How to be girly

How to Be a Girl is an audio podcast I produce about life with my young transgender daughter, as we attempt together to sort out just what it means to be a girl. You can find a complete list of episodes here.

How to be girly

If you want to get a little background on our story, you can watch this cartoon I made about how it all began.

This episode is different from any of our previous episodes. It’s also a do-over, because the first version of this episode overlooked the fact that my daughter is growing up, fast. She’s almost a teenager, and we both agree that it’s time she took charge. So that’s what she did. (Here’s a little more about how this episode came to be.)

How to be girly

Find us on Twitter: @girlpodcast

“Edge of the World” (Instrumental) by Dot Dot Dot (Courtesy of Audiosocket)

Filesharer’s Lament by Podington Bear

I want you to meet my good friend, Emma. When she was a little girl, she was just like my daughter. But no one knew her for 60 years. I’m so glad she’s here now.

(Note: I recorded this interview early this year, when my daughter was still in elementary school. She just started middle school. Please stay tuned for an episode soon(ish) about that!)

How to be girly

How to be girly

“Dust in Sunlight,” “Frosted Glass,” “Boardwalk,” and “Clair_De Lune Solo Piano” by Podington Bear

“The Wah-Watusi” by The Orlons

“In the Garden (instrumental)” by Jetty Rae (Courtesy of Audiosocket)

“Like a Movie” by Nicole Reynolds (Courtesy of Audiosocket)

How to be girly

I sit down for a talk with my (almost) 11-year-old: Cliques, gossip, fashion, puberty, and how it feels to be a transgender tween.

MUSIC CREDIT: “Little Girl” by Jetty Rae (Courtesy of Audiosocket)

How to be girly

A new friend at school. A poker lesson. A 10-year-old hatches a plan.

“Ganef” by Vagabond Opera and “Moonlight Love Affair” by Steve Rice (Courtesy of Audiosocket)

“The Reckoning” by Podington Bear

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How to be girly

Are the new next-door neighbors going to let their daughters play with mine if they find out she’s transgender? To attempt to answer this question, I seek expert advice from a new friend in the Bible Belt.

“Morning” by Nicole Reynolds, “Shall We Gather at the River” by Pat Holmberg, “Amazing Grace Solo Piano” by Lana Palmer (Courtesy of Audiosocket)

“Canoe” by Podington Bear

“Amazing Grace,” piano and vocals by Miss M. Mack

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How to be girly

Need to hear a positive story about politics? I know I do. Here’s the inspiring story of Sarah McBride, the young transgender activist who gives me hope (and is my personal pick for the first transgender president).

MUSIC CREDITS: “Halflight,” “G Piano,” “Across the River, and “Triste” by Podington Bear; “Asturias” by Isaac Albeniz (Courtesy of Audiosocket).

Please consider supporting us on Patreon. It really helps keep this podcast going!

How to be girly

In the last episode, I asked my listeners to help me answer this question: Should my daughter tell the kids at her new school that she’s transgender? In this episode, you will hear the wisdom that came back to me. My cup runneth over.

MUSIC CREDITS: “Den,” “Floating in Space,” “Surface Tension,” and “Threshold” by Podington Bear; “You Are a Memory” by Message to Bears (Courtesy of Audiosocket); and “Leave Them” and “Telling Me So” by St. Paul de Vence.

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How to be girly

How to Be Feminine and 10x More Attractive

What Your Mom and Grandma Would Have Told You if They’d Known

As a young adult, it made me angry when someone implied that men and women are different because that showed they were prejudiced.

I saw that as the old, unenlightened thinking. I smugly believed I knew the truth: everyone was the same, regardless of gender.

I knew how to be assertive, speak up for my rights, and correct others for their backward thinking.

I was charming like that.

But I didn’t know how to be feminine or even recognize my own astonishing power as a woman.

Looking back, I feel sad for the clueless younger version of me.

I was so hopelessly ignorant of the valuable contributions that I bring to my relationship and to the world as a woman that I tried to avoid seeming feminine.

I equated femininity with weakness.

I was afraid my gifts were repulsive.

Now that I know what it looks like to be feminine, I find there’s such ease, dignity and comfort in it—what a relief! I feel good in my skin when I’m my feminine self.

When I say “feminine,” I don’t mean manipulative or overtly sexual. I’m talking about honoring my feminine spirit, which I’ll explain.

Learning how to be feminine rocked my relationship and my world in the best way I can imagine.

There are no clothes, makeup, or plastic surgery that can come close to having the irresistible magnetism of the feminine spirit in a woman.

Receive Graciously

Receptivity is the essence of femininity.

I’m going to repeat that, just to make sure you don’t miss it. It’s the key to blowing wide open the whole mystery of how to be feminine.

Receptivity is the essence of femininity.

To be more feminine, be more receptive.

Here’s how: Consider receiving gifts, compliments, and help graciously.

That means if your husband says you look cute when you have bed hair, you say “Thank you” and nothing else. No need to explain that your hair is a mess. He has eyes too, and he doesn’t seem to think that matters. Just receive.

It means if a coworker says, “Do you want some help moving the chairs back?” and you feel guilty because it’s your responsibility, you smile and say only “Thank you.”

Receiving graciously also means that if someone—your man, a friend, a coworker—offers you a present, you receive that too.

Hannah decided to activate her feminine gifts when her new boyfriend, Sam, offered to repair her dilapidated car at his shop. She agreed, even though she was afraid she would owe him something in return.

He also wanted her to drive his expensive luxury car in the meantime. To make it even more uncomfortable for Hannah, he put new tires on her car for free.

It was all Hannah could stand to let him give her so much. She was nervous because she wasn’t used to such generosity, but she was determined to experiment with being feminine by being receptive.

Instead of demanding something in return, Sam was happy and proud that he had been able to help her so much. He seemed intent to find his next mission in service of bettering her life so he could make her beam with happiness again.

She got to feel special and have a roadworthy car, and he got to feel like her hero. Win-win!

Imagine if she had said, “Oh you don’t have to do that” and missed the chance to receive. She would have cheated herself out of the special treatment he wanted to give her, and he would have missed out on feeling proud and heroic. Lose-lose.

Women Are Built to Receive

Think of your body as a metaphor. When it comes to sex, you are built to receive. So is your spirit.

Men are fundamentally attracted to the feminine. So the more receptive you are, the more feminine you will be. The more feminine you are, the more attractive you will be.

But it’s not always easy. It wasn’t for me at first.

I found it nearly impossible to be receptive at times. So I rejected lots of gifts, compliments, and help.

I always had my reasons.

I thought I would owe a debt. But that’s not possible—by definition, gifts are free! Same with compliments and offers to help.

Sometimes I was trying to prove I could pull my own weight.

Other times I had another agenda: I didn’t want my husband to buy me flowers because it was a waste of money. I wanted to save money.

Or I felt undeserving, if I’m honest, and vulnerable.

But each time I rejected what was offered to make my life easier and more pleasant, I missed a chance to feel special, to get special treatment.

I missed the chance to feel intimate with the person who was trying to lighten my load or delight me, especially my husband!

Poor Receiving Made Me Less Attractive

When my husband discovered he couldn’t make my life sweeter and easier with his efforts because I rejected them for whatever reason, the intimacy suffered.

Today, my priority is to have the intimacy—to choose to be feminine—above my other silly reasons for not receiving. I have good receiving muscles now that I’ve been practicing.

You can start practicing too.

If a man offers to put your bag in the overhead compartment on a plane, say “Thank you.”

If the bagger at the grocery store offers to help you out to the car, consider saying “Thank you.”

If your husband offers to change the comforter cover and you fear he’ll put it on sideways, say only “Thank you.”

If he says you’re beautiful on a day when you don’t feel beautiful, accept his point of view and honor your feminine spirit by saying only “Thank you.”

There’s nothing more feminine than knowing you deserve to be admired, helped, and adored.

How can you flex your receiving muscles this week? I’d love to hear below.

How to be girly

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I was the perfect wife–until I actually got married. When I tried to tell my husband how to be more romantic, more ambitious, and tidier, he avoided me. I dragged him to marriage counseling and nearly divorced him. I then started talking to women who had what I wanted in their marriages and that’s when I got my miracle. The man who wooed me returned.

I wrote a few books about what I learned and accidentally started a worldwide movement of women who practice The Six Intimacy Skills™ that lead to having amazing, vibrant relationships. The thing I’m most proud of is my playful, passionate relationship with my hilarious husband John–who has been dressing himself since before I was born.

How to Be a Girl is an audio podcast I produce about life with my young transgender daughter, as we attempt together to sort out just what it means to be a girl. You can find a complete list of episodes here.

How to be girly

If you want to get a little background on our story, you can watch this cartoon I made about how it all began.

This episode is different from any of our previous episodes. It’s also a do-over, because the first version of this episode overlooked the fact that my daughter is growing up, fast. She’s almost a teenager, and we both agree that it’s time she took charge. So that’s what she did. (Here’s a little more about how this episode came to be.)

How to be girly

Find us on Twitter: @girlpodcast

“Edge of the World” (Instrumental) by Dot Dot Dot (Courtesy of Audiosocket)

Filesharer’s Lament by Podington Bear

I want you to meet my good friend, Emma. When she was a little girl, she was just like my daughter. But no one knew her for 60 years. I’m so glad she’s here now.

(Note: I recorded this interview early this year, when my daughter was still in elementary school. She just started middle school. Please stay tuned for an episode soon(ish) about that!)

How to be girly

How to be girly

“Dust in Sunlight,” “Frosted Glass,” “Boardwalk,” and “Clair_De Lune Solo Piano” by Podington Bear

“The Wah-Watusi” by The Orlons

“In the Garden (instrumental)” by Jetty Rae (Courtesy of Audiosocket)

“Like a Movie” by Nicole Reynolds (Courtesy of Audiosocket)

How to be girly

I sit down for a talk with my (almost) 11-year-old: Cliques, gossip, fashion, puberty, and how it feels to be a transgender tween.

MUSIC CREDIT: “Little Girl” by Jetty Rae (Courtesy of Audiosocket)

How to be girly

A new friend at school. A poker lesson. A 10-year-old hatches a plan.

“Ganef” by Vagabond Opera and “Moonlight Love Affair” by Steve Rice (Courtesy of Audiosocket)

“The Reckoning” by Podington Bear

Please consider checking out our Support Page. Your help keeps this podcast going!

How to be girly

Are the new next-door neighbors going to let their daughters play with mine if they find out she’s transgender? To attempt to answer this question, I seek expert advice from a new friend in the Bible Belt.

“Morning” by Nicole Reynolds, “Shall We Gather at the River” by Pat Holmberg, “Amazing Grace Solo Piano” by Lana Palmer (Courtesy of Audiosocket)

“Canoe” by Podington Bear

“Amazing Grace,” piano and vocals by Miss M. Mack

Please consider supporting us on Patreon. It really helps keep this podcast going!

How to be girly

Need to hear a positive story about politics? I know I do. Here’s the inspiring story of Sarah McBride, the young transgender activist who gives me hope (and is my personal pick for the first transgender president).

MUSIC CREDITS: “Halflight,” “G Piano,” “Across the River, and “Triste” by Podington Bear; “Asturias” by Isaac Albeniz (Courtesy of Audiosocket).

Please consider supporting us on Patreon. It really helps keep this podcast going!

How to be girly

In the last episode, I asked my listeners to help me answer this question: Should my daughter tell the kids at her new school that she’s transgender? In this episode, you will hear the wisdom that came back to me. My cup runneth over.

MUSIC CREDITS: “Den,” “Floating in Space,” “Surface Tension,” and “Threshold” by Podington Bear; “You Are a Memory” by Message to Bears (Courtesy of Audiosocket); and “Leave Them” and “Telling Me So” by St. Paul de Vence.

Please consider supporting us. It really helps keep this podcast going!

For girly boys and everyone who likes them 😉

Okay after a few poor boys wrote me that they want to be a girl like me I decided to share with everyone how to become more girly. At first it is very important for the whole training that you learn to find out what kind of girl you want to become and if there is any support for you. Support is here so you got 50% allready 😉 but to find out what kind of girl you want to be and if you really want to become a girl you got to do a bit more, but it is quiet simple if you just follow the following steps:

1. Tell yourself you are a girl. A girly girl, you are not a man anymore. You are feminin and weak. Repeat it! Look into a mirror and do it again and again. Do it every day for a couple of minutes, every morning and evening. One week. After the first or second day you can go to step two.

2.Step two is quiet simple. Go into a store were you can buy magazines and buy one for womans. Like the vogue. You can check out styles there and so on. Of course you do not have to buy the vogue but vogue is very good. After you got it go to step three.

3. Step three. Find out what kind of girl you want to be. Look into the vogue and check out the styles. What kind of style do you like and do you think would suites you? If you found something good you should go out into a cafe and check out some girls there. How are they moving,talking,laughing…. study them. Look for one with a style you like and check out the accessories. Everytime keep in your mind why you are doing it. 🙂 Because you are a girl. If you are jealous because a girl got a nice scarf you would like to wear it is a good sign 😀 . After you are finish with the third step you finished the first part of sissy training. This part will take round about two weeks if you make it well.. Maybe a few days more or less.

What I want you to do is following these instructions and report me your feelings. And best and worst situation 🙂 I want my tarining plan become better again… I ll upload the next part soon I just do not want anyone start with second part directly.

Okay enjoy your training now my girls and if you got questions just write me. Kiss kiss

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Transgender women are unapologetically fashion conscious; they have an insatiable desire to look more feminine . Just like cisgender women, they always want to look younger and prettier. If you visit any Transgender Dating Site , you will be surprised and awed by the number of feminine beauties looking for love. However, after the sex reassignment surgery, many transgender women find themselves at the end of their wits on how to look more feminine. It is important for transgender women to understand that clothes, cosmetics, and accessories are not the only aspects of femininity, as femininity encompasses more than physical appearance. If you are a transgender woman and you are struggling with your femininity , this article offers you an insightful guide to help you express your womanliness to the fullest.

Understand Femininity

Unfortunately, even though transgender women have a womanly gender inclination, they were not brought up as women. As a result, when they are “reborn” after the sex reassignment surgery, they can face some challenges as they learn to embrace their femininity. The first step towards embracing femaleness should be having a firm grasp on what it means to be female. This involves reading and researching about femininity and, if needed, hiring a femininity coach.

Being female is as much mental as it is physical. The way you think, therefore, is the cornerstone of being feminine. If you think you are sexy, then you should walk and talk as though you are the goddess of femininity. Understanding that femaleness is both a state of mind and a physical state is a key factor in unlocking your feminine nature.

Your Voice and Movement

Some of the main areas that transgender women should concentrate on improving are how they move and talk. First, it is important to analyze your current movements and identify any areas that are overtly manly and abrupt. A woman is supposed to be gentle in her movements; she should be polished, graceful, and decorous. All of these traits should be readily apparent to everyone the moment you walk into a room. How you sit down and carry yourself should be in line with your feminine side. When seated, for example, your legs should never be apart; they should be neatly closed together and tucked under you.

If you have a course, deep voice, it is important that you train it to be more feminine. Several sources can help you develop a feminine voice, including magazines and YouTube videos. Practice makes perfect; hence, ensure that you practice daily. If possible, practice with a friend who is willing to offer you honest, constructive feedback. The more you talk and move like a woman, the more your confidence will soar in your new body.

Smile

Just like the old song says, “You’re never fully dressed without a smile.” To be more feminine, you need to know how to smile like a woman. A smile not only brightens up your face, but it also makes you look friendlier and more welcoming, traits both associated with femininity and womanly charm.

Carry a Handbag

Many transgender women avoid carrying a handbag because they do not know what to put inside it. Purses and bags are both practical and important for daily life as well as a fashion accessory for women. Some must-have products to pack in your handbag include the following: deodorant, a compact mirror, hand sanitizer, some lip products, cash, a notebook, and a pen.

How to be girly

The day I started hormones was the best day of my life. It was also a day I had to wait almost two years for, due to waiting lists here in the U.K. Sadly, the struggle to get onto hormones and begin transitioning is something many transgender people face — whether it’s due to waiting lists, financial issues, or unsupportive families, this can be extremely detrimental to our mental health. As Jay Stewart, PhD, the founder of Gendered Intelligence, explains, “It is so important for young trans people to express their gender in the ways they feel is right for them.”

Before I started my hormones, I felt depressed, but what got me through it was finding ways to make myself feel more feminine (at least, according to what my own definition of femininity is) and like I was progressing in my transition. Of course, everyone’s transition is different and everyone’s idea of femininity is different. But here, I share some of the things that helped me, as well as some of my top tips if you’re going through a similar time.

I grew my hair!

This was the easiest and cheapest way to progress in my transition because it cost no money at all and I could do it without even thinking. (Of course, I realize that not every girl wants to grow out her hair, but this was something I wanted to do.) Caring for your hair with nourishing treatments and oils can help to make it grow, but the best part about this extra hair care is that I was able to give myself some self-care, too.

Body hair removal

On the topic of hair: As well as growing it, there may be hair you want to remove. Everyone has different preferences to body hair, but my body hair always made me feel dysphoric. So even though I wasn’t living full time, I’d still do things like shave my legs so I felt more feminine. If you want to also have your hair removed, you can consider laser hair removal on your face (and consider that it’s a process that can take time).

Moisturizer is everything

I took time every day to moisturize my body from head to toe, and I don’t mean just slapping it on in a rush! I really took time to connect with myself — massaging it into my skin, showing my body some love. This really helped me battle my body dysmorphia and it improved my skin; win, win.

I painted my nails

Similarly to the moisturizing routine, this was a way of showing my body and myself some love. Looking down and seeing a feminine hand is a small but significant way I would affirm my gender to myself during this period where I wasn’t allowed or able to express it to the rest of the world. I wasn’t confident enough to go for a bold color during this period, so I’d just keep them filed and buffed with a coat of clear gloss, but this was enough to keep me feeling feminine during this hard time. Try it!

I practiced my voice

I began working on my voice. Sadly for us transgender girls, unlike transgender guys, hormones don’t do anything to our voices, so if you want a more feminine one (not everyone does!) you’ll have to train it yourself. There are loads of YouTube videos that will teach you how do this. It takes time and practice, though, so if this is something you want for yourself, get on with it as soon as possible. Alternatively, if this is something you don’t care about, good for you — that’s one less thing to worry about.

I practiced wearing makeup

Firstly, let me say that no, you don’t have to wear makeup to be a woman. But if makeup is something you want to use, it does take some practice! I’ve realized that this waiting time is the perfect opportunity to perfect the craft. One way to start learning the basics is to look up “morning routine” videos, where makeup artists show you their daily makeup routine.

I started my wardrobe

I started building up my female wardrobe, which helped me feel like I was progressing. If you’re tight on money, I suggest making a Pinterest board of clothes you want to (and will!) wear.

Eat well and exercise

Eating well and exercising is something we should all be doing (I ain’t judging you, I can’t talk!), but it’s extra important to do so during this time period. There are certain exercises you can do to create a more feminine figure if this is something you want. Squats, for example, will give you the ass of your dreams, no hormones required. Exercise, as we all know, is great for your mental health, too — so that’s an added bonus.

Started saving money early

I started saving my money. Transitioning can be expensive, especially if you want any surgery (though not everyone does, which is totally OK). But even the things like laser hair removal, makeup, and a new wardrobe add up. Saving money means you’re still progressing toward your goal and not staying stagnant during this period of waiting.

I learned to love myself.

This is the hardest, but most important, tip on this list. You don’t have to be on hormones or living full-time to start learning to love yourself. All the tips on this list have focused on changing yourself physically, but if you don’t learn to love yourself first, you will keep changing yourself until you’ve lost yourself — and even then, you still won’t love yourself. Start from within. If you tell yourself you’ll only be able to start loving yourself once you’ve transitioned, that’s not truly loving yourself. To love yourself means to accept yourself, wholeheartedly, as you are. Loving yourself doesn’t mean you necessarily like everything about your body, but it means you wholeheartedly accept everything about your body, and there’s nothing more beautiful, powerful, or important than that.

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This is a re-upload of a story that I originally posted in 2012 but deleted a year or so later. I hope you like it.

This is a true story from when I was 13 years old of when I was forced to wear girls clothing.

My parents were going away for the weekend, me and my sister spent the weekend at our grandmothers house. My grandma lived alone with her cat and was eager to have us over for a few days. She greeted us at the door with a big hug and lots of love. The day was great we had fun and was looking forward to the rest of the weekend.

When I went to go and have a shower I gave gran my clothes to be washed, half way through having the shower it suddenly dawned on me that I had forgotten to bring the bag of clothes that I’d packed. After having the shower I explained to my gran that I had no clothes with me, and we couldn’t go and get the bag because we didn’t have any keys to the house. Gran paused for a moment and left to go and get some clothes. After a minute or two she came back, and to my surprise she came back with a frilly girls nightie. (At this time I was really quite happy inside, as I was a secret crossdresser occasionally wearing dresses and all things girly.) Despite really wanting to put that nightie on and feel really girly, I didn’t want anyone to know that I was a crossdresser or that I would enjoy wearing the nightie. So I tryed asking if there was any other clothes available, but it was no use, it was the only nightwear she had. My gran is quite old fashioned and hated the idea of me sleeping with no clothes on, so to avoid having a argument with my gran I agreed to wear the nightie. The nightie was white with frilly sleeves and a small pink bow on the neck. Seeing the opportunity I asked her if she had any underwear because it was just too uncomfortable without. My gran gave me a pair of matching panties and I went to bed feeling the happiest I’ve felt in a long time.

Morning came and I was woken up by my gran knocking on the door to tell me that the dryer had broken and it’ll take all day for my clothes to dry so I’ll have to borrow some clothes for the day. She told me that my cousin stayed here often a keeps some spare clothes in the wardrobe and that I could choose some clothes to wear. After hearing this I was eager to look through her clothes and see what I was going to wear. I opened the draw to see a collection of girls clothing, from dresses to bras the lot was there! I took my time browsing through and trying on whatever clothes took my fancie. I new that I had to choose something to wear for the day around the house so I chose a cute summer dress with a matching cardigan and maryjanes. I came downstairs and was greeted by my grandma who complimented my outfit saying its my cousins favourate dress to wear in the sun. My sister saw me in the dress and asked why I was wearing it, and after explaining she went onto say that it suited me and it was a good choice,

This was a dream come true, not only could I wear girly clothing but I had the perfect excuse to go with it. Later in the day my gran wanted to go out shopping and didn’t want us to stay in home alone. Suddenly the tables had turned and I had to go out in public wearing a dress. I immediately told my gran who didn’t seem to mind and went onto say that I’ll be fine and that there’s nothing to be afraid of. Desperately trying to get out of this situation I went to my sister who came up with giving me a makeover. This was perfect, not only could I get a makeover but the problem quickly turned into heaven.

My sister brought me upstairs into her room where she sat me down and started going through her bags. She started brushing my shoulder length hair and put a cute little headband on me. She started applying makeup and gave me some rosey cheeks and a small amount of eyeshadow. And just to finish off she added lipgloss and a hint of mascara. After she finished she took me to the mirror and showed me her creation. I was soo happy, I looked into the mirror and saw a cute little girl ready to enjoy the day. She was very happy with her work and went on to say “you look cute as a girl, it’s a shame I dont have a sister.”

We went to the shops and nobody seemed to notice at all, as far as they were concerned I was a typical 13 year old girl with her gran and sister. My sister even called me Philippa so that my cover won’t be blown, this was awesome.

After the day was over I slid into my nightie and cuddled upto my pillow enjoying the best day of my life. The next day as I woke up there to greet me was my regular clothes and as I slid them on I new that my weekend was over.

My Journey In Loving Domination

How to be girlyI haven’t posted in a long time partly beacuse I have been working on how to explain the area of hynodomination and how I found I could do it.

I spent a long time wanting to hypnotize hubby. He did not admit to it but I could tell he has a total fetish for it. I wanted to do it but I felt like I didnt know how and would just embarrass myself. So I was afraid to do it for a long time. I realized that I could get close with just making “brainwashing” tapes for him. I made him teach me how to record things on my computer and make them into MP3s and I started making brainwashing recordings for him to listen to over and over. It turned me on and made him just about blow up just thinking about it. So I made recordings with things like this. I should post some of them here if I can figure out how.

Example brainwashing loop:

You belong to me.
You are my property.
I am your home.
I am your refuge.
You lose yourself in me.
You want to obey me all the time.
You want to please me all the time.
You can’t refuse me
You will do anything I say.
You will do anything for me.
You are getting more submissive to me every day.
Your cock is mine
Your ass is mine.
Your whole body is mine.

Then I make him listen to a loop like that over and over and aver.

At first I did it just because it was hot, but I soon realized that it totally works. I had him so suggestible with constant arousal, and made him listen to these so many times, that it really seemed like I was programming him.

This gave me confidence so I tried to hypnotize him. He said it worked but I felt like it had not been good and like he did not really go “under”. So I didnt do it again for a long time.

I was thinking that I should take a class or something, and I read a lot of stuff online. And one thing that I read totally changed everything. It said that studies show that you do not have to feel trancey or be all comatose for suggestions to be totally effective. It said that for therapy to be effective it was not necessary to be deep in hypnosis. Even a light trance makes someone suggestible, and deep trances do not seem to work any better in therapy than seemingly light ones.

So I hypnotized him again and I again felt like he was not under deeply. And he said so later too. But I gave him suggestions anyway, speaking with authority, and they totally totally worked better than I imagined.

I had his nose itch whenever I said “Motley Crue” and I gave him a craving for lemonade and I made him not want to eat donuts. He remembered everything in every session and did not feel like he had been under deeply, but it was all super effective. So then I gave him suggestions about going into trance when I told him “sleep now, bitch” and that it would get deeper and better and more effective every time.

It works so great that I am still amazed. I realized that I did not have to learn to hypnotize him super great. I just had to hypnotize him a little and command him to get super good at being hypnotized by me. It is fantastic.

I worried a lot that it was just hubby playing along, but it worked so great for major things that I was convinced. I tried this: I suggested that he would crave getting fucked with my strapon. Which he SO did not want to do. But I told him that it would make him harder than he had ever been. And it worked. He ached for it and begged me, and has never gone back.

I still make him the brainwashing recordings. I did one where I just told him twenty times “Whenever I say Sleep For Me Now Bitch you will go into the deepest fucking trance you ever have.” Now I make him listen to that recording twenty times a day which is four hundred doses a day, and now I can put him out anywhere at any time. And I never had to learn to be good at hypnotism. It is awesome.

Now I am trying to think of new things to program him with. Maybe I will make him want to lick my ass hole. I made it so he couldn’t eat french fries without getting sick. Maybe I will make it so he can’t eat ice cream without a bad headache. The more intense shit I think about doing to his brain the wetter I get. I am a bad girl.