive had 3 bfs 😋 and im 14 abt. to turn 15

but yea we managed to keep it secret they came to my house but my parent’s didnt know because a lot of my male friend come to visit me and they dont come a lot. but my parents think “im too young”. Although she almost kinda found out abt. 1 of dem and she didn’t rlly explode di way i thought she would. im a junior in high school and im abt. to turn 15 maybe she thinks im getting mature? 😖 idk but at least i didn’t get in trouble 😋

you should try to prove to them dat u r mature enough to handle a serious relationship. And maybe ask di boy ..if he wants to to ask ur parents if u 2 can date. If ur parents see dat he has di courage to ask dem for permission to date u they will know he rlly cares abt. u and rlly likes u. di reason y most parents r concerned abt. their children dating is dat they want to protect dem especially their daughters, they think dat all young boys just want to “use girls” or “expirement” (use them just for sex) but if he can prove to ur parents dat he’s not like dat maybe they’ll make u date.

I’m 16. My parents don’t know about my boyfriend and I’m afraid to tell them because my culture is so strict. We have had sex twice, and I want to see a doctor to make sure everything is OK and I didn’t catch an STD. But if I tell my parents, I will have to stop seeing my boyfriend and I will lose all my privileges. I know I should get checked. What should I do?

In a perfect world, we could talk to our parents about anything. Their life experience means parents can offer insight and advice on all sorts of situations. It’s surprising how often having that awkward conversation turns out to be a positive experience for both you and your parent.

But, if you really can’t talk to your folks, you still need to make your health a priority. That includes protecting yourself against STDs and unplanned pregnancy.

In most states, once you are 13, you can get checked and tested for STDs without a parent’s involvement. Many family doctors or pediatricians will agree to treat their teen patients confidentially. That means they won’t tell parents or anyone else unless you say it’s OK. So you may be able to ask your own doctor if he or she will do so.

If you’re worried about insurance or have other reasons why you don’t want to see your family doctor or pediatrician, you can get tested for STDs at a health clinic like Planned Parenthood. It’s confidential, and you also can get information about birth control and condoms. You also can search the Internet Sexuality Information Services site at to find a health clinic in your area.

Some schools also run health clinics during school hours. Again, these are usually confidential — ask first to be sure.

It’s great you’re aware that having sex can affect your health. It is never too late to start protecting yourself and using condoms is great way to prevent pregnancy and STDs until you can get in to see a doctor or . Putting wellness first is one way we can take responsibility and control over our lives!

When the coronavirus pandemic began, I decided to leave my apartment and go stay with my parents in the suburbs. Three months later, I'm still sleeping in their den, which is also my dad's office. There is no lock on the door, and he comes in and out when he needs things. A girl has needs. but I’m not sure how to satisfy myself with such a lack of privacy. Not to mention, the whole situation stresses me out so much I think it will take me longer to get there. Help. — Rolling solo


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1. Create some privacy.

Do your best to create some boundaries and privacy at your parents' house (or wherever you're staying, be it a friend or other relative's abode). There are a few ways you can do that. You can tell your parents that you need some privacy so you can meditate. That way they are less likely to disturb you.

Another option is to simply ask them to knock before coming into the room, in case you might be changing. Along those lines, you might want to ask them if they would be willing to put a lock on the door. You could let them know that do you really value your privacy, especially when you're sleeping, and would like to have the reassurance of the lock on the door.

When all else fails, the bathroom is the ideal private spot. Even in the most intrusive of homes, most people respect bathroom privacy. This is where bathtub faucets and shower nozzles come in handy!

2. Get some portable goodies that are quiet.

Once you've established some privacy, or everyone is asleep in the middle of the night, you're going to want to make sure you can do your thing without it being obvious. While touching yourself is the most discrete option, many women rely on a vibrator to expedite climax. Unfortunately, this is not the time to plug-in your Hitachi wand. Luckily, there are tons of small, quiet, and portable vibrators on the market out there that can fit in your purse. Most options are also waterproof, so you can use your vibe for some shower action, too.

3. Try silent foreplay.

Staying at your parents' house is not the time for sex FaceTiming with your partner for all to hear. Instead, try an erotic novel or a more raunchy read like Nancy Friday’s buffet of sexual fantasies in My Secret Garden. If you decide to get your fix via porn, make sure that you wear headphones or keep the volume off (you can even look at GIFs to be sure it's legit silent). Fortunately, the fantasy that goes on in your head is silent, so that is still a great warm-up for your solo play.

4. Use your imagination.

Make your situation work for you. Maybe you had some glory days in that very same room that you want to revisit. Or, try to come up with fantasies that you can use to get yourself off where you are prevented from making noise. Use your imagination to make the best of what you’ve got going on. Then, enjoy yourself — but try not to scream.

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