How to let a guy friend know you’re not interested romantically in a nice way

How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way

The most dreadful part about dating is having to tell someone you’re not interested.

Figuring out exactly how to tell someone you’re not interested can be really stressful when you don’t want to hurt their feelings — especially after you’ve been dating for a while or have friends in common.

Breaking it off with nice guys isn’t as easy as walking up to him and saying “I’m not interested,” — at least for most of us. It might make you feel bad and even guilty for turning someone down. This can lead to even more painful methods of rejection that have become all too common in modern and online dating, such as ghosting.

Ultimately, though, a polite rejection is infinitely better than leaving the person you’ve been spending time with questioning where they stand.

“Remember, this is another human being, with feelings, who you are breaking up with,” says life coach Mitzi Bockmann, BA, CLC. “Would you ghost or breadcrumb a co-worker, family member, or friend?”

No one wants to be rejected — but we have to remember that no one really likes being the rejecter either. According to Bockmann, the best way to reject someone nicely “is to speak from your own perspective.”

“Don’t say ‘you aren’t right for me,’ but rather, ‘I know that I am looking for something different’ or ‘I don’t feel connected to you,'” she explains. “That way you aren’t attacking them personally, judging them, but rather speaking about your own needs. No matter what, it might hurt, but the pain will be less if you don’t attack them.”

I have to admit ending things over text or dating app messaging system is a thousand times easier than doing it face to face. But sometimes you have no choice but to tell him you aren’t interested face-to-face.

Don’t worry, the steps below will help you say you’re not interested politely.

How To Tell Someone You’re Not Interested

1. Keep your interactions short.

If you don’t like him like that, keep the conversations short. Guys tend to assume you’re crushing on them if you talk to them for a long time. Keeping things short also reduces the chances of things escalating into a long-term relationship.

How to put it into action: If you’re not sure what to say to end it, try saying “I really have to go.” or “Sorry, I have to get back to my friends.”

2. Tell him, “Thank you, but no thank you.”

Some guys are really bold, and they’ll ask you one a date right away. If you know from the get-go that you’re not interested in taking your relationship any further, the best thing you can do is make that crystal clear from the start.

How to put it into action: Tell him “thanks” to let him know you appreciate the offer and think he’s a great person — just not for you. But be sure to follow with a “no thank you” so that he knows you aren’t interested. If he asks why, remember that you don’t owe him an explanation — you don’t have to answer unless you choose to.

3. Avoid flirting with him.

If you’re telling him you aren’t interested but you’re flirting with him, he’ll think you’re just playing hard to get or sending mixed signals. He won’t think you really rejected him and he’ll continue to pursue you.

How to put it into action: Don’t flirt with him altogether so there’s no room for confusion.

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4. Tell him you’d prefer to stay friends.

Nothing kills a guy’s vibe more than hearing he’s in the friend zone. Guys hate being friend-zoned by a girl they’re interested in.

How to put it into action: Tell him he’s just your friend and watch how fast the flirting stops.

5. Just tell him “no” and remove yourself from the situation.

Some guys just aren’t good at taking hints or being let down easy. So you can’t shy away from being direct with them.

How to put it into action: The best thing you can do is just flat out tell him you’re not interested in dating. Don’t tell him you enjoy talking to him or say anything to prolong the conversation.

There might be an instance when you tell a guy no and he persists. If that continues and you feel unsafe, leave the situation altogether. You don’t owe him anything other than honesty.

How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way

You don’t want to hurt their feelings, but you also don’t want to date them. This is how you can tell somebody you’re not interested.

I’ve heard amazing stories about friends who found their perfect match online, but I’ve also heard some pretty awful dating app nightmares that would put you off from swiping right. All of this has to do with a debate about whether dating apps are desensitizing users by replacing face-to-face interaction with virtual exchanges. For example, one time, a friend of mine was supposed to meet up with a guy she had been talking to for a while. As she was waiting for him to arrive, she noticed a lot of time had gone by, so she took out her phone to check. On the screen, a text from the guy read “not impressed, bye.” This made her very sad and depressed, to the point that I didn’t see her around for a while. I was furious: why did that guy have to be so cruel to her? He felt brave enough to send a mean message, but I bet he wouldn’t have had the courage to talk to her face-to-face.

In many ways, smartphones have made us forget that on the other side of our phone’s screen, there’s a real, live human being. They are people just like us, with feelings. Part of the reason behind the popularity of these dating apps has to do with the fact that we don’t have to try very hard, especially when it comes to rejecting somebody. If you like someone, swipe right. If you don’t like them, swipe left. In real life, telling somebody that you don’t like them takes not only courage but also sensibility, tact, and the right words. If you are struggling to tell someone that you are not interested in them, these tips will help you accomplish this task.

How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way

When someone insists too much

If you are like me and like getting things over with as quickly and painlessly as possible, you’ll like this alternative. If this person is insisting a little too much, and you definitely want to put a end to it, I would say stay calm and be sincere; remember, honesty is your best weapon. When we try to sugar coat our arguments, the other person can misunderstand, or even get offended. So, stick to the truth, keep it brief, and make eye contact. Take the following line and adapt it to your situation:

How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way

Staying friends

Telling someone you’d rather stay friends can get very awkward, and it can ruin the friendship. Unfortunately, there is no magic tool that can save people from romantic disappointment. If your friend suddenly wants to take things to the next level, and you simply can’t picture the two of you as a couple, I would consider the following idea:

After that, if they decide to end the friendship, there is very little for you to do. This consequence is sometimes irreversible, but at least you’ll know you’ve done the right thing by being honest. Also, if they want to patch things up, they’ll do so knowing how you feel. Perhaps you can even suggest taking some time apart so the other person can process their feelings and see where they stand emotionally.

How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way

When you are in love with someone else

Once again, honesty is the best policy. Telling someone that you can’t be with them because you have feelings for someone else will probably break their heart. They’ll be sad and disappointed, but when it comes to love, the old saying is right: the heart wants what it wants. The best way to tell them is to be honest, and to choose your words carefully; put yourself in their shoes. Try something like this:

How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way

After dating

It happens: you’ve gone out with this person, but suddenly you realize it’s not going to work. Don’t feel bad, sometimes we don’t see things clearly until some time has passed. You probably decided to date them based on pressure or impulses, but now that you realize you can’t be with this person any longer, here comes the toughest part of it all: telling them it’s over.

How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way

On social media platforms

Someone DMs you out of nowhere, asking you out in a short and unexpected message. What do you do? You may have many reasons not to go out with this person, perhaps you don’t know them that well or you don’t have that many friends in common. If it makes you uncomfortable then once again, honesty is the best course of action. If they keep insisting and make you feel even more uncomfortable then block them, no one has the right to pressure you in that way, no one.

How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way

Telling someone that you’re not interested in dating them is not easy. It takes everything to look someone in the eye and break their fantasy, a fantasy they pictured with you. There can be tears, sadness, and even depression, but you aren’t the responsible for it, they are. If they don’t understand, or refuse to accept it, try being a little more direct, but never cruel. The important thing is not to lie to them because it’ll make the situation worse, and they can find out later. Put yourself in their shoes, and treat them how you’d like to be treated.

How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way

Browse these 16 ways to tell a gay man you’re barking up his tree.

Unfortunately for us, we are bound by language. In Spanish, there is te quiero — I think you’re awesome, I dig you, a casual “I love you,” something you shout at your friends after a great night — and te amo, which means “I love you.” The full-on romantic love. I want to kiss you.

“Interested in” may mean anything from a hardcore crush to a casual “huh, maybe.” It’s your job to communicate what you’re feeling. Language is at your disposal, along with a few more tricks. The fact is, you like him. You may know him very well or not at all, but you’re — for lack of a better word — interested. What now?

How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way

1. Stalk his Facebook page and like one of his profile pictures.

Not the most effective way, but it sends the message that you’ve at least browsed as much as you can through his digital life. Find that one awful picture from 5+ years ago. He’s standing in a group producing a pained smile and a cringeworthy peace sign. He’s wearing one of those white seashell necklaces we all wore in the ’90s. Go a step further and comment “Cute” with a winking emoticon.

How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way

2. Send an unsolicited dick pic on Grindr.

Unsolicited XXX pics are the subject of endless debate. Send one via Grindr and you may get blocked. Or land a hookup. Some guys like anonymous sex and will meet up from a dick pic — no face needed. I will.

The line between what is allowed and disallowed in sex is drawn at consent. Whipping out your junk in public to someone nonconsenting is a crime. Sending XXX pics, solicited or otherwise, is a severe offense in all 50 states if the sender or receiver is underage — even if the person in the images is an adult.

Sending nudes between two consenting adults is generally fine, although if distributed vengefully, as sometimes happens between exes, you can sue for harassment.

The trouble with sending nudes is that it’s difficult to control their dissemination once you send them. If they end up on a child’s phone, things get very messy, and you may need to call a lawyer.

However, if you’re on Grindr or Scruff (or any gay sex site, really), seeing unrequested cocks, holes, and sex shots is unavoidable. You assume the risk of seeing one (or ten) every time you log onto the app.

If your crush is 0.5 miles away, why not? Who can blame us in a culture where we are so commonly reduced to our basic anatomy?

It can be really frustrating when the guy you like only sees you as a friend or even worse, doesn’t notice you at all. You have so much to offer and would be the greatest girlfriend ever, you just have to figure out a way to help him see you in a different light. Here are a few things you can try that will help get you out of the friend zone and make your guy start setting his romantic sights on you.

Steer clear from the guys’ group.
How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way
If your crush is someone that you’ve been platonic friends with for a while, one of the biggest tricks to getting him to start looking at you differently is to break the cycle of what you’ve always done. If you’ve always been one of the guys and hung out mostly in group settings doing platonic activities like watching sports and playing video games, try switching things up. Suggest the two of you hang out alone and do something with a little more potential for romance like a heartfelt movie or a nice, leisurely walk in the park. Give him the chance to see you differently.

Don’t be too humble.
How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way
We’ve always been taught not to brag about our good qualities or to even talk about them too much at all because it’ll make us seem conceited. However, the truth is, being confident about the things that make you awesome, in a non-conceited way, of course, makes you so much more attractive! Maybe all your crush needs is a reminder of how incredible of a woman you are to shake him awake and realize that you’d be the perfect girlfriend! Don’t be afraid to let yourself shine!

Turn the flirt on.
How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way
It might feel odd at first, but in order for him to start seeing you as more than a friend or acquaintance and also for him to see that you have feelings for him, you’ve got to start flirting a bit! Don’t overthink it, just do what comes naturally and I promise you it’ll make all the difference. He’ll start seeing you as someone that he could have a romantic relationship with and you’ll start getting used to the idea too.a

Get dressed up.
How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way
Of course, the right guy will think you’re beautiful no matter what you’re wearing but if you’re trying to make a man see you differently and notice you more, it definitely doesn’t hurt to get a little dressed up so that you feel your best and so that he can see that you’ve put effort into your appearance. That’ll be sure to catch his eye.

Use body language.
How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way
Flirting isn’t just about what you say, a lot of it involves your body movements too. Flirting with body language can be a very powerful force that ignites electricity between people and brings them closer. Don’t be afraid to touch his shoulder when you’re talking to him or playfully nudge him. It lets him know that you’re interested and can help to alleviate any awkwardness or tension in a moment.

Let go of immature ideals.
How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way
Ultimately, men are just like women when it comes to seeking romantic partners. Most of us want someone that we can depend on. Someone who is mature, smart, responsible, can still have a good time but knows how to be an adult too. If you’re clinging to your adolescent-like ways such as petty drama and gossip and complaining about tiny inconveniences, how do you expect anyone to see you as responsible and mature? If you want him to start looking at you like a woman with who he could have something real, you’ve got to start acting like a real woman. Take care of your life and your stuff and do it with confidence! Any man worth having will be so much more attracted to a strong, independent woman.

Show him the different layers of yourself.
How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way
If all he’s ever seen you as is a friend, it’s important to show him different sides of yourself so that he can start seeing you in a different light. Talk to him about personal and deep things. Share details about your life and personality with him that he doesn’t already know. Confide in him with your secrets and struggles. Once he sees that you’re able to trust him, he’ll be better able to trust you too and that will give romance a better chance to blossom.

Maintain your independence.
How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way
One of the most important ways that you can make a guy interested in you is also one of the most simple. Just continue living your life. You have to remember that you’ve still got your own things going on and you can’t just drop everything and be available for him at any time that he needs you or wants you. Play hard to get which is always a great way to make a guy interested in you. Busy yourself with dominating your life and before you know it, he’ll be calling you up to ask you out on a date.

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How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way

During the first few casual dates, prior to any discussion of exclusivity or commitment, both men and women are guilty of blowing off a romantic interest. Do you really owe someone a let-down response if you’re only in the “getting to know you” stage?

If one person expresses interest in another date, the answer is yes. If the chemistry was lacking and there was no follow-up on either part after the first date, then it’s okay to go your separate ways in silence.

Whether you’ve been Houdini and pulled a disappearing act, gone radio silent, or played the slow fade where you wait longer and longer to respond to someone until you’re blatantly ignoring him or her, the bottom line is, it’s rude and you may be causing more harm in the end.

How To Tell Someone You’re Not Interested After a First Date

The most important piece of dating advice is this: If you’re not feeling it, it’s important to just be clear with the other person.

Being straightforward saves this person mental anguish and wasted energy spent obsessing and overanalyzing your non-communicative behavior. This person is, after all, someone who wants to find love. Be assertive and tell it like it is — in a kind way, of course!

Sometimes there can be an innocent misunderstanding when one person feels a connection and the other has no interest in pursuing it any further. In this situation, sometimes we assume our date felt the same disconnect.

However, if one person expresses interest in getting together again, proper dating etiquette is to clearly communicate that you are no longer interested.

You might think you’re sending a message by just ignoring or subtly decreasing communication, but it’s confusing and hurtful. Dating is hard enough, and the fear of rejection is real. Let’s make the process easier on everyone by showing some courtesy and respect.

Of course, it’s not fun disappointing someone who’s into you, but that’s part of dating. The reality is that not every date or relationship is going to work out.

When you don’t respond, you’re leaving the other person clueless, and this can be damaging to his or her self-esteem. Many people don’t call or send a text, and even fewer say it straight to someone’s face because they dread hurting someone’s feelings. However, it feels worse to be ignored.

Stop wasting people’s time and emotional energy that could be invested back into the dating market. The longer you keep someone wondering, the more you tie up his or her emotional resources, and that’s not fair.

What to Say After a First Date If You’re Not Interested

Here are 10 straightforward and kind ways to say you’re not interested in moving forward after a first date.

1. “It was great meeting you, but I didn’t feel any chemistry.”

2. “I had a blast but I got more of a friend vibe.”

3. “We had a fun date, but I just did not feel a romantic connection.”

4. “You seem wonderful, but I didn’t feel a spark between us.”

5. “I don’t see this going in the direction of a serious relationship and that’s what I’m looking for.”

6. “I really appreciate the opportunity to get to know you, but I should be honest that I don’t see a future together.”

7. “I respect you so I want to be straightforward that despite having a nice time, I don’t see this going anywhere.”

8. “You’re a catch, unfortunately just not my catch.”

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9. “You’re awesome and deserve someone great, I just don’t think I’m that guy/girl.”

10. “Thanks for making the time to get together. I wish there was something more between us, but I only had platonic feelings.”

After making any of these statements, you can throw in something like, “Good luck out there,” “Best of luck dating,” or “I know you’ll find someone great!”

Just don’t feel guilty and throw out a pity “We can be friends” comment if you have no intention of actually keeping in touch.

Keep in mind that you can date 100 people and number two could be “the one,” or you may have to date all 100 to meet that special someone. Accept that not hitting it off is not only part of the process, but it’s actually more likely to happen than not.

If you’re looking for a lifelong partner, ideally only one of these relationships will work out, so you just have to keep dating — and dating respectfully makes the whole process easier on everyone.

So the next time you want to end it, set a good example for the other daters out there and be assertive by taking 30 seconds to send a text, knowing that it is much more appreciated than being ignored.

How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way

How to Say You Just Want to Be Friends | Dating Tips

Have you been crossing physical boundaries and touching more often? All of these can signal the movement of a platonic friendship into romantic territory, says wellness writer Joan Moran. To maintain a platonic relationship with your friend, stop flirting. Tell him that the romantic relationship no longer works for you, but that you value him as a person and hope you can remain friends. Then give him some time, advises Huffington Post editor Brittany Wong. After at least a couple of months, try hanging out in a platonic situation.

According to the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, people have six core reasons for choosing to make a relationship platonic: Maintain clear boundaries, cautions Moran, and steer clear of conversations about sex. If you really want to be friends with someone, you need to treat her like a friend and not a romantic partner. Emma Wells has been writing professionally since She is also a writing instructor, editor and former elementary school teacher.

How to Say You Just Want to Be Friends

She has a Master’s degree in writing and a Bachelor of Arts in English and anthropology. Her creative work has been published in several small literary magazines. Man and woman having discussion at table.

The fact that you are not that into him is the consequence he faces for taking that risk. There are a few ways you can lessen the impact of rejection. Gorshow suggests specific wording to be clear in your preference. Having just started a new job, I don’t want any misunderstandings between us.

How to Tell Someone You Just Want to Be Friends

Having said that, I would like it if we could just remain friends? So the next time he asks if you want to hang out, you can say, ‘If it’s a group thing count me in, but if it is just the two of us, I am going to have to invoke my rule of no dating co-workers. Teenagers are learning how to navigate relationships and may not understand that some girls simply want to be friends. It is not the job of teenage girls to make teenage boys feel better about getting rejected. While it’s important to be kind when telling a guy that you’re not interested in a relationship beyond friendship at any age since emotions are involved, it’s far more important to be clear and not apologetic about not being interested.

No girl or woman is obligated to date a boy or a man just to protect his ego.

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How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice wayHow to tell someone you just want to be friends after dating
How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice wayHow to tell someone you just want to be friends after dating
How to tell someone you just want to be friends after dating
How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice wayHow to tell someone you just want to be friends after dating
How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way by David Wygant
Posted at 1:00 pm on April 2, 2020

How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way

Dating can be rough sometimes.

You met a really great man.

His words soothe your soul.

You love the way he talks and what he’s all about.

He’s a really good looking guy.

But you’re not feeling the attraction. You don’t feel triggered. You don’t really want to kiss him. You don’t want him touching you. You don’t want him making love to you.

There’s nothing wrong with it. But, you start debating your brain and you start thinking to yourself, how come I don’t feel this incredible attraction to this amazing man?

It happens all the time. It happens to me a lot. I can go out with somebody, look across at them and feel absolutely nothing. That actually happens with the majority of women I go out with. There’s nothing wrong with them at all. They’re beautiful, they’re great, the conversation flows, they make me laugh, but I just don’t feel that “it” factor.

I don’t feel like reaching across and grabbing them, kissing them, and touching them. I just feel like – well, you know the debate we have in our heads, Should I kiss them or should I not? – sometimes, it just doesn’t feel right, and there’s nothing wrong with that at all.

Sometimes, You’re Just Not Attracted to the Other Person

It happens all the time. It happens all over the place, all over the world. Women are going out on dates every single day, and nothing is happening. That’s perfectly okay.

So, how do you tell a man that you’re not attracted to him?

There’s a way to do it so he doesn’t feel like a loser. Bad word, but it’s the only way I can put.

You have a man who has the hots for you; he’s talking to you or coming on to you, but you’re not feeling it. You need to let him down easily. You’re going to have to tell him that you’re not attracted to him, but it’s the way you say it that will make him feel good, feel okay about it.

A lot of women do it the wrong way.

A lot of you will basically tell a man, “Hey, I’m just not attracted to you. I’m just not feeling you, but I think you’re amazing and I would love to have you in my life.” And, that’s about it.

A lot of guys who put themselves out there become vulnerable. When they hear you say those words, they start asking themselves what they did wrong.

Men like this blame themselves. They like to think there is something they could’ve done differently; maybe a way they spoke to you, or maybe they got too vulnerable, or maybe they said too many things.

A man will go into his head just as much as a woman will go into her head. That man will start to eat himself up emotionally and mentally. He’ll get upset and start closing up, and he’ll start to do things differently. But in reality, what he did was actually pretty good, it was actually really amazing the way he came on to you and the way he spoke to you, so you need to tell him that.

The Right Way to Let Him Down

You need to let him down this way:

You need to look at him, and you need to rephrase it so you keep his ego in check, because it’s a delicate situation when a man is falling for a woman and he likes her but she doesn’t like him back. You need to give him encouragement, so he goes out the very next day and feels amazing.

Most men’s skins are not thick enough to handle what they think is rejection, and it takes a lot for them to become open and vulnerable.

So, what do you do, and what do you say?

You look at him and say this:

“I’ve got to tell you, I think you’re absolutely amazing. I love the way you speak, I love what you’re all about. You’re a great looking guy. I’m just not feeling it at all. I would love to feel it. I’ve been trying to, but I just don’t feel that attraction that I need. Everything you’ve said and talked about are all the things any woman would really want to be a part of. So, I would love to be your friend and just support you, and help you find somebody absolutely amazing. Maybe we can help each other out in that way.”

That’s how you say it. By saying that, you’re telling him that he’s great. You’re telling him that he’s attractive. You’re telling him all the things he needs to hear to move on and you’re actually supporting him in that quest. What will happen is that man will absolutely remain open and vulnerable, and he won’t close off.

I’ve had women tell me they’re not attracted to me, and that’s about it. And you know what? I can handle it; I’ve got a thick skin. But, I’m always thinking about everybody else, and most other people are not as thick-skinned.

Most other people are always looking for that excuse and the reason to shut down. You don’t want to shut another person down; you want to keep that person open. And you know, when you keep somebody open, it feels really great.

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As a woman, it was more or less ingrained in me growing up that I had to be “nice,” and being nice meant that I should always keep other people’s feelings in mind. Unfortunately, that can make telling a guy that I’m not interested in him romantically even harder. While I don’t want to hurt his feelings, I also don’t want to be pressured into a relationship that I don’t want. If you struggle with the same thing, here are a few great ways to tell a guy that you don’t want a romantic relationship with them.

Tell him that you like someone else.
How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way
Who knows, this may very well be true. If you have another crush, this guy should be understanding, especially since it’s not a personal diss to him. Even if the guy asking you out really is great, sometimes you might just not see him in a romantic way. Don’t feel bad about it. Also, don’t tell him who your crush is on. You don’t want him to find strange ways to retaliate or try to sabotage your chances. Most guys wouldn’t think of going down that road, but men who haven’t learned how to handle rejection yet might.

Let him know you’re not in the same place as him.
How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way
Maybe you’re not even looking for a relationship and this new guy just took you by surprise. Some people thrive with being single. This answer is kind, yet also very personal. If you’re not set on dating right now, there’s nothing you can do to quickly change that.

Try to send it through text.
How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way
If you don’t know him all that well, a text rejection may be best. It’s much better than ghosting but might not be as awkward as telling him face-to-face. Just make sure to answer him quickly, since it’s cruel to lead him on for a weekend just for him to realize you aren’t interested. Give him time to move on.

Pad it with a compliment.
How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way
Maybe this guy is really sweet but just not for you. Tell him you think he’s a great person but just don’t have time in your life for a relationship right now. A truly good guy will understand. If he gets pushy, that might ruin his chances down the road, in case you ever reconsider. It’s also nice to thank him for being bold and asking you out, as it’s a scary thing to do regardless of your age.

Tell him you see him more as a friend and don’t know if that will change.
How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way
Nobody likes being in the friend zone, but it happens sometimes. If you really see him more like a big brother than a future husband, it’s really hard to change your perception, especially overnight. Let him know that you’re flattered and expect your friendship to change a little. It’s not pleasant, but it’s hard to go back to the same level after admitting a crush.

If you’ve been on a date or two with him, say you can tell that you’re not a match.
How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way
The truth can be hard to handle, but if you’ve given this guy a shot, it’s pointless to waste any more of his time. Send a text and tell him you had a lot of fun but that based on your interactions, you’re not seeing a ton of chemistry. Hopefully, he’ll accept that you’re letting him down easy. If he responds with any sort of rebuttal or criticism, don’t take it seriously. He’s getting defensive and proving further why the two of you were never meant to be.

Keep things short.
How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way
You don’t want to write or speak out a novel of text — that only hides your point. Try to keep rejections to just a few sentences. If you get too wordy and try to detail everything that happened, he may not understand what you’re really trying to say. Keep it simple, and keep it kind.

Don’t lead him on.
How to let a guy friend know you're not interested romantically in a nice way
If you know that nothing will blossom from this relationship, don’t give him false hope that it will. Sure, things may change up in five years when you’re in different headspaces. But if he really likes you, telling him that may inspire him to put his life on hold. If you don’t like him, don’t tell him that things may be different down the line when they won’t. If you can’t help but slip a line like that in, you may want to re-evaluate how you actually feel about it.

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