How do you maintain it? How do you keep from experiencing what I have heard so many people say. “I love her, but I’m not in love with her”. Is it luck? Hard work? A choice?
I have watched many decide to divorce. To admit they have failed in maintaining love for someone they vowed to love. Forever. It feels awful. I know. I have done it myself.
I have also known many who remain married. For whatever reason. Financial. “The kids.” Habit. Maybe there is love there, but hardly anything about it feels fresh. Like the love was born today, not years ago.
I like to ask a question in therapy.
“Knowing all the things you know now, why would you marry your partner today? What would cause you to say “I do” all over again?”
If you don’t know the answer to that question, it’s pretty likely you are not happy in your marriage.
That’s not to say it’s hopeless.
1) Maybe you are hanging on to resentment.
Forgiveness is essential in a long-term relationship. I know I have both given it, and received it in my own.
Bitterness is something that kills not just a relationship, but the soul of the person who feels it
2) Maybe the two of you have ignored your relationship.
You have put the children or your job first. Always. This is such a common mistake. It’s easily justified. “I need to make money so we can send the kids to college.” “I am so busy getting the kids to all their activities, I don’t have time to do anything else.” “I am incredibly tired after working all day. “
Marriage can’t take a back seat. It will die a slow death. You have to give time to each other.
3) Maybe you are not happy with yourself.
This is hard to see. Especially if you become attracted to someone else. Then it really gets messy. And painful.
Affairs are frequently about believing that someone else holds the power to make your life what you have always thought it could be. Well guess what? You actually hold that power.
You have to confront in yourself what perhaps you don’t want to admit. It could very well be about you. You have issues from the past that are governing you. You are struggling with your own worth or insecurities. You aren’t who you thought you would be or you are struggling with getting older.
Perhaps it is your marriage but these things need to be considered carefully.
4) You don’t touch each other. Literally.
We all may watch a lot of sex in movies and on TV. But there are lots of folks who are too worn out from their daily lives to even hold one another. They forget that touching and making love are ways to connect and re-energize in a unique way. You can learn that again. It may be awkward but it’s possible.
Initially, it was new and exciting. Lust/love is what I call it. Now it may be more intentional.
5) Maybe you haven’t laughed in a long time. Together.
I have listened to many people struggle and fight. When they can, at the end of a session, laugh about something, I feel much more optimistic about whether or not they will make it. There’s something positive connecting them.
6) You don’t have anything you are striving for together.
This happens when people don’t talk. Don’t realize the importance of having a common goal. Whether it’s work in your community, in a church, in your own lives. That goal brings fresh excitement and a sense of purpose to a marriage.
What are the two of you about? What do you care about together? Important questions to answer.
7) You have not accepted the loss nor appreciated the gain.
If you have been together for a while, in all likelihood, you have had experiences that have “de-romanticized” your partner. To say the least. You have seen them really sick. Green at the gills. Or pouting. Or irritable. And they have hurt you. Or disappointed you. And you, them.
They have lost that rock-star quality they had at the beginning for sure.
You have been through life together.
Instead, there can exist a depth of feeling and experience that is irreplaceable. To be treasured.
But it can’t be new again. It simply can’t.
That has to realized. Accepted. And appreciated.
So what would cause you to marry your partner all over again? Even knowing what you know now? (Remember, they are answering the same question. ).
Perhaps you can find answers that surprise you. Even warm your heart.
Experts say it’s possible, but that doesn’t mean it’s a good idea.
Ending a relationship usually isn’t easy. You might have doubts about whether or not it’s the right thing to do if you’re the one ending things, and if you’re the one being broken up with, you might feel blindsided. There are a lot of emotions that go along with a breakup, and they’re all totally valid. But once your partner becomes an ex, do those feelings you used to have for them just suddenly disappear? And if years pass, can you fall back in love with someone after youвЂ™ve spent time with other people?
According to experts, it’s totally possible to fall back in love with someone you used to date, and the reason why makes sense. “Once you love someone, unless your respect for them is destroyed, you can always love them again,” Susan Trombetti, matchmaker and CEO of Exclusive Matchmaking, tells Elite Daily. “This is the person that knows your hopes, dreams, and secrets. You had a bond that is easy to reestablish. Why do you think some people are always threatened by their partner’s ex? You have got a hold on them and vice-versa.”
It’s hard to move on from an ex when they were such a big part of your life, and some experts think that вЂ” rather than falling back in love with an ex вЂ” some people never stop loving their ex at all.
ItвЂ™s possible you ex once had вЂ” or still has вЂ” a piece of your heart from when you were together. This isn’t to say that you aren’t complete without each other, but if it was a loving relationship, there may always be a part of them with you and vice-versa. “You don’t fall back in love with an ex,” Heather Kristian Strang, spiritual guide and matchmaker, tells Elite Daily. “The love was always there, the question now is вЂ” is there more work to do together? Is there more joy to have together? Is there more that you two are to create together? Or, is it complete? Have you both grown together as fully as you can?”
With so many questions to ask yourself, itвЂ™s obviously a confusing process. ThatвЂ™s why for some, getting back together with an ex may not be worth all the stress and hassle it requires. Some people might just enjoy having a blank slate and a fresh start with someone new. Besides, if your relationship was tumultuous and you ended on not-so-great terms, allowing yourself to fall for an ex might not be the best idea.
вЂњItвЂ™s OK to fall back in love with your ex if things change,” Trombetti says, though she notes it’s also important to remember that “you broke things off for a reason. Don’t let your emotions take over and wind up back where you were pre-breakup the first time. If someone is willing to fix the things that were wrong, if they are fixable, then it’s safe to give it another try. If it’s a fatal flaw though, like compulsive lying, cheating, or abuse, then that’s always a no-go. Don’t ever go back or look back.“
Another good question to ask yourself is, вЂњDo I really miss my ex? Or am I just lonely?вЂќ As clinical psychologist Dr. Joshua Klapow previously told Elite Daily, вЂњIf your distress is focused on not doing the things you did together, not having the certainty of a mate, not having someone to talk to, but at the same time you can envision yourself with all those things [on your own or with a different partner] and not your ex, you know that you are missing the relationship more than the person themselves.вЂќ If youвЂ™re just feeling lonely, try to consider why, and think of some things you can do to occupy your time and energy, like making a dinner date with a friend, or exploring a new store or coffee shop in your neighborhood.
While this might be easier said than done, Trombetti also has some great tips for how to avoid falling back into the arms of an ex. “Create space and break off communication so you can move on,” she says. “As a matchmaker, this is the number one thing that holds people back from finding the right one,” Trombetti explains. “I always say, ‘Everyone is hung up on someone, whether it’s real or in their head.’ Don’t be hung up on your ex comparing everyone to him because you have feelings of love being stoked on a regular basis by your ex.” ItвЂ™s not your fault if youвЂ™re still in love with an ex, but there are ways to help curb your impulses.
If you know your ex isn’t the one for you, the best course of action is probably to avoid getting back together and try your very best to move on. But if your relationship was a healthy, happy, and stable one, and you ended it for reasons that now seem like part of the past, then there’s no harm in trying again.
Susan Trombetti, matchmaker and CEO of Exclusive Matchmaking
Editor’s Note: This story has been updated by Elite Daily Staff.
This article was originally published on 11.29.18
Before you bail out, tips for reviving the relationship you already have.
Posted November 3, 2015
Is it possible to fall back in love with a mate who has become unexciting? It’s a question I am asked with some frequency, and the answer I usually give is, “It could be.”
When longtime partners succumb to the humdrum (you know, the feeling that “there’s no magic anymore”), they sometimes wind up in the office of a marriage counselor looking for a fix. I’m sorry to tell those hoping for instant gratification that if there is to be a fix, it must come from inside the person who is asking, and it may involve some effort.
The complaint is often, “He (or she) is no longer the person I fell in love with.”
“And are you the same person who originally fell in love?” I ask in return.
Over time, every one of us grows and changes. Some people grow together, while others grow apart as time and circumstances vary. It is a common romantic belief that continuing to love the one we once fell in love with just happens—and for some lucky ones, it does. However, most people find that any good relationship requires effort and attention.
If the issue of no longer being attracted to each other arises for those who have been dating for a while, an easy solution is to end it gracefully and look around for others to date. Some relationships simply have a shelf life. When it’s over, it’s over. No harm, no foul.
In the case of more committed couples, I think it is important to remain erotically connected to some degree. But no longer feeling attracted to a partner is the crux of most people’s complaints: “She (or he) is a nice person but…”
I was struck by this quote from Dr. Anna Stubblefield:
“If somebody has an interesting, engaging mind and a good heart and a beautiful soul, that is transformative. It shows through and you love the person. And so you love being close to them, and you love the body that they’re in, because that’s the body that they have.”
I feel that most of us need to work on the relationship we have—to consciously accept the new body shape our aging mate acquires, to ignore daily irritations, or not to sigh in resignation when our partner tells that same story one more time. What counterbalances those annoyances, but which may take an effort, is a daily appreciation of who and what this person him or herself is—her genuine love of people, his gentleness. In other words, their attractive qualities.
Set aside old resentments for a moment and take a good look at your mate: If you were meeting for the first time and were thrust together on a blind date or in a close working relationship, how would you evaluate this person? What are the strong points, the attractive features? Often, naming them can spark something of the old attraction and make it possible to build from there.
Remember what attracted you to your mate—physically or otherwise. What traits, what characteristics? Are some of those not still there in some form—intelligence, sense of humor? Focus on them. Notice that her smile is still intact, or his well-shaped legs, although you may not have really looked at them in some time. Remember the warm feelings you had when you first discovered them, and focus on recapturing that sensation.
Another good exercise to revive feelings of love and attraction is to act “as if.” No matter how flat the old excitement has become, begin the flirtation and courting actions which happened naturally in the past. Paying compliments to someone you really haven’t looked at in a while or bringing small gifts, hanging out together a bit more, or offering invitations of any kind, will probably get some surprising reactions—and often, quite pleasant surprises. Try doing something new together—like dancing lessons or learning a new language. Sharing any new endeavor creates and ignites a sense of bonding.
Briefly then, what’s necessary is to discover this person anew and uncover your original feelings of why you were attracted in the first place. As you do, some of the humdrum may fade in the process. I hope it does. Falling in love, even into “like,” is a delightful feeling, all the more so if it’s with your own mate.
If you’ve ever been in love, you know the inexplicable feeling of excitement and joy that comes with it. It’s thrilling, even if it doesn’t last forever. As Alfred Lord Tennyson once said, “It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” But if love is so powerful, then can people fall back in love after falling out of it? According to one expert, it’s possible, but it’s a little bit more complicated than just “falling” in and out.
“It is natural for relationships to shift in intensity and connection,” relationship and wellness coach Shula Melamed tells Elite Daily. “Sometimes the feeling of ‘falling out of love’ could be a byproduct of the people in the relationship not taking the time, care or effort to maintain the overall health of the relationship.” So, “when people ‘fall back in love’ they are choosing to go back in and recognize ‘love’ is a verb, an active process of making decisions to co-create the experience,” Melamed explains. It’s all about the choice you make to work on your relationship, if that’s what you want.
If you and your significant other ended your relationship, that doesn’t necessarily mean you’re never going to get back together or that the feelings you have for each other just disappear. That love can “come back,” but maybe that’s because it never really left, and you’ve been able to come to a mutual understanding of what needs to happen for you both to make it work. “Usually when people fall back in love there are a series of events, considerations, or shifts in their relationship that need to be considered,” Melamed says. A lot might have changed since you were first together, and hopefully, you’ve both grown significantly as individuals. There might not be as many fun, fluttery butterflies the second time around, but there will be a deeper meaning to your connection, Melamed continues.
“The love you find yourself falling into will likely be different and perhaps be a richer experience given what you have gone through to reconnect,” she says. “You know what it is like to lose the love so, you may build better habits around connecting and maintaining love.” Honestly, falling back in love sounds pretty magical. It means you and your partner have spent time apart, evolved, and made the choice to come back together and try again.
“Once you love someone, unless your respect for them is destroyed, you can always love them again,” Susan Trombetti, matchmaker and CEO of Exclusive Matchmaking, previously told Elite Daily. “This is the person who knows your hopes, dreams, and secrets. You had a bond that is easy to reestablish. Why do you think some people are always threatened by their partner’s ex? You’ve got a hold on them and vice-versa.”
Falling back in love isn’t impossible when you’ve had time to reflect and you’re both on the same page. As the experts say, you just have to be willing to work for it. Remember: Love is a verb, so don’t be afraid to go on and get yours.
There are no sure shot measures but surely there are a few ways that can help you to love the same person all over again with more intensity.
They say that love happens only once. Yes, indeed it is true, love happens only once but it can happen again and again with the same person. As odd as it may sound, I loved a guy twice. I was in a relationship with a guy for three years. We were happy together but after we celebrated our three years anniversary, things started fading. Yes, the love started fading. There was a time when we would spend entire night talking to each other on phone, we would meet every weekend, there was not a single morning or not a single night without a good morning and goodnight text. Nothing could be better and then suddenly things started changing. We sort of started drifting apart from each other for no apparent reason. Calls now were less frequent; we met once or twice in a month now, good morning and good night texts were still there but the most important thing that was missing was the love.
I could feel it and maybe he also felt the void that was becoming bigger and bigger with each passing day and none of us was doing anything to fill it. And then one day, I called him to have a talk, to basically clear things out. Now, I did not even realize and the conversation took turn where two of us agreed for a mutual break up. Now, we officially broke up.
The relationship that once looked very provisioning was not even there anymore. Of course, I was devastated and I had no idea about him. Days passed, I did not hear from him. It was tough for me to get over him but I could feel that his absence was bearable now and I was coming back to my normal self.
But looks like destiny has upper hand, one day while shopping for my regular grocery, someone took my attention and the world just stopped for me right there. , The man I once used to love was standing right in front of me; and to my surprise I could feel the same emotions in his eyes. He too looked happy yet sad to see me there. We did not walk away but walked closer. He smiled widely at me and I could not help myself but smile like an idiot to see him there.
We talked. After a few minutes, we left the store together. It all felt real and surprisingly new. I left with a smile. That night I thought of texting him, but was surprised to see his text. We started talking on text, we met and today after three months we are getting married. I fell in love with the same person again. Falling in love with the same person sounds strange but it is real. So, how do people fall in love with the same person again and again? There are no sure shot measures but surely there are a few ways that can help you to love the same person all over again with more intensity.
Here are the mantras of falling back in love with the same person again.
Take some time in solitude
Although, you love each other but sometimes to realize the value of other person, you have to back out, you have to go separate ways. If you think that the relationship lacks the love or affection that it once had, talk and if talking doesn’t help, just spend a few days away from each other. A few days or months away from each other will make you realize the value of the person that you have in your life.
Be clingier but in a good way. The major reasons why people fall out of love is too much space. Of course your partner should give you an apt amount of space but that space should not become a void. Your partner must never feel unwanted or unloved at any point of time. When you think or your partner complains that you are not giving them enough time or attention, start giving them the attention that they desire and deserve.
Touch more often
The problem with couple in long term relationship is that they touch less. Yes, couples in long term relationship don’t touch or don’t play with each other’s body. Now, if sex is important, being playfully intimate is equally important or may be more.
You don’t need mobile phones when you are together
One thing that couples need to understand that no matter how good understanding they might have with each other, too much interference of it will always ruin their personal time and instead they must give each other undivided attention.
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You can only love another person when you love yourself.
Do a quick search for “how to fall in love” on the internet, and you’ll find thousands of articles chock-full of advice. There are tips for where to look, how to flirt, and what to wear. There are tricks on how to text and ways to be irresistible to the object of your affection. But, to be blunt, those articles won’t get you anywhere when it comes to finding love. The truth of the matter is that there is no road map to falling in love. Annoying, we know.
Part of that is because falling in love typically has very little to do with another person and more to do, of course, with you. “I talk a lot about radiating love from the inside out,” Nicole Ward, a licensed marriage and family therapist, tells Woman’s Day. “Falling in love is all about being in touch with who you are and being gentle with yourself.” It’s easy to forget that love looks and feels different at different stages of your life, according to Ward. So what worked for you in your teen years may not work for you in your 30s — and that’s OK.
The good thing about getting in touch with yourself is that it doesn’t just open you up to love from another person. It opens you up to self-love, too. And someone who accepts themselves for who they are is someone who is open to accepting love into their own lives, according to Ward.
But if you need some help digging deep, here are Wards tips for checking in with yourself so that you’re ready to receive love.
Figure Out Who You Are As A Partner
“A lot of the emphasis can be [put] on who you want your partner to be,” Ward says. “But you should also be asking yourself what kind of partner you want to be, because that will help you envision your perfect partner more clearly.” This can be as big or as small as you’d like. If, for example, you love to travel (or you’re feeling more open to traveling) and want your partner to come along, then your next partner should definitely be someone who has an up-to-date passport. If you’re someone who wants to spend time with your family, then you should prioritize a partner who is also family-oriented.
Ward says that the best way to work some of these things out is to journal. “It helps you check in, and to also see how your feelings evolve over time,” she says.
Look To The Things That Help You Cultivate Joy
One thing a lot of people get wrong in their hunt for love is that they look for a partner who can erase all of their issues and take care of them. But, according to Ward, it’s important to figure out how to make yourself happy first. “Think about things you like doing to cultivate joy in your life and love for yourself,” she says.
Being able to do things that make you happy on your own is important. It shows that you’re not relying on a partner to make you happy, which can be the kiss of death in a relationship. “It gives you an emotional awareness,” Ward says. “That’s an important foundation for a relationship.”
Stop Looking For Wholeness Outside Of Yourself
The whole idea of two people completing one another? Total hogwash, according to Ward.
“You want to be whole and find another whole person and come together as a super duo — or trio, or quad,” she says.
Looking for wholeness in another person means that you’re entering a relationship at a loss, which is not how you want things to kick off. “If you’ve found all of yourself in that person, it will feel much deeper than it needs to if the situation doesn’t work out,” Ward says. But she is quick to point out that there is a difference between feeling complete and feeling at home with a partner.
“If you feel comfortable, and like that person fits into your life, that’s great,” she says. “But you’ve got to remember that you’re a full person with or without this person — no matter how much you may love them.”
Sometimes, a person right in front of you may be in love with you, but you don’t realize it. Perhaps you’re friends who hang out a lot and you even tell others that nothing’s going on — you’re “just friends.” However, little do you know that the person is harboring secret feelings for you .
Or maybe you are dating, but get mixed signals from them — though they’re not saying “I love you,” they are showing you through their subtle actions. Yes, they rescued you when you got stranded in the middle of the freeway when you ran out of gas, but isn’t that what friends do?
To get the scoop, Business Insider spoke to two relationship experts, including Dr. Suzana E. Flores , clinical psychologist and author of “ Facehooked: How Facebook Affects Our Emotions, Relationships, and Lives .” “While there is no guaranteed way to know if a person is truly in love with you , there are a few signs someone can show to reveal how they really feel,” Dr. Flores told Business Insider.
1. They have fun with you even if the task at hand is not fun, per se
The saying, “It’s not what you do, but who you’re with” is popular for a reason — because it’s true. Pay attention to the person who’s always there for you, even when the task at hand is not outwardly a fun one, like helping you move. “A sign someone may be in love with you includes their ability to have fun with you even during mundane tasks,” Dr. Flores said. “If they are happy to see you, no matter what the two of you are doing, it may be love.”
Kailen Rosenberg, elite matchmaker and founder of The Lodge Social Club , a dating application with a three-step vetting process that launched earlier this month, agrees. “The person will often go the ‘extra mile’ to help you with something — a project, a need, an errand, etc.,” she told Business Insider. “Bottom line, they want to be near you, thought of by you, and assist you.”
2. They look at you . a lot
The next time you’re with the person in question, note how often they look at you. Harvard psychologist Zick Rubin found a correlation between eye contact and love. In his study, couples deeply in love look at one another 75% of the time while talking, while people engaged in conversation only look at each other about 30-60% of the time.
“When someone is in love with you, they will stare at your eyes more directly and for a longer period of time; they want to be completely present with you,” Dr. Flores said. “This is why it’s so important to interact with a love interest in person versus just through digital connection — we need to connect emotionally through eye contact.”
3. They pay more attention to you
Everyone is busy, right? But people also make time for things — and others — that are important to them. “Someone may be in love when they begin to focus a lot of their attention on you, especially in one-on-one settings,” Dr. Flores said. Rosenberg agrees. “They’re just like the boy on the playground who used to pull your hair or tease you when you were a kid,” she said.
4. They show empathy — in good times and bad
When someone is not only sympathetic when something happens to you, but also empathetic, it may be another sign that they are in love with you . In other words, your happiness is their happiness, and your pain is their pain.
“Someone in love will care about your feelings and your well-being,” Dr. Flores said. “If he or she is able to show empathy or is upset when you are, not only do they have your back, but they also probably have strong feelings for you.”
5. They remember the little things
When it comes to reading signs to see if someone loves you, pay attention to the little things — because they’ll do them. You two may go to the movies and they’ll mix your popcorn with Raisinettes because you once mentioned you liked that salty and sweet combination.
“Someone in love will remember your birthday, your favorite color, and favorite meal, so the little things they remember and do for you are also meaningful,” Dr. Flores said.
6. They introduce you to the important people in their lives
The more people they introduce you to, especially those important to them, such as their family and best friends, the more likely it is they want to be closer to you emotionally.
“They’ll also go out of their way to connect you with their own friends and connections to help make your life or work easier,” Rosenberg said.
7. They often mention the future
How does the person act when it comes to talking about the future? Do they talk in more “we” language or “me” language? After all, you don’t talk about upcoming and faraway events with just anybody, unless you definitely want them in your life and by your side.
“Notice how the person behaves around you,” Dr. Flores said. “If they suddenly start speaking about a possible future with you, it’s a sign that they are falling in love or are already in love with you.”
Love has a multitude of facets, like emotional and physical attraction, compatibility, affection, and commitment.
So when a man says he may be falling out of love, it’s often the case that affection, commitment, and compatibility are still there; but where he’s feeling a difference is in his attraction to you.
How can you make him fall in love with you again?
We all remember the beginning of our relationships — the butterflies, the unbearable time spent apart, the willingness to surprise each other with unexpected gifts, spontaneous outings, and secret plans. All of these things contributed to his initial emotional and physical attraction to you.
When the mundane creeps in, your potential partner, boyfriend, or husband might begin feeling that something has changed or something is off between the two of you.
So how do you fix this problem in your relationship and make a man fall back in love with you?
Here are three ways to make him fall in love with you again.
1. Give him space.
It’s really important for both of you to get some space from each other and spend time on yourselves. Not only will you feel better about yourself by redirecting your long-term relationship energy, but you will also reconnect with friends, pick up old hobbies, and regain that energy you had at the beginning of the relationship.
Even if you’re stuck in the same home most of the time, you can carve out separate time to focus on your own thing in a different room, or by getting outside for a bit. Doing this will also give you both a chance to miss each other badly and realize just how important the other really is.
Once you’ve both had a bit of space and a chance to recharge your batteries, you’ll value the other more and inject some of that honeymoon phase excitement and spontaneity back into your partnership.
2. Try something new together.
If you feel the spark has fizzled, there’s nothing like a little unpredictability to get the heart racing.
Life and laziness sometimes get in the way of trying something new or taking a risk, but that’s the very thing to heat up the romance department and bring back the love. Doing something for the first time together will easily bring you closer and help you remember the trust and affection you have for each other.
Try new things in the bedroom. Explore your local sex shop and pick something out of the norm to try together. You can even try purchasing a Kama sutra book and go through it together.
Be playful or dominating (if that’s new for you) or switch things up and see how you both react; this will not only spice up your sex life, but can be a confidence-booster. Confidence is incredibly attractive, so why not take the lead and plan an activity neither of you has ever tried before?
Of course, you aren’t strictly limited to bedroom play; you can try new things outside of your home. Go ziplining, hike up a mountain, take a road trip, or start a new hobby together like biking or painting.
The point is to do something exciting together to bring back memories and remember how you felt back then.
Another way to try something new is by adding a little spontaneity. Plan a surprise date after work that he will love. Surprises, in general, are a great way to throw your man off and out of the same routine. Give him something he will never expect.
One of the great ways to rev the engine is for you both to get excited about something, and that’s why trying new things is such a great idea. You already know your man has been both physically and emotionally attracted to you before, so, rest assured, you already have all the ingredients at your disposal.
To attain the same level of closeness you once shared, all you need to do is take a trip down memory lane and revisit some of the great experiences you had together when you started dating, and create fresh new opportunities to keep you both invigorated and enthusiastic about your time together.
This will help him to fall deeply in love with you again.
3. Open yourself up to vulnerability.
When it comes to exploring and talking about emotions, some men can be about as responsive as a brick wall. However, once you involve emotions — more importantly, his emotions — the love will start to return.
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A great way to make him fall in love with you again is by demonstrating his importance to you by bringing out his emotional side and helping him understand why you need him.
Sentences such as “It feels good when you. ” or, “You make me feel safe when you. ” or even just a simple, “I feel so happy because you. ” signal his importance to you. Make sure you incorporate his name as you express yourself. This shows care and attention.
Men are often factual, logical beings governed by their more basic needs. Surrendering some of your power, and detailing the reasons you need him and how he makes you feel, will help him realize the emotional bond you have, and will encourage him to live up to the image you have of him.
It will also make him feel good knowing that he’s needed, like he’s your own personal superhero! After you do this, make sure you also listen to his side, how he’s feeling, and what he needs.
Making a man fall in love with you again is easier than you think.
It’s all about being natural, free, fun, and open. Men love a happy woman who is about to open her heart. Opening your heart encourages him to do the same.
When there is mutual respect and compatibility, finding that emotional connection again is definitely possible.